Ainihin Ma'anar Hayaniyar Jima'i

Wadatacce

• Shiyasa Wasu Suke Nishi ~Yawai~A Lokacin Jima'i
• Dalilin Da Ya Sa Wasu Mutane Ba Su Yi Makoki Ba
• Mafi kyawun Sauti = Sauti Sahihi
• Yadda Zaka Nemo Sahihin Sautinka A Bed
• 1. Saurari sautin jima'i na wasu mutane.
• 2. Al'aura.
• 3. Kunna kiɗa.
• 4. Sanya batsa a bango.
• 5. Ka mai da hankali ga numfashinka.
• 6. Yi magana da abokin tarayya!
• Layin Kasa
• Bita don

Nuna ko m. Grunt, nishi, haki, ko gurguje. Yi kururuwa ko [saka sautin shiru]. Sautunan da mutane ke yi yayin jima'i, da kyau, sun bambanta kamar yadda mutanen da kansu suke. Duk da haka, tare da duk rom-coms, fina-finai masu kyan gani na XXX, da cikakkun abubuwan da suka faru a can, za ku iya jin kadan game da jima'i na jima'i-ko rashinsa.

Ko kana duk game da cewa auditory clanging alhãli kuwa banging, ko son ci gaba da bene-lebe tam yayin da downstairs lebe ne ... ba, muna nan don bari ka a kan wani sirri: Your jima'i sauti ne na al'ada.

Anan, masana ilimin jima'i sun rushe dalilin da yasa wasu mutane ke nishi na jima'i yayin da wasu ba su bane - da kuma dalilin da yasa buɗe sautin jima'i na gaske na iya zama mabuɗin ingantacciyar jima'i.

Shiyasa Wasu Suke Nishi ~Yawai~A Lokacin Jima'i

Ka yi tunani game da hucin da ka saki bayan a ƙarshe ka shiga banɗaki bayan doguwar tafiya a kan hanya. Ko kuma, nishi ta atomatik wanda ke tare da kawar da ƙafafun diddige bayan ranar sawa. Jill McDevitt Ph.D. ya ce "Yin sautuka wata hanya ce, sau da yawa-ta atomatik don sauƙaƙa damuwa. masanin ilimin mazaunin maza a CalExotics-kuma hakan ya haɗa da ɓacin rai na jima'i. Ainihin, wani lokacin kuna nishi saboda kawai yana jin daɗi, ko nishin jima'i ne ko waninsa!

Wata yuwuwar ita ce kuna nishi yayin jima'i don sadarwa. "A zahiri kayan aikin sadarwa ne," in ji McDevitt. "Nishi yana ba ku damar jagorantar abokin aikin ku ta hanyar da ta dace ba tare da amfani da kalmomi ba - wata hanya ce ta cewa 'oh eh, fiye da hakan!'"

A gefe guda, bincike yana nuna cewa wani lokacin hayaniyar jinsi ba game da bayyana jin daɗin ku na jima'i, amma a maimakon haka game da farantawa abokin tarayya. Misali, karamin binciken 2010 na ma'auratan da aka buga a mujallar Taskokin Halayen Jima'i An gano cewa mata su ne suka fi surutu kafin cikar abokin zamansu. Masu binciken sun ce wannan yana nuna cewa aƙalla wasu mata suna "nishi" na nishi don taimakawa abokin aikinsu ya ƙare.

Shin hakan mummunan abu ne? A wasu lokuta, eh. Fiye da kashi biyu bisa uku na matan da aka gudanar da binciken sun ba da rahoton yin nishi na karya saboda ba su ji daɗi ba ko kuma sun gaji da jima'i. Ma'ana, maimakon yin magana da abokin tarayya ko dai yadda jima'i zai iya zama mafi dadi a gare su ko kuma suna so su daina, sun yi ƙoƙari su sa jima'i "ya yi sauri."

McDevitt da ƙarfi (!) yana ba da shawara game da nishi saboda waɗannan dalilai guda biyu. Saboda nishi yana zama ƙarfafawa mai kyau, idan abokin aikin ku yana yin wani abu haka kawai kuma kuna nishi kamar suna yin wani abu wanda zai iya kai ku ga ƙarshe, da kyau yana "horar da" abokin aikin ku don ci gaba da yin hakan kawai- haka abu, ta bayyana. Nishi. (Mai Alaƙa: Sadarwa Maɓalli ne ga Orgasm mai ban mamaki. Waɗannan Nasihu Za su iya Taimakawa).

Wannan ya ce, nishi na karya lokacin jima'i ba haka ba ne kullum wani abu mara kyau, a cewar McDevitt wanda ya ba da ɗan ƙaramin bege: "Yin abubuwan da ke sa abokin tarayya ya ji daɗi zai iya sa ka ki ji dadi, ni ma," in ji ta.

Ditto yana tafiya idan kun riga kun yi lalata da kanku kuma kuna yin surutai na nishi saboda abin ƙara kuzari yana taimaka wa abokin tarayya ya isa wurin. Kamar yadda McDevitt ya sanya shi, yin abubuwa don taimakawa jin daɗin abokin tarayya ba a zahiri ba (ko ma yawanci!) Mummunan abu ne. A zahiri, yana iya ba da shawarar ku da abokin aikin ku ku yi fice wajen isar da abin da kowannen ku ke buƙata don samun jin daɗi, in ji ta.

Dalilin Da Ya Sa Wasu Mutane Ba Su Yi Makoki Ba

Don bayyana a sarari: Yin jima'i mai ƙarfi ba lallai bane mafi kyawun jima'i. McDevitt ya ce "Wasu mutane suna da natsuwa a zahiri yayin jima'i, kuma hakan gaskiya ne koda kuwa suna yin mafi kyawun jima'i na rayuwarsu," in ji McDevitt.

Idan kana a dabi'a (ta halitta kasancewa kalma mai mahimmanci anan) a gefen da ya fi shuru yayin jima'i, kada ku ji tsoro. Jima'in ku ba shi da daɗi a zahiri fiye da manyan takwarorinku. Hakanan, idan abokin tarayya ba ya yin hargitsi yayin tashin hankali, wannan baya nufin basa jin daɗin kansu. (Dangane da: Abubuwa 5 Kowa Yana Bukatar Sanin Game da Jima'i da Haɗuwa, A cewar Likitan Zamantakewa)

Duk da nishi wata hanya ce ta sadarwa yayin jima'i, ba ita ce kawai hanyar ba, in ji McDevitt. Alamun da ba na sauraro ba kamar ido da yin amfani da hannunka don ture abokin zamanka, ko jawo su kusa, da kuma abubuwan saurare kamar yin magana ko numfashi sama-sama, na iya zama kamar (ko fiye!) mai koyarwa kamar nishi ko nishi. Wataƙila, mutane ba nishi saboda suna amfani da waɗannan sauran na'urorin sadarwa a maimakon haka, in ji ta.

Koyaya, a wasu lokuta, mutane ba sa yin nishi saboda suna tsayawa kansu daga nishi. Jess O'Reilly, Ph.D., mai masaukin baki na @SexWithDrJess Podcast ya ce "Mutane da yawa suna tausasa nishi da gunaguninsu cikin nishi shiru da nishi, ko kuma ba su da wani sauti."

Me ya sa? Watakila kun saba yin zik din lebbanki bayan shekaru na al'aura kamar yadda a natse kamar yadda zai yiwu a cikin cikakken gida ko yin jima'i a wuraren da ba ka son wasu mutane su ji (tunani: ɗakin kwanan yara ko ɗakin kwana na kwaleji). Amma, a wasu lokuta, yana iya zama saboda an sharadi don tunanin kai ne zato don yin shiru a cikin ɗakin kwana, in ji O'Reilly.

Matsalar hakan? Canza martanin sautin jima'i na jima'i yana shafar yanayin numfashi. O'Reilly ya ce "Rike numfashi da sauyin da ke zuwa tare da yin shuru na iya shafar kwararar jini da iskar oxygen na tsokoki, wanda a karshe ke kawo cikas ga mayar da martani," in ji O'Reilly. Gudun jini zuwa ga al'aura (musamman tsokar ƙasan ƙashin ƙugu) wani muhimmin sashi ne na motsa jiki-a zahiri, shine abin da ke ba da damar farji ya shafa mai, in ji ta. Don haka idan kuna riƙe numfashin ku ko hana kukan jima'i, kuna iya hana jin daɗin ku.

Mafi kyawun Sauti = Sauti Sahihi

A ƙarshe, ko kuna ta halitta babban mai nishi ko shuru cutie, kuna yin daidai! McDevitt ya ce "Yin sauti a matsayin martani na dabi'a ga jin dadi al'ada ce, kuma rashin yin wani sauti a matsayin dabi'ar dabi'a ga jin dadi al'ada ce," in ji McDevitt. Bugu da ƙari, maɓallin kalma anan shine "ta halitta." (Don rikodin, yawancin komai a rayuwar jima'i zai fi kyau idan kun bari hakan ta faru ta halitta.)

Lokacin da kuka shiga cikin matsala shine lokacin da kuka fara taka rawar Moaning Muse ko Silent Sex Master saboda haka kuke tunanin kuna zato a yi sauti. Kuma daga ina waɗannan zato suka fito? (Ding, ding, ding) Batsa. "Saboda haka mutane da yawa suna kallon batsa, sannan su kwaikwayi waɗannan sauti a lokacin rayuwarsu ta jima'i saboda suna tunanin haka ya kamata su yi sauti," in ji O'Reilly. Matsala ita ce, batsa an yi shi ne don nishadantarwa, ba don koya muku yadda ake yin jima'i ko yadda ake yin sauti yayin jima'i ba, in ji ta. (Kallon batsa don koyon yadda sautin hanky-panky "ya kamata" zai kasance mai son kallo Tiger King don koyon yadda ake horar da damisa.)

Yanzu, wannan ba yana nufin batsa ba ta da kyau, amma yana nufin ba a nufin ya koya muku yadda ake "zaton" don sauti ba. TD; LR: Babu sauti "ya kamata". Muddin sun kasance ingantattu, babu laifi ko daidai. (Wataƙila hidimar wasan tennis ɗinku tana yin sauti kamar nishin jima'i - kuma hakan ma yayi kyau.)

"Sautunan dabi'a (ko rashin sauti) wani muhimmin bangare ne na amsawar jima'i," in ji O'Reilly. "Idan kuna tantace su ko karya su kuma kuna sadaukar da kuzari ga yi shiru ko kara a gado, jin dadinki da inzali zai shafeki."

Yadda Zaka Nemo Sahihin Sautinka A Bed

Idan kun kasance kuna tace sautunanku ko yin su a kan gado, waɗannan nasihun za su iya taimaka muku gano sautin ku na ainihi.

1. Saurari sautin jima'i na wasu mutane.

Matsalar ita ce, kawai sautin jima'i da kuka sani shine na mutanen da kuka kwana da su. (Ko, wataƙila, abokin zama, maƙwabcinku, ko shirin batsa ɗin da kuke ci gaba da dawowa.) Idan kuna mamakin yadda wasu mutane ke yin sauti yayin samun sa, labari mai kyau (kuma wataƙila, abin mamaki): Akwai duka akan layi database na ~ sahihan sautin inzali ~.

Gabatarwa: Laburaren Sauti na Orgasm, gidan hotuna na (ainihin) sautin jima'i daga ainihin mutane da ba a san su ba wanda kowa zai iya lodawa akan layi. Saurari duk sautunan da aka ɗora daban -daban don koyon yadda mutane daban -daban ke yin sauti yayin barin tutar su.

2. Al'aura.

Don gano waɗanne sautuka na dabi'a ne a gare ku dangane da koya, O'Reilly ya ba da shawarar taɓa kanku. "A lokacin al'aura, an cire duk (haɗin gwiwa) matsa lamba na aiki, don haka shine cikakkiyar dama don ba da damar sautunan ku su fito ba tare da hanawa ba," in ji ta. "Yi numfashi, nishi, nishi, kuma kada ku daidaita sautinku don sanya su zama na mace ko na maza...kawai ku bar su su kwarara," in ji ta.

Da zarar kun sami nutsuwa da sautunan ku yayin jima'i na solo, za ku fi jin daɗin sautukan ku yayin jima'i, in ji ta. (Idan baku daina yin al'aura ba, waɗannan nasihun zasu taimaka.)

Yakamata a ambaci: Solo da wasan haɗin gwiwa ƙwarewa ne daban -daban. Don haka, za ku iya zama a zahiri (akwai wannan kalmar kuma!) Yin shiru lokacin da kuke al'aura, amma ku yi surutai yayin jima'i-ko akasin haka, bayanin kula ya ce Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D., farfesa na jima'i na ɗan adam a Jami'ar New York da mazaunin sexpert. don alamar jima'i-abin wasa LELO. "Duk abin da ke gaskiya gare ku yana da lafiya," in ji ta.

3. Kunna kiɗa.

A lokacin jima'i na solo ko haɗin gwiwa, "idan jin sautunan farko na ku ya sa ku san kanku, kunna kiɗan don nutsar da su a wani yanki," in ji O'Reilly. (Kawai yana cewa: Ƙarshen mako, Bankuna, da PartyNextDoor sune abubuwan ban mamaki don saita yanayi.)

4. Sanya batsa a bango.

San cewa kuna riƙe kanku baya? "Hakanan kuna iya kunna batsa a bango domin [waɗancan sautunan haɗe da] sautin abokin aikin ku ya fi na ku," in ji O'Reilly.

Don wannan, "Ina ba da shawarar sosai da nisanta daga manyan batsa, zaɓi maimakon yin ɗabi'a ko batsa mai son maimakon haka," in ji Vrangalova, wanda ke nuna masu yin wasan kwaikwayon waɗanda da alama suna jin daɗin rayuwa ta gaske, duba Bellesa, CrashPadSeries, da Frolic. Ni. Kawai tuna: Kuna danna wasa don taimaka muku jin daɗin yin ingantattun sautunan ku. Ba don ba ku sautunan koyi ba. (Psst. Hakanan akwai ton na kyauta, farkawa, erotica akan layi da zaku so, shima.)

5. Ka mai da hankali ga numfashinka.

Idan ba ku jin daɗin yin hayaniya, kawai numfashi! Tabbas, numfashi ≠ nishi. Amma numfashi tabbas yana yin surutu kuma yana tasiri jin daɗi, a cewar O'Reilly.

"Numfashi mai nauyi shine babban gabatarwar don yin ƙarin ruckus," in ji McDevitt.

Kuna iya gwaji tare da waɗannan darussan numfashi 3 don mafi kyawun jima'i. Ko, kuna iya duba wannan mp3 inda masanin tantra Barbara Carrellas, ƙwararren masanin ilimin jima'i kuma marubucin ilimin jima'i. Urban Tantra: Jima'i Mai alfarma na ƙarni na ashirin da ɗaya yana tafiya da ku ta cikin fasahar tantric na numfashi mai batsa, mataki-mataki. (An danganta: Menene Jima'i na Tantric, kuma Yaya kuke Yi)

6. Yi magana da abokin tarayya!

Dukansu rufe tarkon ku da kururuwa na iya tsoma baki tare da jin daɗi idan ba sahihi ba ne, don haka idan kuna da hankali game da hayaniyar da kuke yi ko ba ku yi ba, yana da kyau ku kawo abokin tarayya.

McDevitt ya ce "Ku nemi tabbaci cewa ana maraba da hayaniyar jinsi kuma ana ƙarfafa su cikin dukkan ɗaukakar su ta farko." "Ko kuma, ku tabbatar masu da cewa rashin nutsuwa ba yana nufin ba ku da lokacin rayuwar ku."

Layin Kasa

Ko kuna sauti Ah ah ah ah ah ah ah ah ah ah. YA YA YAWA, [shiru], ko wani wuri a tsakanin, duk al'ada ne!

Don haka maimakon yin hayaniya ɗaya maimakon wani saboda wannan shine abin da kuke tunanin yakamata ku yi, "ku bar kanku idan ya zo da hayaniyar da kuke yi ko ba ku yi ba," in ji O'Reilly. "Bayan haka, barin kanku yana da mahimmanci ga orgasms masu busa hankali."

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