Me yasa muke Bukatar Yin Magana Game da Tsoronmu Na Mutuwa

Wadatacce

• “Rayuwa ta tambayi Mutuwa,‘ Me ya sa mutane suke ƙaunata amma suka ƙi ku? ’Mutuwa ta amsa,‘ Domin ku ƙarya ce kyakkyawa kuma ni gaskiya ce mai raɗaɗi. ’” - Ba a san Marubucin ba
• Bari muyi magana game da mutuwa akan kofi
• Menene tarihin mutuwa, ko "giwa a cikin ɗaki"?
• Yadda ake kawo hirar mutuwa gida

Mun haɗa da kayayyakin da muke tsammanin suna da amfani ga masu karatu. Idan ka siya ta hanyoyin yanar gizo a wannan shafin, zamu iya samun ƙaramin kwamiti. Ga tsarinmu.

“Rayuwa ta tambayi Mutuwa,‘ Me ya sa mutane suke ƙaunata amma suka ƙi ku? ’Mutuwa ta amsa,‘ Domin ku ƙarya ce kyakkyawa kuma ni gaskiya ce mai raɗaɗi. ’” - Ba a san Marubucin ba

Yawancin mutane ba sa son yin tunani ko magana game da mutuwa. Kodayake ba makawa cewa kowane ɗayanmu zai mutu, tsoro, damuwa, da tsoro har yanzu suna kewaye da mutuwa - har ma da kalmar ita kaɗai. Muna ƙoƙari mu guji yin tunani game da shi. Amma a yin haka, hakika muna shafar lafiyarmu ta hankali da lafiyarmu fiye da yadda muka sani.

Akwai ma wani lokaci a gare shi: tashin hankali na mutuwa. Wannan jumlar tana bayyana damuwar da mutane ke fuskanta lokacin da suka fahimci mutuwa.

"Wannan ra'ayin," in ji Lisa Iverach, PhD, babbar jami'ar bincike a Jami'ar Sydney, "ya dogara ne da shaidar cewa mutuwa alama ce mai mahimmanci a duk faɗin rikice-rikice masu nasaba da damuwa."

Tashin hankali na mutuwa na iya zama daidai na al'ada. Tsoron abin da ba a sani ba da abin da ke faruwa daga baya shi ne damuwar da ta dace. Amma idan ya fara tsangwama game da yadda kuke rayuwar ku, zai zama matsala. Kuma ga mutanen da ba su sami hanyoyin da suka dace na jurewa ba, yana yiwuwa ga duk wannan damuwar ta haifar da ciwon hankali da damuwa.

Iverach ya gabatar da wasu aran yanayin wanda tsoron mutuwa yana tasiri lafiyar rayuwa. Kuna iya gane wasu:

• Rabuwar tashin hankali a cikin yara galibi yana ƙunshe da tsoron wuce gona da iri na rasa mutane masu mahimmanci a gare su, kamar iyayensu, ta hanyar haɗari ko mutuwa.
• Masu duba masu tilastawa akai-akai suna duba maɓallan wuta, murhu, da makullai a yunƙurin hana cutarwa ko mutuwa.
• Masu wankan hannu masu tilastawa galibi suna tsoron kamuwa da cututtukan da ke barazanar rayuwa.
• Tsoron mutuwa daga bugun zuciya galibi shine dalilin yawan ziyarar likita ga waɗanda ke da cuta mai firgita.
• Mutanen da ke fama da cututtukan cututtuka suna shiga buƙatun akai-akai don gwajin likita da sikanin jiki don gano rashin lafiya mai tsanani ko ta ƙarshe.
• Takamaiman phobias sun haɗa da tsoron wuce gona da iri, gizo-gizo, macizai, da jini, duk waɗannan suna da alaƙa da mutuwa.

“Mutuwa ba abune da muke yawan magana akai ba. Wataƙila dukkanmu muna buƙatar samun kwanciyar hankali don tattauna wannan batun na taboo. Bai kamata giwa a cikin daki ba, "tana tuna Iverach.

Bari muyi magana game da mutuwa akan kofi

Magana game da mutuwa aikin Karen Van Dyke ne. Baya ga kasancewa ƙwararren mai ba da shawara na ƙarshen rayuwa da ke aiki tare da dattawa a cikin taimakon rayuwar rayuwa da kuma kula da ƙwaƙwalwar ajiya, Van Dyke ya ɗauki nauyin San Diego na farko Cafe Cafe a cikin 2013. Cafe Cafes suna aiki ne kamar abokantaka, maraba, da kuma yanayi mai kyau ga waɗanda suke yi magana a fili game da mutuwa. Yawancinsu suna cikin ainihin shagunan ko gidajen cin abinci inda mutane ke ci da sha tare.

Van Dyke ya ce: "Manufar Cafes Cafes 'shine sauƙaƙa nauyin sirrin abin da kwarewarku ta kasance ko a'a." "Tabbas na yi rayuwa daban a yanzu, a halin yanzu, kuma na fi dacewa game da inda nake so in sanya ƙarfina, kuma wannan haɗin kai tsaye ne game da iya magana game da mutuwa tare da 'yanci."

Wannan furucin na mutuwa yafi lafiya fiye da sauran halaye da halaye da muke iya ɗauka domin gujewa mutuwa. Kallon talabijin, shan giya, shan sigari, da sayayya… yaya idan waɗannan abubuwa ne masu raba hankali da halaye da zamu shiga don kaucewa tunanin mutuwa? A cewar Sheldon Solomon, farfesan ilimin halayyar dan adam a kwalejin Skidmore da ke Saratoga Springs, New York, yin amfani da wadannan dabi’un a matsayin masu dauke hankali ba wata aba ce ta kasashen waje ba.

"Saboda mutuwa magana ce da yawancin mutane ba sa so, nan da nan muke kokarin kawar da ita daga kanmu ta hanyar yin abubuwa don dauke hankalinmu," in ji Solomon. Bincikensa ya nuna cewa tsoron mutuwa na iya saita halayen, halaye, da halayen da suke da kyau.

Don magance waɗannan halayen, samun kyakkyawar hanya da hangen nesa na iya zama farawa.

Kafafen mutuwa sun yadu a duk duniya. Jon Underwood da Sue Barsky Reid sun kafa Cafes Cafes a Landan a cikin 2011 tare da manufar yin tattaunawa game da mutuwa ba mai wahala ba ta hanyar gabatar da su a cikin yanayin zamantakewar jama'a. A cikin 2012, Lizzy Miles ta kawo Cafe na farko a Amurka zuwa Columbus, Ohio.

A bayyane yake cewa yawan mutane suna son yin magana kai tsaye game da mutuwa. Abin da suke buƙata kuma shine sarari mai aminci da kuma gayyata, wanda Cafes ɗin Mutuwar ke bayarwa.

Menene tarihin mutuwa, ko "giwa a cikin ɗaki"?

Wataƙila tsoron maganar ne ya ba shi ƙarfi.

Caroline Lloyd, wacce ta kafa gidan cin abinci na farko a Dublin, ta ce tare da gadon Katolika a Ireland, yawancin ibadojin mutuwa suna cikin cocin ne da al'adunsu da suka daɗe kamar su jana'iza da bukukuwan addini. Wani ra'ayi da wasu Katolika kuma suka yi imani da shi shine sanin sunayen aljanu wata hanya ce ta kwace ikonsu.

Me zai faru idan, a cikin duniyar yau, za mu iya amfani da wannan hanyar zuwa mutuwa? Maimakon faɗin maganganu kamar "ketare," wucewa, "ko" ci gaba "da nisantar kanmu daga mutuwa, me yasa ba zamu rungume shi ba?

A Amurka, muna ziyarar kaburbura. "Amma ba haka kowa ke so ba," in ji Van Dyke. Mutane suna son yin magana a sarari - game da tsoron mutuwa, abubuwan da suka fuskanta na rashin lafiya mai tsanani, da shaidar mutuwar ƙaunatacce, da sauran batutuwa.

Ana gudanar da Cafe din Mutuwa a Dublin a cikin mashaya, salon Irish, amma babu wanda ke shaye shaye lokacin da aka tattauna waɗannan maganganun. Tabbas, suna iya samun pint ko ma shayi, amma masu goyon baya a mashaya - matasa da tsofaffi, mata da maza, karkara da birane - suna da gaske idan ya zo ga magance mutuwa. “Su ma suna da nishaɗi su ma. Laugher wani ɓangare ne, "in ji Lloyd, wanda ba da daɗewa ba zai karɓi baƙon Cafe na Mutuwa na huɗu a cikin babban birnin Ireland.

A bayyane yake cewa waɗannan shagunan suna yin aiki mai kyau.

Van Dyke ya ce "Har yanzu abin da jama'a ke so ke nan." "Kuma, na ɗan ɗan sami kwanciyar hankali cewa mutuwa za ta faru bayan yin wannan na dogon lokaci." A yanzu haka akwai masu masaukin Cafe na Mutuwa 22 a cikin San Diego, duk Van Dyke ya koyar kuma tare da ƙungiyar da ke raba kyawawan ayyuka.

Yadda ake kawo hirar mutuwa gida

Duk da yake Cafes Cafes har yanzu sababbi ne a Amurka, sauran al'adun da yawa suna da daɗewa, ingantattun al'adu game da mutuwa da mutuwa.

Rev. Terri Daniel, MA, CT, yana da satifiket a cikin Mutuwa, Mutuwa, da Mutuwar, ADEC. Ita ce kuma ta assasa Cibiyar wayar da kan Mutuwa da Taron Lahira. Daniel ya goge da yin amfani da al'adun shamanic na al'adun gargajiya don taimakawa warkar da mutane ta hanyar motsa kuzarin rauni da asara daga cikin jiki. Ta yi nazarin al'adun mutuwa a wasu al'adun kuma.

A China, dangi suna tara bagadai ga dangin da suka rasu kwanan nan. Waɗannan na iya ƙunsar furanni, hotuna, kyandirori, har ma da abinci. Sun bar waɗannan bagadan aƙalla shekara guda, wani lokacin har abada, don haka rayukan waɗanda suka tashi suna tare da su kowace rana. Mutuwa ba tunani ko tsoro bane, tunatarwa ce ta yau da kullun.

Daniyel ya kawo wata al’ada ta Musulunci a matsayin wani misali: Idan mutum ya ga jerin gwanon jana’iza, dole ne su bi shi don matakai 40 don tsayawa da sanin mahimmancin mutuwa. Ta kuma ambaci yadda addinin Hindu da Buddha a matsayin addinai da halartar al'adu ke koyarwa da fahimtar mahimmancin mutuwa da shiri don mutuwa a matsayin hanyar wayewa, maimakon game da mutuwa da tsoro da damuwa.

Canza halaye game da mutuwa tabbas yana cikin tsari. Idan rayuwarmu cikin tsoron mutuwa ta shafi lafiyarmu, to yakamata muyi ƙoƙari mu rungumi kyakkyawan tunani, da ɗabi'a mai kyau game da batun. Canza labari game da mutuwa daga damuwa zuwa yarda, ko ta hanyar Cafes na Mutuwa ko wasu al'adu, hakika kyakkyawan matakin farko ne na buɗe tattaunawar. Wataƙila bayan wannan, za mu iya buɗewa a bayyane da yin bikin mutuwa a matsayin wani ɓangare na tsarin rayuwar ɗan adam.

Stephanie Schroeder birni ne na New York–Daga marubuci mai zaman kansa kuma marubuci. Wata mai ba da shawara game da lafiyar hankali da kuma mai fafutuka, Schroeder ta wallafa tarihinta, "Kyakkyawan Rushe: Jima'i, Karya & Kashe kansa," a cikin 2012. A yanzu haka tana kan shirya rubutun almara "HEADCASE: LGBTQ Writers and Artists on Mental Health and Wellness," wanda zai bugawa ta Jami'ar Oxford University Press a cikin 2018/2019. Kuna iya samun ta akan Twitter a @ Zafafa10.