Abin da 'Haihuwar Wannan Hanya' Labari yayi kuskure game da kasancewa Queer

Wadatacce

• Takaitaccen Tarihin 'Haihuwar Ta Wannan Hanya'
• Hujja (s) Akan 'Haihuwar Wannan Hanya'
• Don haka… Shin An Haifi Mutane Queer?
• Ina Muka dosa Daga Nan?
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Ka ɗaga hannunka idan ka taɓa yin ihu, girgiza, kuma ka yi shuru tare da ƙaƙƙarfan waƙoƙin waƙa "Ina kan hanya madaidaiciya, jariri an haife ni haka." Matsalar ita ce hannunka ya tashi. Koyaya, ko da ba haka bane, wataƙila kun saba da abin da ya kasance kukan yaƙi na kusan rabin ƙarni: An haife ku ta wannan hanyar.

Kamar yadda yake da sauƙi, mai fafutukar kare haƙƙin ɗan luwadi ne ya watsa wannan taken don sauyin zamantakewa, shari'a, da siyasa ta hanyar waƙa, sa hannu, da magana. Kuma ta hanyoyi da yawa, yadda yakamata - "haifuwa ta wannan hanya" ya kasance babban mahimmin tagline na motsi daidaiton aure, bayan duka.

Duk da haka, jumlar ba ta da lahani. Rae McDaniel, mai ba da lasisin asibiti da jinsi da likitan jinsi da ke Chicago. Kuma wannan rashin fahimta na iya kasancewa yana riƙe da mutanen da ba su da 'yanci.

Takaitaccen Tarihin 'Haihuwar Ta Wannan Hanya'

Maganar 'an haife ni ta wannan hanya' ta fara shiga ƙamus na ƙamus tare da sakin mawaƙin bishara da mai fafutukar cutar kanjamau, waƙar Carl Bean ta 1977, "An Haife Ni Ta Wannan Hanyar." Tare da waƙar "Na yi farin ciki, ba ni da damuwa, kuma ni ɗan luwaɗi ne, an haife ni haka," wannan waƙar ta zama waƙar LGBTQ+ na lokacinta. Daga baya, ya kuma yi wahayi zuwa ga Lady Gaga's 2011’Haihuwar Wannan Hanya, "wanda ya taimaka ya sanya taken da iska mai iska, yana ba shi damar ci gaba azaman kukan jama'ar unguwa. (PS, idan kuna karanta wannan kuma kuna jin ba su isa ba? Ga tunatarwa cewa iya ka.)

Batun labarin “haifaffen haka” shi ne cewa ƴan ƴaƴa sun cancanci haƙƙoƙi domin ƴaƴancinsu dabi’a ce ta asali kuma ta asali – don haka ƙin wani haƙƙi saboda ɓacin ransu bai dace ba kamar hana su haƙƙoƙi saboda launin ido.

Wani ɓangare na dalilin da ya kama shi, a cewar Jesse Kahn, L.C.S.W., CSST, darekta da likitan jinsi a Cibiyar Kula da Jima'i da Jima'i a NYC, shine cewa yana da sauƙi ga mutanen da ba su da hankali su fahimta, sabili da haka suna tausaya wa. A wasu kalmomi, idan kun kasance daidai da kwayoyin halitta m na sha'awar mutane daga jinsi daban-daban daga naku, to, lafiya, kun cancanci hakki.

Da farko, da yawa daga cikin mutanen ƙazafi suma sun rungumi wannan magana domin yana adawa kai tsaye ga labarin addini na gama-gari wanda ya ce ƙwazo zaɓin salon rayuwa ne, in ji Kahn. Ra'ayin cewa keɓewa zaɓi ne yana da alaƙa da ra'ayin cewa keɓantarwa zunubi ne - kuma don haka, zunubin da wani zai iya gujewa, idan da suna da ɗan ƙaramin ƙarfi, yana ƙara ƙwararrun masanin ilimin jima'i da mutum -mutumi Casey Tanner, MA, LCPC, ƙwararren kamfanin kayan jin daɗi na alfarma LELO. "Waɗanda aka haife su ta wannan hanya labarin ya tunzura wannan ta hanyar ƙin yarda da ra'ayin cewa ƙwaƙƙwaran yana da alaƙa da son rai, kuma yana ba da shawara (ga masu bin addini) cewa Allah ya yi mu haka," in ji ta. A iya fahimta, wannan abin lura ne mai ban sha'awa ga mutanen banza waɗanda ke fuskantar jima'i a matsayin wani ɓangare na su - musamman mutane masu rarrafe a cikin al'ummomin addini.

Hujja (s) Akan 'Haihuwar Wannan Hanya'

Duk da yake taken yana da amfani a tarihi, kwanakin nan, yawancin mutanen LGBTQ+ sun yi imanin cewa kalmar kamance tana hana ci gaba na dogon lokaci.

Don masu farawa, yana ba da dama ga waɗanda suka ɗanɗana jima'i ko jinsi azaman tsayayye, mara canzawa, yayin da yake lalata waɗanda suka dandana jima'i ko jinsi a matsayin masu canzawa, ruwa, abubuwa masu canzawa koyaushe. (Duba: Menene Ruwan Jima'i?)

Matsalar wannan? McDaniels ya ce "Babu wani banbanci a cikin inganci ga wanda ya san sun kasance masu rarrabewa tun yana ɗan shekara huɗu da wanda ya fito a cikin shekaru 60," in ji McDaniels. Kuma yana kawar da gaskiyar cewa mutane da yawa ba su san cewa su ba ne ba saboda su ba amma saboda sun girma a cikin yanayin masu ra'ayin mazan jiya ko masu adawa da LGBTQ+ inda binciken jima'i ko jinsi ba zai kasance lafiya ba, ko kuma saboda rashin samun ilimi ko yare, in ji su. (Ana buƙatar tunatarwa game da adadin kalmomin jinsi daban -daban da yawa? Duba: LGBTQ+ Ƙamus na Jinsi da Ma'anar Jima'i.)

Ra'ayin "haifuwa ta wannan hanya" shima yayi watsi da gaskiyar jima'i da jinsi na iya canzawa akan lokaci. Ga wasu, wannan juyin halitta yana faruwa ne saboda harshe na jima'i da jinsi ya samo asali, in ji Tanner. "Harshe game da jinsi da jima'i yana haɓaka cikin sauri, yana juyawa kusan kowace shekara uku, don haka bai kamata abin mamaki ba cewa yadda muke bayyana kanmu na iya canzawa cikin sauri tare da wannan ci gaban," in ji ta. Don haka, "ba sabon abu ba ne mutane su rungumi harshen da ke jin dai-dai da gogewarsu, sannan daga baya su sami wani lokaci mai ma'ana," in ji ta.

Ga wasu, jima'i ko jinsi yana canzawa cikin sauƙi saboda asalinsu, bayyanarsu, da jan hankalinsu sun canza tsawon lokaci. Lallai, bincike ya nuna cewa yanayin jima'i wani abu ne da ke haɓakawa da haɓakawa zuwa ƙarshen balaga, a cewar binciken 2019 na kusan mutane 12,000 da aka buga a cikin Jaridar Binciken Jima'i. (Hakanan karanta: Abin da ake nufi don haɗawa da "X" a cikin Kalmomi kamar Womxn, Folx, da Latinx)

Wani dalili da wasu LGBTQ+ ke adawa da maganganun "haihuwar haka" shine saboda tana kiyaye haƙƙin shari'a dangane da jima'i da jinsi (da matsayin aure), maimakon bai wa mutane duka haƙƙi. Ainihin, ra'ayi ne mai ƙarancin 'yanci fiye da faɗin "kowane ɗan adam ya cancanci haƙƙin iri ɗaya."

Don haka… Shin An Haifi Mutane Queer?

Daga qarshe, wannan ita ce tambayar da ba daidai ba. Me ya sa? Domin yayin da tambayar "menene ya sa wani ya yi tagumi?" abu ne mai ban sha'awa, matsalar ita ce, ana tambayar wannan tambayar ne kawai game da sunayen da aka sanya a ƙarƙashin acronym na LGBTQ kuma ba game da liwadi ba. Tambaya ce da ta ɗauka cewa madigo shine al'ada, kuma duk wani jima'i kuskure ne ko dai ta hanyar dabi'a (DNA) ko renon (iyaye, al'adun da ke kewaye, tarbiyyar addini, da dai sauransu). A takaice dai, wannan tambayar tana yin ƙazantar aikin heteronormativity, wanda shine ra'ayin cewa kowane mutum ɗaya (kuma yakamata ya zama) ɗan kishili da cisgender (lokacin da yanayin jinsi ya yi daidai da jinsi da aka ba ku lokacin haihuwa).

Don a bayyane: Wannan ba yana nufin cewa queerness ba na asali ba ne - ga mutane da yawa yana da yawa.Maimakon haka, makasudin anan shine bincika dalilin ci gaba da amfani da '' haifuwa ta wannan hanyar '' azaman kukan taruwa yana mai da hankali sosai kan dalilin da yasa mutane masu tsattsauran ra'ayi suka cancanci haƙƙi (saboda an haife mu ta wannan hanyar!) Kuma bai isa ba lokacin da duk mutane zasu sami waɗannan hakkoki (hakki, jiya).

Ina Muka dosa Daga Nan?

Ko kai da kanka ne, ko kuma mutanen da ke kewaye da ku, yana da mahimmanci a tuna cewa rarrabuwa tana da kyau iri -iri. Kamar yadda Tanner ya ce, "babu wata hanya da za a iya kallon taɓarɓarewa, yin ɗabi'a mai ƙarfi, rungumar jima'i mai rarrafe, fitowa a matsayin mai rarrabewa, ko nuna ƙazanta." Kuma ta hanyar ba da shawarar cewa duk mutanen da ba a sani ba sun fuskanci ɓacin rai a matsayin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haƙƙin haifuwa kuma ta wannan hanyar ba da labari ya tsoma baki tare da wannan gaskiyar.

Shin hakan yana nufin muna buƙatar danna dakatarwa akan bop na Lady Gaga? A'a! Duk da haka, shi yayi yana nufin cewa abokan haɗin gwiwa na gaskiya suna buƙatar canzawa daga gaskatawa me yasa al'ummar LGBTQ sun cancanci haƙƙi, kuma sun fi sha'awar samun mana waɗannan haƙƙoƙin. (Duba: Yadda Ake Zama Sahihan Abokin Ƙawance Mai Amfani)

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