Dangantaka 8 Yana Duba Duk Ma'aurata Yakamata suyi Don Rayuwar Soyayyar Lafiya

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• Ɗauki Zazzaɓin Hankalin ku
• Tambayi Abin da kuke Bukata
• Yi Nishadi Tare
• Haɗa ta jiki
• Ku ciyar Lokaci Tare
• Ku ciyar Lokaci Baya
• Gwada Wani Sabon
• Godiya Ga Juna
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Shin kun taɓa yin magana da saurayinku, ko ma kawai ku tsaya a gabansa, kuma kuna da wannan jin haushi cewa wani abu ya ɗan yi kaɗan kashe? Kira shi azanci na shida ko rashin fahimta, amma wani lokacin kuna san lokacin da jirgin ya fara gudu daga waƙoƙin. Ellen Bradley-Windell, mai ilimin hanyoyin kwantar da hankali na LA ya ce "Ba a yawan samun fitilun gargadin ja don fada mana lokacin da wani abu ke bukatar kulawa." "[Muna buƙatar] rungumi ra'ayin ƙirƙirar ingantaccen tsarin kulawa don alaƙa."

Ya rage naku don auna lafiyar dangantakar ku lokaci-lokaci. Da wannan a zuciya, a nan akwai wasu abubuwan dubawa da yakamata ku yi a duk lokacin da hankali na shida ke tashi.

Ɗauki Zazzaɓin Hankalin ku

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Windell ya ce tambaya mafi mahimmanci a cikin dangantaka ita ce mafi sauƙi: Yaya muke yi? "Kowane lokaci, ku ɗauki 'zazzabi na motsin rai' na dangantakarku. Tambayi juna, 'Shin kuna jin kamar muna ɗaukar juna a matsayin abokai mafi kyau?' 'Muna mutunta juna?' Za mu iya sadarwa a fili? '"Ta ce batutuwan tattaunawa suna taimakawa a cikin ɗakin kwanciya ma.

Tambayi Abin da kuke Bukata

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Carin Goldstein mai maganin aure da dangantaka ya ce ma'aurata da yawa suna kawo korafe -korafe kan teburin maimakon umarni. "Sosai, sau da yawa, zan sa mata su ce, 'Ba ku kula da ni sosai ba!' Maza suna da ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun abubuwa, don haka koyaushe ina gaya musu: 'Kuna bukatar ku gaya masa yadda abin yake.'" Shin yana bukatar ya ƙara riƙe hannunku a cikin jama'a? Tambayi ƙarin tambayoyi game da ranar ku? Maza suna nufin farantawa, kuma suna son sa lokacin da kuka ba su taswirar nasara.

Yi Nishadi Tare

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Duk da yake ba zai iya maimaita farkon kwanakin yin soyayya daidai ba, yin aure biyu ba yana nufin yanke hukunci na tsawon rai na wawa da wajibai ba. "Abubuwa na iya zama lafiya a yau, amma yanayin dangantakarku na iya buƙatar sake farfadowa," in ji Windell. "Timeauki lokaci don tunatar da juna game da kyawawan abubuwan tunawa da kuka raba tare. Tambayi juna, 'Shin muna amfani da ƙarshen mako tare ne kawai don kula da kasuwanci, ko kuwa muna keɓe lokaci don yin nishaɗi da dariya da wauta?'" gaya wa waɗancan wawaye cikin barkwanci waɗanda saurayinku ne kawai zai samu, kuma ya fitar da lokacin inganci. Windell ya ce "Ku tabbata kun kiyaye farin ciki da dariya a cikin dangantakarku, domin hakan zai karfafa dankon zumuncin da ku biyun suka cancanta."

Haɗa ta jiki

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Goldstein ya ce daya daga cikin abubuwan da ke faruwa a cikin dangantaka shine mantawa da kula da haɗin jiki. Bari mu fuskanta: Yana ɗaya daga cikin abubuwan farko da za ku tafi lokacin da kuke aiki sosai. "Ba na cewa, 'Kana buƙatar kula da mutuminka,' ko wani abu makamancin haka," in ji ta. "Amma wani abu ne da ya kamata a sani-ba tare da tuntuɓar jiki ba, zai iya yin bacin rai. Maza suna da dangantaka mafi kyau a cikin motsin rai lokacin da suke da alaƙa da wasu mahimmanci na jiki." Goldstein ya ce idan ya kasance makonni biyu kuma kun ji ɗan saurayinku yana ɗan ɗanɗano, galibi kuna iya haɗa biyu-da-biyu tare-kuma yana da sauƙin gyara. (Jin rashin ƙarfi a cikin ɗakin kwana? Gwada ɗayan Hanyoyi 9 don Yin Jima'i da Dangantakarku.)

Ku ciyar Lokaci Tare

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Musamman ma a lokacin da ma'aurata ke cikin tsaka-tsakin yanayi, ko kuma mutum yana yin balaguro da yawa, Goldstein ya ce yana da mahimmanci a duba "daidaicin gumi". "Idan mutum ɗaya yana ɗaukar nauyi fiye da haka a gida, zai iya zama mai ƙarfi tsakanin ma'aurata," in ji ta, yana mai cewa mata musamman na iya zama masu ɗan fushi. Yawancin lokaci, gyara shine kawai samun abokin tarayya don fahimtar rayuwa daga na ku takalma. "Dukkanmu muna son a gan mu mu ji," in ji Goldstein. Har ila yau, ta ce wannan ya zo ne don zama takamaiman. Faɗa masa rashinsa yana jin an cire ku, kuma kuna buƙatar ƙarin kiran waya ko kwanan wata-kuma yana iya yin waya yana tambayar ranar ku a ofis, ko kuma ya tafi aiki yana tsara daren Juma'a mai zuwa.

Ku ciyar Lokaci Baya

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Wani lokaci, ma'aurata na iya samun kuma kusa, yana haifar da ɗaya ko duka ɓangarorin biyu su ji kumbure-kumbure da nit-picky. Sarari yana da mahimmanci musamman ga maza, waɗanda ke da waya don haɗawa - sannan su fita na ɗan lokaci don kwato 'yancin kansu. "Hakanan maza ke farfadowa," in ji Goldstein. "Suna buƙatar shiga cikin kogon duhu, kuma su dawo-amma mata galibi suna tunanin, 'A'a, baya ƙaunata.'" Ba haka bane. Idan kun ji kanku kuna samun ɗan antsy da fushi da juna, lokaci ya yi da jadawalin lafiya, 'yan mata da maza' dare. Goldstein ya ce "Lokaci guda kawai shine matsala shine lokacin da ya zama al'ada." "Lokacin da ya zama 'mafita' ga kowace matsala, maimakon lokaci don sake dawo da dangantaka daga wuri mafi kyau." Idan kawai hanya ce ta lokaci -lokaci don kiyaye kwanciyar hankali? Duk mai kyau!

Gwada Wani Sabon

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Ruts. A cikin dangantakar da aka kafa, yana da sauƙi don samun tsarin yau da kullum; ba za ku iya tuna hutunku na ƙarshe ba, kowane daren Juma'a yana ɗaukar hoto/fim/bacci, kuma kuna ƙara sanin ɗabi'un SO. "Ku yi ƙoƙari don gwada sabon abu tare," in ji Windell. "Ku shiga dakin motsa jiki da motsa jiki tare, ku koyi sabon wasanni tare, gwada sabon gidan cin abinci sau ɗaya a wata, ku bi da bi da shirya 'kwanakin asiri' daga farko zuwa ƙarshe - kuna samun ra'ayin." Tsofaffin ɗabi'u, wurare, da hanyoyin da suka kasance da daɗi da ban sha'awa na iya ɗaukar juyi zuwa ban sha'awa, haifar da alaƙar ku ta yi tsayin daka. Koyaushe kuyi aiki don haɗa shi, in ji Windell. (Bugu da ƙari, wow mutumin ku a daren kwanan wata tare da 7 Beauty Tweaks Guys Love.)

Godiya Ga Juna

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Tsayar da soyayyar ku akan hanya wani abu ne da ke buƙatar faruwa yau da kullun, don haka ba dole ba ne ku sake dawowa daga yanayin rashin gamsuwa na dangantaka. Ta yaya, daidai? Ku zo da halin godiya da bayarwa-na baki da na baki. Windell ya ce "Ma'aurata masu ƙauna suna bunƙasa yayin da alaƙar ta dogara kan ɗimbin yawa. Maimakon koyaushe ku nemi ƙarin, yi ƙoƙarin bayar da ƙarin ba tare da wani sharadi ba," in ji Windell. "Ku kasance da ma'ana ku gode wa juna a kowace rana don wani abu mai ma'ana a gare ku, bincike ya nuna cewa za mu iya canza sinadarai a cikin kwakwalwarmu don zaɓar farin ciki a cikin kwanaki 21 - wannan shine godiya, samun lokuta masu ma'ana. , murmushi, rubuta bayanan soyayya da kyakkyawan tunani. " Ko murmushi ko sumbata na iya nuna masa yadda yake nufi...haka ma kananan abubuwa. A halin yanzu. Yau.

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