Cassey Ho Ya Bayyana Gwagwarmayar Rashin tabbas Game da Aure da Uwa

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Cassey Ho na Blogilates ya daɗe yana buɗe littafin tare da ƙungiyar mabiyanta. Ko dalla-dalla abubuwan da suka shafi hotunan jikinta ta hanya mai ban mamaki ko kuma yin gaskiya game da sauran rashin amincinta, abin sha'awa na Instagram ya raba bangarori daban-daban na rayuwarta a shafukan sada zumunta, har ma da tattaunawa a karon farko yadda take ji game da wani bangare na makomarta.

A cikin wani faifan bidiyo da ta wallafa a shafinta na Instagram a ranar Litinin, Ho tana jin dadin zaman gudun hijira a Bora Bora tare da mijinta, Sam Livits, shekaru uku bayan daurin auren. Yayin shirye -shiryen mafarkin yana nuna ma'aurata suna yin toasting tare da Champagne da tsalle zuwa cikin ruwan shuɗi mai ruwan shuɗi, Ho yana amfani da bidiyon balaguron amarci a matsayin dalilin yin gaskiya sosai game da mahimmin batu; a cikin taken, ta ci gaba da bayyana shakkun ta game da aure da uwa, da kuma yadda ta “firgita” ta raba ta da masoyan ta. (Mai Dangantaka: Cassie Ho tana Raba Dalilin da yasa koda tana jin kamar gazawa Wani lokaci).

"Yawon shakatawa na amarya yakamata ya zama farkon farkon rayuwa ta gaba tsakanin ma'aurata. Kuma dole ne in yi gaskiya tare da ku. Ina jin tsoro," in ji Ho. "Lokacin da ni da @samlivits muka fara haduwarmu ta farko a jami'a, ya ce 'Zan yi baba mai kyau sosai.' 😅 Babu shakka ban shirya yin magana irin wannan ba tsakanin tsaka-tsakin lokaci da takaddun bincike. Bugu da kari, da kyar aka ba ni 'izni' daga mahaifiyata!"

Yayin da alakarta da Livits "ta kara yin muni," Ho ya rubuta cewa "ya kawo tunanin aure," amma ita "ba ta jin shiri" a lokacin. Lokacin da Livits ya ba da shawarar shekaru tara bayan haka, Ho ya ce, "Ko da na yi tunanin ban shirya ba, ba komai saboda ya buɗe sabon matakin soyayya a cikin dangantakarmu wanda ban taɓa ji ba."

Yanzu shekaru uku da aurensu, Ho ya lura Litinin cewa "abin da Sam ya faɗa mini a kwaleji shekaru 13 da suka gabata shine batun da ba za a iya guje masa ba."

"Duk ranar daurin auren Sam yakan tambayeta "to yaushe zamu haihu?" kuma zan ce oh shekaru biyu.' Labari daya. Ban ji shirye ba saboda sana'ata ba ta kasance inda nake so ba, "in ji Ho. "Na firgita in gaya muku wannan saboda wataƙila yana ɗaya daga cikin abubuwan da na taɓa ji game da su. Wataƙila yana ɗaya daga cikin abubuwan da ba za a iya jurewa ba."

Ta ci gaba da cewa, "Ba kamar sauran matan da na taso a kusa da su ba, haihuwa jariri abu ne wanda kawai sun san suna so. Ni? Ban sani ba ko saboda yadda aka haife ni (super academ + career focus) ko idan akwai wani abu da ya kasa 'mata' game da ni, amma ba zan iya samun wannan sha'awar cikin gida na uwa ba." (Masu Alaka: Mata 6 Suna Rarraba Yadda Suke Juyar da Mahaifiyarsu Da Halayensu Na Aiki).

Ho ta bayyana a fili cewa ba ta ƙin yara ko kuma ba ta son zama uwa, sai dai tana jin "rashin wannan 'kira ta halitta' don zama uwa wanda mata da yawa suke da su. Ina nawa?"

"Abin ban mamaki ne saboda koyaushe ina sha'awar motsawa," in ji ta. "Ina bin zuciyata kuma koyaushe yana nuna min hanya madaidaiciya. Amma da wannan, zuciyata ba ta yi magana ba tukuna kuma bana son yin nadamar rasa wannan rayuwa."

Dangane da aika sakon gaskiya, Ho kwanan nan ya fada Siffa cewa ta yi imanin sauran mata za su ga sakon nata “ba shi da tushe,” amma abin ya ba shi mamaki.

"Gaskiya na yi tunanin wasu mata za su ga post dina ba zai yiwu ba, kuma na kasance a shirye don mayar da martani. Amma ga mamakina ... da yawa sun ce suna jin haka. Ni gaba daya ya ba ni mamaki. Ba ni da wani ra'ayi. Mata sun ji wannan '' rashin jan hankali '' zuwa ga uwa -uba! A koyaushe ina tunanin ni ce mai ban mamaki saboda duk matan da na girma a kusa sun san suna son yara tun suna ƙanana. Ni a ɗaya ɓangaren - koyaushe ina da ilimi da kuma sha'awar sana'a, watakila yana da alaƙa da yadda aka rene ni," in ji Ho.

"Ga duk wanda ke gwagwarmaya tare da dukan muhawarar yara - Ina ƙarfafa ku ku yi magana da kowane irin mata kuma ku saurari duk abubuwan da suka faru da kuma ra'ayoyi daban-daban na iyaye mata da wadanda ba uwaye ba. Ina saurare kuma ina koyo. Ina so. don samun damar yanke shawara kuma in sami kwarin gwiwa a cikin zabi na, amma a halin yanzu ba na jin kamar na san isashen tukuna,” ta ci gaba.

Daga baya Ho ta buɗe wa mabiyanta game da fitar da tallafin da ta samu a jerin Labarun Instagram.

"Ban san nawa sauran matan da ke wurin suka ji haka ba," in ji Ho. "Na ji kamar akwai wani abu da ke tare da ni... Na gode da kasancewa da fahimta game da wannan batu. Ina jin kadan ni kadai."

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