Lokacin Yin Magana game da Rage Nauyi yayin Saduwa

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Theodora Blanchfield, 31, manajan kafofin watsa labarun daga Manhattan tana alfahari da cewa shekaru biyar da suka gabata, ta yi asarar fam 50. A zahiri, tafiya ce da aka raba ta a bainar jama'a a cikin shafinta na Rage nauyi a cikin birni. Amma duk da haka akwai wasu mutane da ta ƙi zubewa: kwanakin soyayya.

Blanchfield ya ce "Ya sabawa duk abin da na yi imani da shi, amma kasancewar na kasance mai nauyi ya sa na ji rauni har ma na ji kunya," in ji Blanchfield. "Ina damuwa za su yi tunanin zan dawo da ita. Ko kuma koyaushe ina cin abinci kuma ba zan zama abin nishaɗi ba-kamar duk abin da nake yi shine cin salati da aiki." (Ji daɗin kwanakin, lokutan farin ciki, kuma ƙarin tare da waɗannan Tukwici na Rage Nauyi don Kowane Ayyukan Karshen mako.) Abin baƙin ciki, an tabbatar da wannan tsoro ga Blanchfield a kwanan nan na farko. Wata mata da ta sani ta yi ihu a fadin mashaya, "Ina son blog ɗin ku!" yana haifar da kwanan wata don tambayar Blanchfield menene labarin. Ta gaya masa-ba ta sake jin duriyarsa ba.

Blanchfield ba za ta taɓa sanin dalilin da yasa kwanan ta ya ɓace ba, amma ƙwararru sun yarda cewa yana da kyau a jira har sai kun cika kwanakin da yawa kafin raba bayanan mutum kamar asarar nauyi. "Idan daya daga cikin abubuwan farko na kwanan wata shine sanin cewa kun zubar da wani nau'i mai yawa, shi ko ita za su ga wannan a matsayin daya daga cikin manyan abubuwan da kuka bayyana," in ji Mimi Tanner, marubucin littafin. Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarƙashin Ƙarfafa Ba tare da Rikici ba. Don haka daidai yi kuna ba da labarin rayuwar ku ta baya?

Tsara shi cikin Saƙon Ƙarfafawa-Ba Abin kunya ba

"Maimakon in ce 'Na kasance mai kiba,' gwada gwada, 'Na fara horo don marathon shekara guda da ta gabata, kuma na yi asarar nauyi mai yawa. Yana da kyau,'" in ji Sara Eckel, marubucin Ba Kai ba ne: 27 (Ba daidai ba) Dalilan Ka yi aure. "Yawancin mutane suna son koyan yadda kuka yi. Kun ɗauki iko akan wani abu a rayuwar ku." Yi aiki da batun cikin tattaunawa ba da gangan ba maimakon jefa bam. (Bayan haka, kawai kuna raba abin da kuka kasance daban-daban-ba cewa kun yi wa gidan maƙwabcin ku fashi ba.) Blanchfield-wanda kwanan nan ya canza sunan shafin ta zuwa The Preppy Runner-ya karɓi wannan sabuwar hanyar. "Da gangan na rage asarar nauyi kuma in jaddada dacewa," in ji ta.

Lokaci Yana Da Muhimmanci

Yana da jaraba don son nuna halayen da suka taimaka muku cimma irin wannan burin mai ban sha'awa. Wanene ba zai so yin soyayya da wani wanda ke da tarihin nuna ƙarfin hali, jajircewa, da horo na kai ba? Idan dole ne ku fito da lamba, kwanan wata na biyar shine mafi kyawun lokacin don bayyanawa, in ji Tanner. "Za su riga sun san ku a lokacin sannan za su iya haɗa wannan sabon bayanin ba tare da lalata tasirin su na farko ba," in ji ta. (Don ƙarin shawarwari na lokaci, karanta Lokacin Da Ya dace don Magana Game da Komai a cikin Alakar.)

Wataƙila mafi kyawun alamar lokacin da ya dace don faɗi, kodayake, shine lokacin da kuke ji shirye. Eckel ya ce "Ba lallai ne ku gaya wa kowa tarihin rayuwar ku ba." "Yana da kyau mu fito daga wurin mutunci. Maimakon yin tunani, 'Shin zai hukunta ni?' yi tunani, 'Ina jin daɗin ba wa wannan mutumin wannan bayanin?' Kuna ba wa kanku iko. "

Ilyssa Israel, 39, mataimakiyar zartarwa daga Springfield, NJ, ta ji daɗi da mutum ɗaya har ta gaya masa a rana ta biyu cewa ta yi asarar kusan fam 100 bayan an yi mata tiyata ta ciki-kuma ta sami ƙarin tiyata don cire fatar fata. . Amsarsa: "Babba! Mai kyau ne a gare ku!" Sannan ya furta nasa gwagwarmaya da nauyi da sifar jikin. "Ina tsammanin gaya masa tun da wuri ya kawo mu kusa," in ji Isra'ila. "Za mu iya gaya wa junan mu mafi zurfin sirrin mu kuma mu kasance masu yarda sosai." Sun yi aure bayan shekara biyu.

Sarrafa Controllables

Ko ta yaya kuke sadarwa da abin da kuka gabata, ba za ku iya sarrafa yadda wasu ke ji ba. Yi shiri don wasu su zama marasa zurfi ko na sarari, in ji Eckel. Amma ku sani cewa wani lokacin, mutane suna ba ku mamaki. An taɓa Blanchfield lokacin da wani saurayinta da ya sadu da ita ya gaya mata cewa ta yi wahayi zuwa gare shi kuma daga baya, ya rasa nauyi mai yawa. "Na ji daɗi sanin cewa canza rayuwata da fitar da ita a wurin yana da tasiri mai kyau ga wani," in ji ta. (Ƙara wannan a cikin Alamomin 6 Ba-Don haka ba a bayyane yake Shi Majiɓinci ne.)

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