Kristen Bell Yana "Ƙaddamar" Waɗannan Nasihun don Sadarwar Lafiya

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Yayin da wasu mashahuran suka shiga cikin rikici, Kristen Bell ya mayar da hankali kan koyon yadda ake canza rikici zuwa tausayi.

A farkon wannan makon, TheVeronica Mars 'Yar wasan kwaikwayo ta raba wani sakon Instagram daga farfesa mai bincike Brené Brown game da "harshen rumble," wanda ke nufin masu karya kankara da masu fara tattaunawa da za su iya canza tattaunawa mara dadi daga wurin gaba zuwa son sani. Matsayin ya haɗa da nasihun da Bell ta ce tana shirin haddace ASAP kuma, TBH, tabbas za ku same su da taimako sosai. (Mai dangantaka: Kristen Bell yana gaya mana abin da yake so da zama tare da baƙin ciki da damuwa)

A cikin wani rubutun kwanan nan, Brown-wanda aikinsa ya bincika ƙarfin hali, rauni, kunya, da tausayi-ya sake fasalin kalmar "rumble" a matsayin wani abu mafi inganci kuma ƙasa da ƙasa.Labarin Yamma. "Tattaunawa ita ce tattaunawa, tattaunawa, ko taron da aka ayyana ta hanyar sadaukar da kai don jingina cikin rauni, don zama mai ban sha'awa da karimci, don tsayawa tare da tsaka-tsakin tsaka-tsakin gano matsala da warwarewa, yin hutu da da'irar baya idan ya cancanta, zama rashin tsoro wajen mallakar sassanmu, kuma, kamar yadda masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Harriet Lerner ke koyarwa, mu saurare mu da irin sha'awar da muke so a ji, "in ji ta.

A takaice dai, "rugu -rugu" ba koyaushe rikici ne mai rikitarwa ba, kuma ba lallai bane a buƙaci a kusance shi ko a sanya shi cikin farmaki. Maimakon haka, jita-jita wata dama ce ta koyo daga wurin wani kuma ka buɗe tunaninka da zuciyarka don fahimtar wani ra'ayi, koda kuwa ba lallai ba ne ka yarda da shi.

Rumble, ta ma'anar Brown, dama ce ta ilmantarwa da ilmantarwa. Wannan yana farawa da fahimtar cewa tsoro da jaruntaka ba sa rabuwa da juna; a lokacin tsoro, ko da yaushe zabi ƙarfin hali, ta yi nasiha. (Mai Alaƙa: Tsoron 9 don Bari Yau)

Brown ya rubuta: "Lokacin da muka ja tsakanin tsoron mu da kiran mu na jajircewa, muna bukatar harshe guda daya, dabaru, kayan aiki, da ayyukan yau da kullun wadanda zasu iya tallafa mana ta hanyar jita -jita." "Ka tuna, ba tsoro ba ne ke shiga hanyar ƙarfin hali - makamai ne. Hanya ce ta kare kanmu, rufewa, da fara posting lokacin da muke cikin tsoro."

Brown ya ba da shawarar "yin ruri" tare da zaɓaɓɓun kalmomi da jumloli, kamar "Ina sha'awar," "bi da ni ta wannan," "gaya mani ƙarin," ko "gaya mani dalilin da ya sa wannan bai dace da ku ba."

Ta hanyar kusantar tattaunawa ta wannan hanyar, tare da son sani maimakon ƙiyayya, kun saita sautin ga duk wanda abin ya shafa, in ji Vinay Saranga, MD, likitan hauka kuma wanda ya kafa Saranga Comprehensive Psychiatry.

Saranga ya ce "Lokacin da mutumin da kuke magana da shi ya ga sautin tashin hankalin ku da yaren jikin ku, ya riga ya sa ba su da karɓan abin da za ku faɗa saboda yana aika saƙon cewa kun riga kun zana ƙarshen ku ba tare da shigar da su ba," in ji Saranga Siffa. A sakamakon haka, ɗayan ba zai iya sauraron abin da za ku faɗa ba saboda sun shagala wajen yin shiri don su kāre kansu. Ta amfani da yaren jita -jita, mutumin da kuke magana da shi "yana iya yin aiki tare da ku fiye da ku," in ji Saranga.

Wani misalin jumlar magana ita ce: "Dukkanmu muna cikin matsalar kuma wani bangare ne na mafita," in ji Michael Alcee, Ph.D., masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam da ke zaune a Tarrytown, New York. (Masu Alaka: Matsalolin Sadarwar Sadarwa guda 8 a Dangantaka)

"[Maganar] 'idan ba ku cikin mafita ba, kuna cikin matsalar' ra'ayi ne mai ban sha'awa kuma a hankali, kuma ba ya yarda da tsarin rashin sani da gano tare. Yana buƙatar tausayi, hakuri, kuma ina son yin wani abu mai girma uku da sabon abu a cikin irin waɗannan tattaunawar, ”in ji Alcee Siffa.

Harshen rumble na iya fara zance, amma kuma yana iya kawo ƙarshen tattaunawar da ƙila ta fara da ƙarfi akan haske, mafi inganci. Ta wurin ɗan dakata, sake yin tattaunawa tare da tsarin rumble, da ƙyale kanka ka bincika batun ta kusurwoyi dabam-dabam, za ka yi mamakin ganin cewa kai da wanda kake magana za ka iya koya daga juna.

Alcee ta ce "Sanin son sanin matakin mutuntawa da daidaito ga mutumin da ka iya sabawa da shi kuma yana ba da damar koyo da yin sabon abu tare," in ji Alcee. Siffa. "Yana yin haka ta hanyar yin shaida na farko, da amsa na biyu." (Mai alaƙa: Ayyukan Numfashi guda 3 don magance damuwa)

Godiya ga Kristen don kawo mana waɗannan nasihun. Don haka, wanene ke shirye don yin ruri?

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