A Kariyar Karya Cikin Salon Wankan Ku Duk Yadda Jahannama kuke So

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Hotuna: Leslie Goldman

A cikin hutu kwanan nan a Playa del Carmen tare da mijina, mun sauka kanmu cabana mai daɗi tare da tabbacin inuwa (mai girma ga fata na) da rafin guac mara iyaka (har ma mafi kyau ga ciki na). Sa’ad da nake jin daɗin kwanciyar rana mai daɗi, na ƙyale kaina in yi wasa, irin salon Savasana, yayin da nake karanta mujallu, na zagaya ta cikin wayata, na kwanta.

Kowane awa ko makamancin haka, zan tashi in tsoma cikin ruwa, sannan in bushe a kan kujerar falo a rana. Shin na shimfiɗa, salon Savasana, a wajen iyakokin ƙaramin mafakar mu?

Ban yi.

Maimakon haka, na ɗauki Matsayi ta atomatik. Kun san abin da nake magana: An miƙa kafa ɗaya kai tsaye, ɗayan kuma an lanƙwasa dabaru a kusurwar digiri 45 don sa cinya ya zama siriri. Baƙi yana da ɗan arched, kuma wani matakin ƙuntatawa yana gudana a cikin tummy, duk da cewa duk maƙasudin kwance shine ~ shakatawa ~. (Mai Alaƙa: Waɗannan Mata Masu Kyakkyawar Jiki Za Su Yi Maka Ƙarfafawa don sanya Bikini tare da Amincewa)

Kasancewar na sabawa wannan matsayin ba tare da wata kokari ba shine tabbacin irin yadda muka zama mata. Shekaruna 42, mahaifiyar 'yan mata biyu masu farin ciki. Ba ni da sha'awar jawo masu neman aure. Ni marubuciyar lafiyar mata ce tare da littafin amincewa da jiki a ƙarƙashin belina. Wasu lokuta a shekara, nakan je kwalejoji da jami'o'i don gabatar da jawabai masu ban sha'awa, salon soyayya ga majami'u masu cike da 'yan mata. Shin bai kamata in bar shi duka ya fita waje ba, na ba da damar cinyoyina su shimfiɗa tare da murƙushewa tare, na manta da kowane irin kamannin abs?

Ya kamata, amma ban yi ba.

Da kyar ni kadai ce mai sanye da rana a bikini a wurin tana fara shirye-shiryen lokacin da ya kamata in yi zoning. Kallon kallo mai sauri na yankin tafkin ya tabbatar mani cewa kusan dukkan matan da ke wurin suna da wani matakin hankali na jiki. Baya ga Matsayin, akwai mata masu yin samfuri don iPhones ɗin su, suna bugun kowane nau'in inane #bikinigram yana nuna ciki-ciki, an ɗora a kan yatsunsu, suna cikin haɗari a gefen tafkin yayin da suke faɗar-ido cikin teku; zaune da kafafu a kan kujerar falo, ciki ya tsotse, hannu daya rike da gilashin shampen; durkusa, cinyoyinsu suna hutawa akan maruƙa, butt ya faɗo (aka "The Bambi").

Don haka da alama an raba mu zuwa sansani biyu: Waɗanda suka ji da-na-sani da waɗanda suka ji buƙatar buƙatar tara Likes akan Insta. Abin da duk muka yi tarayya: Mun ji tsoron kawai mu sa rigar wanka kuma, mahaukaci kamar yadda yake sauti, shakatawa yayin annashuwa.

Duba, bikini ya fashe a bakin rairayin bakin teku shekaru 70+ da suka wuce, kuma mata suna tsotsa a cikin su tun daga lokacin. Na tabbata mai ƙirƙira bai yi ƙoƙarin ƙirƙirar ƙarin aiki ga mata ba, amma bincike ya nuna cewa ko da kawai tunanin gwada rigar wanka yana sa mata jin daɗin jikinsu. (Mai Alaka: Wannan Mahaifiyar Tazo Ga Mafi Kyawun Ganewa Bayan Gwada Bikinis Da Diyarta)

Shirye-shiryen hutu yakan haɗa da haɓakawa a cikin motsa jiki; rashin hasken rana don kada ya bayyana sosai a ranar 1; tafiya zuwa salon gyara gashi; babu-chip mani/pedi; kuma lissafin ya ci gaba. Kusan kowane mako, masu ba da labari suna ba ni labarai na “lokacin bikini” tare da lamuran batutuwa marasa ma'ana kamar "Tip-Top Tush Booty Facial," "Juya Maɗaukakin ku zuwa Innie a cikin Minti 15," da "Hanyoyin da ba a Haɗuwa don sa ƙirjinku su yi kyau Bikini Season."

Anan abu ne: Ba ma buƙatar maganin rigakafi na gida ko canja wurin mai mai mahimmanci don buga rairayin bakin teku. Babu kowa gaske yana kula idan kuna da "rami na Toblerone"-sarari mai siffa mai kusurwa uku wanda da alama yakamata ya bayyana inda cinyoyin ciki na mace ya sadu da ƙugunta-saboda duk sun firgita game da sauran mutanen da ke yin hukunci. su. (Hakanan, sandunan cakulan na Switzerland suna shiga cikin bakin ku, ba tsakanin kafafun ku ba-ƙara wannan a cikin jerin abubuwan da bai kamata ku sanya kusa da farjin ku ba.)

Hakanan, kowane hoto da kuke gani akan zamantakewa ana koyar da shi ko karya ne, ko ta yaya. Samfurin motsa jiki na Amsterdam Imre Çeçen ya ba ta mabiya 328,000+ Insta abin ban sha'awa na gaskiya a cikin watan Yuni na shekarar da ta gabata lokacin da ta buga hoto yana nuna hotunan gefe-da-gefe na kanta tana rataye kafafunta a cikin tafkin. A hoton da ke hagu, wanda aka yiwa lakabi da "INSTAGRAM," Çeçen yana da ƙafar karen zafi, raunin cinya, da kuma irin kumburin-koda-lokacin-ɓacin rai wanda ke ƙin ilimin ilimin ɗan adam. A cikin hoton da ke hannun dama, wanda aka yiwa lakabi da, "GASKIYA," an ba ta damar ƙafarta ta huta don haka cinyoyinta sun bazu kamar ainihin sassan jikin-nama da ƙashi, ba a haɗa kayan nama ba. Ciki ya daina ruɗewa, #saboda numfashi. Mai fafatawa a gasar Ironman Chi Pham ta buga irin wannan hoton na cinya na cinya, wanda ya yi matukar farin ciki ga mabiyanta na Instagram 178,000.

Yunƙurin ɗaukar hot ɗin cinya mai zafi ya kusan ba Çeçen hernia, ta yi rawar jiki, saboda "dole ne ta ɗaga bayana kamar mahaukaci, ta ɗaga ƙafafuna sama (babban aikin ab yana da hannu) kuma dole ne ta zauna a gefen tafkin wanda ya sa ni kusan faɗuwa. Duka kyamarata da ni (kusan) sun nutse cikin baƙin ciki na insta kamala."

Tabbas, wannan yana kama da hanyar baƙin ciki don mutuwa. Mu daina kokarin kallon wata hanya a cikin hotunan wayar mu sannan mu mai da hankali kan yadda rana ke ji a fatar jikinmu, dadin shayarwar farko ta zabin abin sha mai sanyi. Lokaci na gaba da ka tsinci kanka cikin rigar wanka a bainar jama'a, ka kuskura ka ƙyale mai gadin ka. Yana da hauka cewa har ma dole ne mu yi tunanin wannan hanyar, amma gwada kada ku lanƙwasa ƙafarku, ko kuma mafi kyau duk da haka kada ku zauna cikin dabara kwata -kwata. Kada ku yi wa kanku ɓarna saboda ba ku da ramin cinya ko cinyar cinya. Duniya tana da matsi sosai kamar yadda yake a kwanakin nan, don haka ba za mu iya yin farin ciki da gaskiyar cewa mun yi sa'ar samun yashi tsakanin yatsun mu ba tare da damuwa ba idan wasan ƙafar mu yana da ƙarfi? A kan gadon mutuwanmu, babu wani daga cikinmu da zai yi fatan cinyoyinmu sun yi laushi a tafkin, amma za mu yi fatan za mu ɗauki ƙarin lokaci don shakatawa ... da jin daɗin kanmu yayin yin hakan.

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