Yadda Mace Ta Yi Soyayya Da Fitowar Ƙungiya Bayan Shekaru Goma Da Keɓewa

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• Neman Al'umma Cikin Ƙoshin Lafiya
• Ɗaukar Haɗin ta Offline
• Tura Kanta Harma
• Kallon Gaba Mai Zuwa
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Akwai wata ma'ana a rayuwar Dawn Sabourin, a cikin firjin dinta shine galan ruwa da kyar ta taba ta tsawon shekara guda. Yawancin lokacinta ta kasance ita kaɗai a kan gado.

Kusan kusan shekaru goma, Sabourin ta yi fama da PTSD da matsananciyar damuwa, wanda ya sa ba ta da sha'awar ci, motsawa, zamantakewa, da kula da kanta da gaske. "Na bar kaina na shiga irin wannan matakin wanda kawai fitar da kare nawa waje ya gaji tsokoki na har na kasa aiki," in ji ta. Siffa.

Abin da a ƙarshe ya fitar da ita daga wannan funk mai haɗari na iya ba ku mamaki: Azuzuwan motsa jiki ne na ƙungiyar. (Mai Dangantaka: Yadda Na Zama Mai Koyar da Kayan Aiki a Babban Gym)

Neman Al'umma Cikin Ƙoshin Lafiya

Sabourin ta gano sha'awar ta don motsa jiki na rukuni bayan shiga Siffa's Crush Your Goals Challenge, wani shiri na kwanaki 40 wanda guru na motsa jiki Jen Widerstrom ke jagoranta wanda ke nufin yin aiki tare da kowane burin da za ku iya samu, ya kasance asarar nauyi, ingantaccen makamashi, tsere, ko, ga wani kamar Sabourin. , hanyar juyar da abubuwa kuma kawai motsawa.

"Lokacin da na yanke shawarar yin Goal Crushers, gabaɗaya, shine ƙoƙarina na ƙarshe na sake shiga rayuwa."

Dawn Sabourin

Sabourin ta yarda cewa shiga ƙalubalen "babban buri ne" bayan da ta shafe shekaru masu yawa tana yaƙar matsalolin ta ita kaɗai. Amma, ta ce, kawai ta san wani abu dole ya canza don dawo da rayuwar ta kan hanya.

"Manufofina na [kalubalen] shine in magance duk matsalolin da suka shafi likitanci don haka watakila Zan iya yin aiki, ”in ji Sabourin, wacce ta dandana komai daga tiyata ta sake gina kafada zuwa baccin bacci, a saman gwagwarmayar lafiyar hankalin ta.

Sabourin ta bayyana cewa ita ma tana son koyon yadda ake hulɗa da mutane da gaske. "Ba kamar ba zan iya yin cudanya tsakanin mutane da mutane ba, amma [na ji] kamar [na] cutar da mutane," in ji ta. "Lokacin da na yanke shawarar yin Goal Crushers, gabaɗaya, shine ƙoƙarina na ƙarshe na sake shiga rayuwa."

Bayan kwana arba'in, an kammala ƙalubale, Sabourin ta fahimci cewa ta fara yin hulɗa da mutane a rukunin Facebook na Goal Crushers. "Kowa ya ba da goyon baya," in ji ta game da 'yan uwanta masu cin kwallo.

Ko da yake Sabourin mai yiwuwa ba ta warware wasu matsalolin lafiyar jiki da ta ke da shi ba (wani abu mafi kyau da aka yi nazari tare da likita, da gaske), ta fara samun ci gaba na gaske a cikin ikonta na iya fitar da kanta a can kuma ta haɗu da mutane. Bayan shafe shekaru da yawa na keɓe, ta ce a ƙarshe ta ji cewa ta fito daga cikin harsashinta.

Ɗaukar Haɗin ta Offline

Sakamakon wannan sabuwar fahimtar al'umma, Sabourin ya ji kwarin gwiwa ya halartaSiffa Shagon Jiki, taron fafutuka na shekara-shekara a Los Angeles wanda ke ba da ɗimbin azuzuwan motsa jiki waɗanda taurarin motsa jiki ke koyarwa kamar Widerstrom, Jenny Gaither, Anna Victoria, da ƙari.

Amma ba ainihin yanayin dacewa na Shagon Jiki ne ya nemi Sabourin ba - aƙalla, ba da farko ba. Haƙiƙa shine begen saduwa da ɗaya daga cikin 'yan uwanta Goal Crushers, mai suna Janelle, IRL. Duba, Janelle tana zaune a Kanada kuma za ta yi tattaki zuwa Shagon Jikin a LA, wanda ke kusa da Sabourin. Da Sabourin ta fahimci cewa tana da damar saduwa da wata kawarta ta yanar gizo da kai tsaye, ta san ba za ta iya tsallakewa ba—ko da hakan na nufin fuskantar wasu manyan fargabarta.

"Yana da ban mamaki lokacin da kuka fita daga keɓe zuwa abin da nake da shi yanzu."

Dawn Sabourin

Tabbas, ra'ayin yin cuɗanya da baƙi a babban taron rukuni-musamman idan ta so kawai kawai ta fara aiki kuma ba ta bar jin daɗin gidanta ba tsawon shekaru goma-ta ɗaure cikin Sabourin. Amma ta ce ta ji lokaci ya yi da gaske da za ta fice daga yankin jin daɗinta. "[Kowa] ya kasance mai mutunci [a cikin Goal Crushers] wanda kawai na yanke shawarar samun dama," in ji ta. "Ba don na ce ba na son juyowa [da komawa gida], amma kamar dai lokaci ne da wurin da ya dace." (Dangane da: Ƙarfafa Ƙungiyar Ba Abunku bane? Wannan na iya Bayyana Dalilin)

A lokacin ne Sabourin ya hadu da Widerstrom. A zahiri mata biyu sun san junan su daga shigar Sabourin a cikin Goal-Crushers Facebook Group, wanda Widerstrom ke shiga cikin sa. Amma ko da a lokacin, Widerstrom ta ce ta lura cewa da farko Sabourin ta tsare ta. "Na tuna sunanta, amma ban taɓa sanin yadda ta kasance ba saboda ba ta taɓa sanya hoton martaba ba," in ji mai ba da horo Siffa. "Wannan mutumin Dawn ne wanda, a kowane lokaci, yana 'son' hoto [a cikin rukunin Facebook]. Ta kasance mai aiki, amma ba ta da murya. Ban san abin da ke faruwa a kwakwalwarta ba. . A gare ni, ita Dawn ce kawai tare da hoton hoton komai. Babu shakka, akwai wani babban labari wanda ba zan iya gani a wannan lokacin ba. "

Sabourin ta ce goyon bayan Widerstrom ne ya taimaka mata ta samu halartar taron a wannan ranar - rukunin motsa jiki na farko da ta so har abada Ya shiga cikin.

Tura Kanta Harma

Bayan wannan ranar a Shagon Jiki, Sabourin ta ce ta ji wahayi don ci gaba da ci gaba. Ta yanke shawarar shiga ƙalubalen asarar nauyi na makwanni shida a ɗakin motsa jiki na gida a California. "Na yi asarar fam 22 kuma na ci gaba," in ji ta. "Har yanzu ina aiki a wannan dakin motsa jiki. Na yi wasu abokai masu ban sha'awa a can waɗanda za su yi kusa da komai a gare ni, ni kuma a gare su. Yana da matukar damuwa idan kun fita daga ware zuwa abin da nake da shi a yanzu."

Labarin Sabourin na iya haɗawa da ƙididdiga masu ban sha'awa na asarar nauyi (gaba ɗaya, ta yi asarar kilo 88 a cikin kusan shekara guda), amma Widerstrom ya yi imanin cewa canjinta ya yi zurfi fiye da haka. "Jiki, tare da kowane irin kulawa mai mahimmanci, zai canza," in ji ta. "Don haka canjin jiki na Dawn ya bayyana sosai. Canjin mafi ban mamaki shine wanda take gabatarwa da kuma rayuwa a matsayin. Halinta shine abin da ke fure; mutumin. A karshe ta bar Dawn." (Mai dangantaka: Abin da nake so na san da daɗewa game da Rage nauyi)

Definaya daga cikin lokacin canji na canji shine lokacin da Sabourin (a ƙarshe) ya ƙirƙiri hoton bayanin martaba na Facebook, ya raba Widerstrom - kuma ba kawai kowane hoton hoto bane. Ta zaɓi hoton da aka ɗauka a Shape Body Shop.

Hoton bayanin martaba yana iya ba da ma'ana ga yawancin mutane. Amma ga Widerstrom, ya wakilci Sabourin da sabon tunanin kansa. "Yana nufin girman kai: 'Ina alfahari da kaina, Ina jin daɗin raba wannan muhimmin lokaci tare da duk wanda ke kallo," in ji mai horar da ma'anar ma'anar hoton.

Lokacin da Sabourin ta koma Shape Body Shop a wannan shekara, ta yi mamakin yadda ta fi jin daɗi a karo na biyu. "A bara, ina ƙoƙarin yin hakan ne kawai," in ji ta. "A wannan shekarar, na ji wani bangare na shi."

Kallon Gaba Mai Zuwa

Tun daga wannan lokacin, Sabourin ta ce ta ci gaba da motsa jiki akai-akai, musamman a azuzuwan motsa jiki na rukuni a dakin motsa jiki na gida. "Ina fatan in ci gaba a kan [ayyukan motsa jiki na]," in ji ta. "Amma [motsa jiki] shine wanda yake dawwama a rayuwata. Ina iya samun mummunar rana kuma ban tashi daga gado ba - har yanzu, a wasu kwanaki. Amma har yanzu ina yin motsa jiki' saboda wannan shine burin da nake aiki yanzu. . Ban san inda zan tsaya ba ko menene burina zai kasance [a nan gaba], amma wani tsani ne na fatan sake shiga duk rayuwata."

Ga Sabourin, ta ce motsa jiki na rukuni yana haɗa ta da gaskiya kuma yana tunatar da ita duk abin da za ta iya idan ta sanya kanta a cikin wani aiki. "Irin wannan yana ƙarfafa ni in fito in tunkari wani abu daga baya a wannan ranar, wani abu daban a rayuwa, in sami wani abin daban." (Mai alaƙa: Mafi Girman Amfanin Hankali da Jiki na Yin Aiki)

Widerstrom yana nufin waɗannan abubuwan da aka cimma a matsayin "matsalolin rayuwa." "Waɗannan su ne wakilai da muke ɗauka a matsayinmu na mutane don fara fitar da kanmu a can," in ji ta. "Muna buƙatar aiwatar da waɗannan wakilai. Muna buƙatar fita waje, muna buƙatar gwada shi, kuma za mu koyi abubuwa da yawa game da abin da muke yi, ko muna son shi, ko ba mu so, sau tara. daga cikin 10, abubuwa ba sa tafiya yadda muke tunanin za su yi, amma har yanzu muna son kwarewa. Muna jin girman kai; muna jin sanarwa; akwai matakin hidima. "

Dangane da abin da ke gaba, Sabourin ta ce da gaske ba ta da "babban buri" a zuciya. Maimakon haka, ta mai da hankali kan ɗaukar ƙananan matakai don saduwa da ƙarin mutane, ƙoƙarin sabbin motsa jiki, da tura kanta ta wuce iyakokinta da ake tsammani.

Amma idan akwai abu ɗaya da ta koya a duk wannan ƙwarewar, yana da mahimmancin yin abubuwan da ke tsoratar da ku. Sabourin ya ce "Ba na tsammanin za a iya cimma wani abu mai girma sosai sai dai idan kun fitar da kanku daga yankin jin daɗin ku," in ji Sabourin. "Kawai irin na makale ne a cikin rudani. Don haka zan ci gaba da turawa, kuma za mu ga abin da zai faru a gaba. Ban san abin da shekara mai zuwa za ta ƙunsa ba, amma ina fatan na sami aƙalla rabi na abin da na cim ma a wannan shekarar. Zan yi farin ciki da hakan. "

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