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• Demi Moore da Ashton Kutcher
• Kim Kardashian da Kris Humphries
• Sandra Bullock da Jesse James
• Scarlett Johansson da Ryan Reynolds
• J-Lo da Marc Anthony
• Charlie Sheen da Brooke Mueller
• Arnold Schwarzenegger da Maria Shriver
• Ashlee Simpson da Pete Wentz
• Courteney Cox da David Arquette
• Eva Longoria da Tony Parker
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Wani lokaci kalmar "dangantakar shahararru" ita kaɗai ce ɗan ɗanɗanon oxymoron. Aure yana da wuya kamar yadda yake, amma jefa cikin matsin lambar Hollywood kuma, a mafi yawan lokuta; girke -girke ne na bala'i wanda ke hamayya da kowane rubutun fim. Duk da glitz da glam na hoton A-lister, "Abu mafi mahimmanci shine kada a tsammaci kamala," in ji Beverly Hills psychotherapist Dr. Fran Walfish. "Dukkanmu 'yan adam ne masu aibu kuma yana da mahimmanci mu yarda da hakan kuma mu yi la'akari da kurakuran mu da kurakuran mu."

Anan, mun rarraba alaƙar shahararrun mutane goma waɗanda suka yi ɗaci da abin da wataƙila an yi don ceton su.

Demi Moore da Ashton Kutcher

Tare da bambancin shekaru 15, rashin daidaituwa ya kasance akan wannan ma'aunin ikon daga farkon. Amma sun yi nasarar yin shi shekaru shida, kafin jita-jita na yaudarar Kutcher a ƙarshe ya sanya kibosh a kan wannan ma'auratan ƙauna na Kabbalah (Moore a hukumance ta sanar da cewa tana neman saki a ranar 17 ga Nuwamba).

Kriger ya ce "abin da ake kira" cougars "ko tsohuwar mace da ƙaramin ɗan adam sun kasance suna haɓaka, amma bari mu zama na gaske, da alama ba za su daɗe ba," in ji Kriger. Ta yi imanin cewa, a cikin lamarin Kutcher, abin ɗan ɗan daɗi ne amma lokacin farin ciki ya ƙare, ba su da yawa a tare don kiyaye su cikin farin ciki a cikin Matrimony Mai Tsarki.

Ba a ma maganar ba, an bi duk kuskuren su kuma an kai rahoto ga duk wanda zai saurara. Miller ya ce "Idan duk ma'auratan da suka taɓa cin karo a hanya an sanya su a bangon kowace mujallar a duniya, dukkan mu za mu lalace," in ji Miller. Donaghue ya yarda: "Zan gaya wa waɗannan biyun su tuna abin da ya sa suka fara soyayya tun farko."

Kim Kardashian da Kris Humphries

Tare da ping-pong na he- said / she-ce-ce-ce da ke faruwa a kafafen yada labarai da kuma zargin cewa duk abin kunya ne, yana da wuya a fahimci kawai abin da ya faru a cikin wannan auren "mai-don-TV" wanda ya tashi cikin ciki. sama da wata biyu. "Wani abu gaske dole ne mummuna ya faru da ya kawo ƙarshen auren nan da sauri, "in ji Tina Tessina, wata ma'aikaciyar jinya mai lasisi da ke aiki a Kudancin California.

Ko kyamarori na iya zama laifi? Allison Pescosolido, co-kafa na Divorce Detox ya ce "Gaskiya TV tana yin babban TV, ba dangantaka ba." Masanin dangantakar Lindsay Kriger ya yarda cewa Kardashian yana wasa da rayuwarta don kowa ya gani yana iya zama rugujewar aurenta. Kriger ya ce "Kim da Kris sun shagala da watsa alakar su a talabijin na gaskiya, ba su dauki lokaci ba don tabbatar da cewa ya yi aiki a zahiri," in ji Kriger. "Ko da yake Kim ta sanya kuɗinta a matsayin wasan kwaikwayo na wasan kwaikwayo a talabijin, da alama babu wanda ya gaya mata cewa idan ana maganar soyayya, ba za a iya ba da odar ƙungiyar tatsuniyoyi akan Gilt ba."

Chris Donaghue, mai watsa shirye -shiryen sabon jerin LOGO Mummunan Jima'i, yana da wasu shawarwari don Ci gaba da Kardashian's tauraro. "Ku daina bin abubuwa masu sheki kuma ku sanya lokaci da aiki tukuru don yin aure yayi aiki na dogon lokaci," in ji shi. "Aure ba kamar fashion-in one season and out next next!" Kardashian ya kamata ta yi amfani da irin wannan ƙwarewar da ta sa ta ci nasara a kasuwanci ga dangantakarta na gaba, in ji Kriger. "Ba tare da yarda daga ɓangarorin biyu don tattaunawa da bayarwa da ɗauka ba, aure ba shi da bege."

Sandra Bullock da Jesse James

Kamar yadda wannan labari ya ɓarke ​​a cikin rahotannin labarai na ƙasa, Sandra Bullock ya lashe zaben tausayi kuma ya shigar da mazinaci Jesse James ya zama mugun mutumin. Abin mamaki, Gefen Makafi actress ya ƙare makafi kanta, gaba ɗaya cikin duhu game da yaudarar mijinta. Amma wasu sun yi hasashen rashin daidaituwa ne a cikin sana'arsu wanda a ƙarshe ya haifar da lalacewar alakar su. "Gabaɗaya, ina tsammanin waɗannan biyun sun yi wasa mai kyau, amma ina da shakkun cewa aikinta na sama da yabonta da irin nasarorin da ta samu na Oscar a ƙarshe ya cutar da ƙurucinsa," in ji Tessina.

Duk da cewa babu wani daga cikin kwararrunmu da ke watsi da James alhakin alhakin haifar da tashin hankali a cikin aure, Donaghue kuma yana tunanin wataƙila aikin Bullock ne ya tura James-kuma ya shiga hannun sauran mata. "Ina so in san yadda Sandra ta ci gaba da hulɗa da mijinta yayin da take nesa da yin fim." Ya kara da cewa, "Ya kamata wani ya sanar da su cewa dangantaka ba ta gudana a kan autopilot, komai yawan aiki." Yayinda duk kwararrunmu suka yarda, tabbas farmaki ya kasance don James, Brooke Miller, na Soapboxtherapy.com yana fatan Sandra ta koyi ƙauna da amincewa kuma. "Daga ƙarshe, za ta iya buɗe zuciyarta ga mutumin da yake son irin abubuwan da take so."

Scarlett Johansson da Ryan Reynolds

'Yan wasan Hollywood biyu masu zafi a cikin babban aikin su-suna kama da cikakken wasa, daidai ne? Ba da sauri-waɗannan biyun sun nufi splitsville daga farkon in ji kwararrunmu. "Ba abin mamaki ba ne cewa namiji mafi jima'i a raye da kuma mace mafi jima'i a shekarar sun haɗu tare, amma kuma ba abin mamaki bane da suka sake aure bayan shekaru biyu kawai," in ji Kriger. "Da alama al'adar Hollywood ce."

Duk da yake wannan saki ya kasance mafi yawan jin daɗi, bai zo ba tare da laifin jama'a. Johansson ya yi iƙirarin cewa Ryan "ya yi nisa da yawa" yayin da Reynolds ya ce Johansson ya kasance "mai zaman kansa kuma yana da tausayi." "Barka da zuwa ga abin da muke kira rayuwa," in ji Donaghue. "Sai dai idan kuna shirin sadaukar da ayyukanku, ku biyun ku na da kyau ku koyi yadda za ku jure nisa, daidaita motsin zuciyarku da fahimtar sadaukarwa."

J-Lo da Marc Anthony

'Yan auren da ba su yi nasara ba a ƙarƙashin kowane ɗamara kuma tare da darussan da aka koya, waɗannan abokai da suka daɗe sun juya masoyan Latin sun zama kamar an ƙaddara rayuwa mai tsawo da farin ciki tare. " Daga Jennifer Lopez yana kula da alaƙa kamar ƙofa mai jujjuyawa kuma da alama koyaushe tana bin babban matsayin da kuka samu a farkon ɗayan, "Donaghue yayi hasashe.

Amma, a cewar Miller, da alama Anthony ya fi ɗaukan laifin. "[Anthony] ya kasance yana murƙushe [Lopez] shekaru da yawa kuma yana kallo yayin da ta sami ƙauna a duk wuraren da ba daidai ba. Lokacin da ta fahimci cewa ta cancanci soyayyarsa da soyayyarta, sai ya fahimci ita mutum ce ta gaske kuma ba wani abin al'ajabi ba, kuma hakan duk sun lalace. "

Tessina yana tunanin wannan lamari ne na cin karo da sana'o'i-da kuma son kai. "Ba abu ne mai sauƙi ba don mamaye gidan wuta kamar J-Lo. Ina tsammanin mutum mai ƙarfi kamar Anthony ya sami kwanciyar hankali a gare ta na ɗan lokaci amma a ƙarshe ya zama gwagwarmayar mulki."

Charlie Sheen da Brooke Mueller

Abin baƙin ciki shine, kalma ɗaya ce kawai ke zuwa a zuciya idan ana maganar auren fashewar tsakanin Charlie Sheen da mata ta uku Brooke Mueller, da abubuwan da suka faru a cikin watanni da yawa: Trainwreck. "Lokacin da ma'aurata biyu suka taru, za su zama masu sha'awar juna kuma su yi kuskure da soyayya," in ji Miller. "Gangar mai santsi ce da zarar kun gano cewa kawai kuna musanya wani maye-kwayoyi-don wani-abokin tarayya."

Yayin da Sheen ya sha fama da jita-jita na shaye-shayen miyagun kwayoyi, liyafa da shaye-shaye tsawon shekaru kafin ta auri Brooke, cutar tabin hankali kamar ita ce tushen matsalolin aure. "Shawarar da zan ba Brooke ita ce ta kula sosai ga lafiyar tunanin abokin zama na gaba," Tessina ta ce, "Ba za ku iya auren wanda zai cece shi daga kansa ba."

Arnold Schwarzenegger da Maria Shriver

Ya zama kamar littafin littafin labari, yana gudana sama da rubu'in karni, har sai da rahotanni masu ban tsoro suka bayyana ɗan wasan kwaikwayo kuma tsohon Gwamnan California Arnold Schwarzenegger ya haifi yaron soyayya a asirce tare da kuyangar ma'auratan da suka dade suna yi kuma suka rufe shi har tsawon shekaru goma. "Ina tsammanin Maria ta shafe shekaru tana kallon yadda Arnold ke nuna mata har sai da ta sami labarin wani al'amari a cikin hancinta. Wannan shi ne warware yarjejeniyar," in ji Tessina.

Miller yayi hasashe cewa kiyaye wannan siffa ta kamala na tsawon lokaci ya zama mai wuyar iyawa. "Yin kuskure saboda ku ɗan adam ne kamar yadda Arnold yayi, amma sai ku rufe shi kuma ku ci gaba da rayuwar ku kamar ba a taɓa faruwa ba ƙarshe yana haifar da tushen duk abin da kuka tsaya da shi. façade yana zuwa yana faduwa. "

Yana ƙara Kriger, "Da fatan yarjejeniyar littafin ta na dala miliyan 15 zai taimaka sauƙaƙa jin zafi. Shahararren darasin soyayyar lamba ɗaya-idan yana jin ƙamshi kamar mayaudari, tabbas shine mai yaudara."

Ashlee Simpson da Pete Wentz

Yayin da auren "rockstar" da alama yana da ɗan gajeren rayuwar shiryayye fiye da sauran bangarorin masana'antar nishaɗi, Ashlee Simpson kuma Pete Wentz da alama farin ciki da ƙauna-har sai da ta nemi saki bayan shekaru biyu bayan ta haifi ɗa Bronx.

"Saboda kai" shahararre ba yana nufin ba za ka fada cikin rugujewar rayuwa ba bayan haihuwa," in ji Miller. suna da ɗansu da nauyi, fargaba da ƙalubalen kasancewa iyaye kawai sun yi yawa. "

Donaghue yana jin wannan lamari ne kawai na guduwa lokacin da lamarin ya yi tsauri. "Yin kwarkwasa, tsiri da tashin hankali na jama'a ba sa yin aure mai daɗi. Da gaske suna buƙatar saita wasu iyakoki kuma su daina yarda da halayen yara."

Kuma yayin da uwa take da alama tana warkar da Ashlee ta hanyoyin ta na wahala, da alama ba haka bane ga Pete. "Wannan ma'aurata ne na gaske, waɗanda ba su ɓoye shi ba. Amma lokacin da jariri ya zo, yarinyar bikin Ashlee ta girma cikin sauri kuma ta fara ɗaukar rayuwa da mahimmanci yayin da Pete bai hau jirgin da ya girma ba." Lokacin da wannan jirgin kasa na karin magana ya ja daga tashar, Ashlee ya bar Pete a baya.

Courteney Cox da David Arquette

Wannan alaƙar ta zama kamar an gina ta don ɗorewa, har ma da ƙa'idodin showbiz. Courteney Cox kuma Daga David Arquette mai yiwuwa sun hadu akan shirin fim amma babu wanda zai iya hasashen ƙungiyar su ta shekara goma sha ɗaya zata ƙare a matsayin flop ɗin ofishin. Duk da haka, ma'auratan sun kasance tare da 'yar Coco mai shekaru 7 kuma har ma an ba da rahoton haɓaka sitcom na TV tare. "Da alama, a duk tsawon lokacin auren, Courteney ya girma kuma David ya kasance a cikin aikin yaron. Amma yanzu da suke da ɗa na ainihi, Courteney ya yanke shawarar cewa ba za ta iya zama uwa ga duka biyu ba, "in ji Miller.

Idan kasancewarta a cikin masu sauraron daya daga cikin gasar David Rawa Da Taurari ko wace hanya ce, wannan ma'auratan na iya zama ɗaya daga cikin fitattun jaruman Hollywood da suka fi so da sha'awa. "Wataƙila ƙarshen tsarin iyali ne wanda ya bayyana ta wata hanya," in ji Miller, "amma wannan bai taɓa zama ma'aurata waɗanda ke neman ɓangaren ba."

Eva Longoria da Tony Parker

Lokacin da ƙwararren ɗan wasan kwaikwayo ta auri ƙwararren ɗan wasa daidai, kowa yana tushen su. Bayan bikin aure na Parisiya, ma'auratan sun yanke shawarar bayan shekaru uku kawai, "suna son abubuwa daban -daban" kuma sun nemi a raba aure. Mai kara kuzari? Longoria ya ba da rahoton gano ɗaruruwan saƙonnin rubutu da bai dace ba zuwa wata mace-kan wayar Parker.

"Na fassara bayanin cewa" suna son abubuwa daban -daban "da nufin tana son mace ɗaya, rayuwar aure kuma har yanzu yana so ya zama ɗan wasa, duka a ciki da wajen kotu," in ji Tessina. Miller ya yarda. "Tana son duk kit-n-caboodle kuma a fili bai yi ba." Yayin da Longoria ta rungumi matsayin Misis Tony Parker, mijinta da alama yana riƙe da ainihin solo. "Lokacin da wani ya rasa asalinsa a cikin dangantaka, hakika ba dangantaka ba ne," in ji Miller. "Ya zama wasan mutum ɗaya."

Amma, Hauwa'u da ta kasance da ƙarfin gwiwa ta nemi ƙarin abin da ta nema kuma ta ci gaba da ƙaramin saurayi. Pescosolido ya ce "Mai zafi, sabon saurayi shine cikakken taimakon bandeji don karyayyen zuciya."

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