Muyi Magana Akan shakewa Lokacin Jima'i

Wadatacce

• Menene Maganganun Batsa?
• Me yasa mutane suke son shakewa yayin jima'i?
• Bangaren Jiki
• Bangaren Ilimin Halitta
• Shin Shaƙewa Lokacin Jima'i Ya Taɓa Aminci?
• Yadda Ake Hada Cigaba A Rayuwar Jima'i
• Mataki na 1: Sanin jikin ku.
• Mataki na 2: Yarda kafin, lokacin, da bayan.
• Mataki na 3: Sadar da iyakoki.
• Mataki na 4: Tsaya hankali.
• Bita don

Idan tunanin hannun wani a wuyanka - ko akasin haka - ya kunna ku, to maraba. Shaƙewa yayin jima'i ba sabon kink bane. Ba wani abu ba ne wanda ba wanda ya taɓa tunanin sa. Amma ya zama sananne sosai (ko aƙalla ya shiga tattaunawar jama'a) a wani ɓangare saboda abin da ya faru a watan Disamba na 2019 tare da wani ɗan shekara goma sha tara na New Jersey wanda ya mutu da gangan yayin yin shi tare da abokin wasa.

Sabanin sauran kinks kamar ɗaurin igiya da wasan ƙafar ƙafa, shaƙewa yana zuwa da haɗarin gaske. Yin hakan yana cire wa wani iskar oxygen, kuma tare da wannan akwai babban nauyi. Hanya mafi kyau don aiwatar da shaƙewa yayin jima'i, idan kun zaɓi aiwatar da shi kwata-kwata, shine fahimtar haɗarin kuma kuyi duk abin da za ku iya don ilimantar da kanku kan yadda zaku iya haɗa shi cikin aminci.

Anan, masu ilimin jima'i suna raba duk bayanan da kuke buƙata kan yadda ake yin shaƙewa yayin jima'i cikin aminci - saboda ana sanar da jima'i amintaccen jima'i. Bari mu shiga cikin nitty-gritty inda abin burgewa ya ta'allaka ne da shaƙa yayin jima'i da wasu mahimman abubuwan da za mu tuna kafin mu ba su.

Menene Maganganun Batsa?

Cushewa wani nau'in tashin hankali ne (EA) ko wasan numfashi wanda za a iya yi yayin solo ko jima'i na tarayya (lokacin da ake yin solo, a zahiri ana kiranta asphyxiation autoerotic). "Wasan numfashi ya haɗa da yanke muku iska, abokin aikin ku, ko ku duka yayin aikin jima'i," in ji likitan ilimin halayyar ɗan adam da likitan ilimin halin dan adam, Kristie Overstreet, Ph.D. A zahiri ƙuntatawa ne da gangan oxygen zuwa kwakwalwa don jin daɗin jima'i.

Shaƙewa yayin jima'i yana ɗaya daga cikin nau'ikan wasan numfashi da yawa. Sauran siffofin sun haɗa da ƙuntata hanci, rufe baki, da riƙe numfashi. Wasan numfashi (a kowane nau'i) yana faɗuwa a ƙarƙashin laima na wasan gefe - duk wani aikin jima'i wanda ke da yuwuwar haifar da mummunar cutarwa.

Me yasa mutane suke son shakewa yayin jima'i?

"Wasan nunfashi na iya haifar da haɓakar sha'awa," in ji ƙwararren masanin ilimin jima'i da ƙwararrun dangantaka, Ashley Grinonneau-Denton, Ph.D. Abin da ke sa mutum zuwa wannan yanayin tada hankali ya bambanta saboda akwai wasu matakan shaƙewa da za a yi la'akari da su.

Bangaren Jiki

Kimberly Resnick Anderson, ƙwararren masanin ilimin jima'i da mataimakiyar farfesa a fannin ilimin tabin hankali a Makarantar Magunguna ta UCLA David Geffen ta ce "A lokacin shaƙa, kwakwalwar ku ta ɓace da iskar oxygen." "Wannan na iya haifar da yanayin lucid duk da haka rabin-hallucinogenic." Rashin iskar iskar oxygen da ke kai wa kwakwalwa yana haifar da wata kwarewa da majinyatanta suka yi kama da faduwa a ciki da waje kuma suna jin dadi, in ji ta.

Sannan, "da zarar iskar oxygen ta dawo, jiki yana fitar da numfashi, a zahiri," in ji Grinonneau-Denton. "An fitar da wannan huhu tare da sakin dopamine da serotonin [neurotransmitters biyu] wanda galibi kan haifar da jin daɗi yayin da jiki ke aiki don murmurewa zuwa yanayin iskar oxygen da ya gabata." (Lura: Dukansu suna bayan motsa jiki mai girma.) Kwakwalwa tana ɗaukar zafi daga yanayin jima'i kuma ta fassara hakan zuwa jiki a matsayin jin daɗi. Domin, a zahiri, zafi da jin daɗi suna kunna irin sassan kwakwalwar da ke da alaƙa da dopamine.

Bangaren Ilimin Halitta

Hakanan akwai ɓangaren kunna-kunnawa. Grinonneau-Denton ya ce "Irin wannan nau'in wasan na haɗari yana buƙatar amincewa sosai daga abokin tarayya mai biyayya ga mai rinjaye," in ji Grinonneau-Denton. Ikon kasancewa mai iko ko ba da iko ga abokin tarayya na iya zama 'yanci. Hakanan yana iya nuna babban rauni. (Mai alaƙa: Jagora ga BDSM don Masu farawa)

Dalilin da yasa wani zai kasance cikin shaƙewa na iya zama ɗayan waɗannan abubuwan ko haɗuwa da su. Overstreet ya ce "Yana da mahimmanci a tuna cewa kowa yana shiga cikin sa saboda dalilai da roƙo daban -daban." Tun daga ji na jiki zuwa kwarkwasa da mutuwa, dalilin da ya sa wani ke jin daɗin shaƙewa yayin jima'i na sirri ne, kamar kowace sha'awa ta jima'i.

Shin Shaƙewa Lokacin Jima'i Ya Taɓa Aminci?

Grinonneau-Denton ya ce "Wasan nunfashi na batsa na iya zama mai hatsarin gaske, lokaci," in ji Grinonneau-Denton. "Tsaro da yarda koyaushe suna da mahimmanci. Kuma idan ya zo ga ƙuntata iskar oxygen, wani abu da dukkan mu ke buƙata don tsira da ci gaba da rayuwa, tabbas ba za a sami raguwa ba."

Babu yadda za a yi a kewaya hatsarori da ke tattare da al'adar shakewa. Don haka yana da mahimmanci ku san abin da kuke shiga da kan ku kafin ƙoƙarin sa.

Lura: Ganowa da fahimtar haɗarin yin jima'i baya daidaita da kunyatar da wani don bayyana sha'awar jima'i. Idan shaƙa yayin jima'i wani abu ne da kuke sha'awar bincika, ta kowane hali, yi - amma yi shi lafiya.

Yadda Ake Hada Cigaba A Rayuwar Jima'i

Da yake magana game da binciken al'adar shaƙa lafiya, ga wasu hanyoyin da za a iya bi don yin hakan.

Mataki na 1: Sanin jikin ku.

Grinonneau-Denton ya ce "Duk da cewa ba a tsara wuyan don ta zama mara nauyi ba, matsin lamba da yawa na iya haifar da babbar illa idan ba a ilmantar da ku ba game da abin da kuke yi ta fuskar ilimin lissafi," in ji Grinonneau-Denton. Ilimantar da kanku game da jikin wuyan zai iya taimaka muku koyon wanne ne mafi aminci da yadda ake amfani da matsi.

Akwai wasu muhimman sassa na jiki waɗanda ko dai suna ratsa wuya ko kuma kai tsaye a cikin wuyan, gami da kashin baya, muryoyin murya, ɓangaren esophagus, jijiyoyin jugular da ke fitar da jini daga fuska, wuya, da kwakwalwa, da carotid arteries wanda ke ba da jini ga kai da wuyansa.

Komai idan kuna amfani da hannayenku, alaƙa, ko wasu takunkumi, yana da kyau ku shiga wasan numfashi a matsayin mutum mai cikakken sani. A wannan yanayin, sanar da game da jiki na wuyansa. "A guji matsa lamba kai tsaye zuwa ga trachea [bututun iska] kuma a shafa matsi a gefen wuyansa maimakon," in ji Anderson. (Mai dangantaka: Mafi kyawun Jima'i Na Jima'i Idan kuna Sha'awar Gwada BDSM)

Anderson yana ba da shawarar haɗi tare da ƙwararre a cikin jama'ar BDSM akan dandamali kamar Fetlife. Wani wanda ya saba da aikin kuma yana iya (kuma yana son) ya nuna muku yadda ake amfani da matsin lamba tare da ƙarancin haɗari.

Mataki na 2: Yarda kafin, lokacin, da bayan.

Overstreet ya ce "Kada ma kuyi tunanin wasan numfashi ba tare da izini daga dukkan bangarorin ba." Yarda yana buƙatar kasancewa a zuciyar ku gaba ɗaya; sau ɗaya bai isa ba. Wannan ya haɗa da tambaya kafin ku shiga cikin wasan numfashi kamar shaƙa, gami da shiga ciki yayin ganin yadda ku duka ke ji.

Duk wanda ke da hannu yana da ra'ayin abin da ke faruwa. Kada ku ɗauka cewa saboda akwai yarda a farkon ko a karon farko cewa za a sami yarda a duk faɗin yanayi ko kowane lokaci. (Ga ainihin abin da yarda ya ƙunsa da yadda za a nemi shi yadda ya kamata - kafin da lokacin jima'i.)

Mataki na 3: Sadar da iyakoki.

Overstreet ya ce "Tabbatar cewa kuna iya magana, bayyananniyar sadarwa, da sauraro da himma." Kuna buƙatar jin daɗin isa tare da abokin aikin ku don ƙirƙirar da bayyana iyakokinku, gami da alamomin magana da maganganu. Kuma suna buƙatar jin daɗin ƙirƙirar da bayyana iri ɗaya tare da ku. Kowane mutum yana buƙatar kasancewa a kan madaurin raƙumi ɗaya kafin shiga cikin wani nau'in wasan numfashi kamar shaƙa.

"Kada ku kasance amintaccen kalma, amma kuma 'motsi mai lafiya' kamar yin alamar zaman lafiya da hannu ko buga/buga kafa sau hudu," in ji Anderson. Lokacin da kuka ƙuntata numfashin wani, alamun mara magana (motsi mai aminci) na iya zuwa da amfani.

Yin magana da sauraron abokin tarayya yana ba ku damar halarta. Kuna iya samun kyakkyawar fahimta game da abubuwan da kuke so da waɗanda ba a so, abubuwan da suke so da waɗanda ba a so, da ƙirƙirar yanayi mafi aminci.

Mataki na 4: Tsaya hankali.

Kuna son kasancewa a matsayin kasancewa (kuma mai hankali) gwargwadon yiwuwa don tabbatar da ƙwarewar tana da aminci da jin daɗi sosai. Hakanan, yarda a ƙarƙashin rinjayar ba da yarda da gaske bane. "Chemicals na iya lalata hukunci, rage dexterity da acuity, da haifar da bacci ko baƙar fata - yana haifar da rauni ko mutuwa," in ji Anderson. Idan kuna son yin aikin shaƙa yayin jima'i, ku bar barasa da kwayoyi daga cikin lissafi, don amincin ku da na abokin tarayya.

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