Waɗannan “Kwaroron roba na Yarda” Suna Peopleauki Mutane Biyu don Buɗe Kunshin

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Yarda bazai iya zama mafi mahimmancin batutuwa ba, amma lokacin buɗe tattaunawa ba karfafawa, kafa ta tsakanin ku da abokin aikin ku na iya faɗuwa cikin hanzari – musamman lokacin da abubuwa ke ta ɗumi. Wannan shine dalilin da ya sa kamfanin wasan Tulipán na wasan yara na Argentina ya ƙirƙiri "robar robar roƙo," wanda ke buƙatar mutane biyu su buɗe kunshin. (Mai alaƙa: "Satawa" Mafi Tabbatacciyar Cin Zara ce kuma Lokaci ya yi da Dokar ta Gane Haka)

A rude? Kada ku kasance-haƙiƙa yana da kyakkyawan ra'ayi mai sauƙi da zarar kun gan shi.

Ga yadda yake aiki: An saka kwaroron roba a cikin ƙaramin akwati mai murabba'i, kuma dole ne ku danna duk kusurwoyi huɗu na fakitin (akwai maɓallan a kowane gefe waɗanda ke nuna inda za a danna) a lokaci guda don buɗe shi.

"Wannan fakitin yana da sauƙin buɗewa kamar yadda ake fahimtar cewa idan bai ce eh ba, ba a'a bane," in ji rubutun da aka fassara tare da tallan bidiyon. "Yin yarda shine abu mafi mahimmanci a cikin jima'i." (Mai dangantaka: Hanyoyi 3 don Kare Kanku daga Cin Duri da Jima'i)

Tulipán na iya samar da kayan wasan jima'i na farko, amma kamfanin ya yi imanin cewa jin daɗi da yarda suna tafiya hannu da hannu. "Tulipán ya kasance yana magana game da jin dadi mai aminci, amma don wannan yakin mun fahimci cewa dole ne mu yi magana game da mafi mahimmanci a kowace dangantaka ta jima'i: jin dadi yana yiwuwa ne kawai idan kun ba da izinin ku da farko," in ji mai magana da yawun BBDO Argentina. kamfanin dillancin labarai wanda ya kirkiro zanen, ya ce a cikin wata sanarwa ga Adweek. (Mai alaƙa: Yadda ake samun ƙarin ni'ima daga Matsayin Jima'i).

Ba a sayar da “robar robar robar” ba tukuna a Argentina; a yanzu, Tulipán yana yada kalmar a kan kafofin watsa labarun tare da ba da samfurori kyauta a mashaya a Buenos Aires, a cewar Jaridar New York.

Idan ra'ayin "kwaroron roba na yarda" yayi sauti kaɗan, to, shine ma'anar. Magana akan yarda shine irin m wani lokacin, musamman idan ba ku son cutar ko ƙin abokin tarayya, in ji Sherrie Campbell, Ph.D., mai ba da lasisin lasisi, masanin halayyar ɗan adam, da aure da likitan iyali.

Yarda sau da yawa yana "ɓacewa" a cikin wannan fargabar kin amincewa, in ji ta. "Mun fi so don Allah maimakon tsayawa kan abin da muke so da gaske a kokarin kar mu cutar da wani; a halin yanzu, muna cutar da kanmu," in ji ta Siffa.

Kimanin daya daga cikin mata biyar da daya daga cikin maza 71 za a yi lalata da su a wani lokaci a rayuwarsu, a cewar Cibiyar Kayayyakin Rikicin Jima'i ta Kasa. Bugu da ƙari, kusan rabin matan da aka kashe suna cin zarafin wani abokin tarayya. “Kwaroron roba” ba zai canza waɗannan ƙididdigar ba, amma yayi wakiltar mataki kan hanya madaidaiciya. Muna magana game da yarda a kwanakin nan fiye da kowane lokaci, gami da abin da waɗannan tattaunawar tare da abokin yin jima'i a zahiri suke. Lokacin da aka gama komai, buɗe layi na sadarwa ita ce hanya mafi kyau don shiga kowane al'amari mai rikitarwa. (Mai dangantaka: Tasirin Jima'i Yana Shafar Dukan Hankali da Lafiya ta Jiki, A cewar Sabon Nazarin)

"Magana game da jima'i yana buƙatar haƙuri, kirki, da fahimta, tare da dogaro da cewa idan abokin aikinmu yana ƙaunar mu sosai, zai/ta mutunta bukatun mu na iyakoki," in ji Dokta Campbell. "Babu wanda ya isa ya so yin jima'i da wani da sanin cewa ba shi da dadi ko kuma a shirye yake."

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