Ku San Gudun Ku: Yadda Lokutan Suke Canzawa Yayinda Kuka tsufa

Wadatacce

• Zubar da lokacin taboo
• Painauki zafi da mahimmanci, koda a lokacin ƙuruciya
• Tweens da matasa: Sau da yawa rikici, amma babu abin da zai kunyata
• 20s: Samun shiga tsagi
• Lokacin jima'i: Samun ko a'a
• Lokacin da bayyanar cututtuka na iya nufin wani abu
• 30s: Cakuda mai gauraye, amma kusan tsarki
• Lokaci don maganar ciki
• Tsawon lokaci
• 40s: Yin wasan tsinkaye
• Shekarun 50: Ku kawo mazauni

Zubar da lokacin taboo

Anan ga wata karamar damuwa don ya: Courtney Cox shine mutum na farko da ya kira wani lokaci a gidan talabijin na ƙasa. Shekarar? 1985.

Tablo na al'ada ya zama abu tun kafin shekarun 80s, kodayake. Akwai al'adu da yawa, al'adu, da al'adun addini a duk faɗin duniya suna faɗin abin da za a iya yi da wanda ba za a iya yi ba a tsawon lokaci. Kuma al'adun gargajiya ba su da kirki.

Abin godiya abubuwa suna tafiya sannu a hankali, amma har yanzu da yawa ana barin so. Hanya ɗaya da za'a zubar da wannan lokacin haram shine kawai magana game da shi - kira shi menene.

Ba "Aunt Flo ke zuwa ziyarta ba," "wannan lokacin na wata," ko "makon shark." Lokaci ne.

Akwai jini da ciwo wani lokaci taimako ko bakin ciki, kuma wani lokacin duk yana faruwa a lokaci guda. (Kuma wani abu: Ba kayan tsabtace mata bane, samfuran al'ada ne.)

Mun kai ga likita da wasu gungun mutane da ke da mahaifa don samun rauni a kan abin da yake kamar samun lokacin - daga balaga ta hanyar yin al'ada da abin da ke tsakanin su.

Painauki zafi da mahimmanci, koda a lokacin ƙuruciya

Kafin mu fara, da alama da yawa daga cikinmu da ke cikin mahaifa ba a ɗauki zafinmu da muhimmanci ba. Wataƙila an koya muku wannan shine yadda lokutan zasu kasance. Amma ciwon ku yana da mahimmanci.

Idan kun fuskanci wani abu mai zuwa a yayin ko lokacinku, to kada ku yi jinkirin neman mai ba da lafiya:

• zafi a cikin yankin pelvic
• lokuta masu zafi
• ƙananan ciwon baya
• zafi a cikin ƙananan ciki
• dogon lokaci
• nauyi lokaci

Wadannan alamun zasu iya nuna rashin lafiyar al'ada.

Yawancin cututtukan al'ada na yau da kullun ana bincikar su a cikin rayuwa, kamar a cikin 20s ko 30s. Amma wannan ba yana nufin sun fara faruwa a zahiri ba a wannan lokacin - kawai lokacin da likita ya tabbatar da hakan.

Kada ku yi jinkirin samun taimako, duk da shekarunku. Kun cancanci magani.

Tweens da matasa: Sau da yawa rikici, amma babu abin da zai kunyata

Matsakaici, mutane a Amurka suna samun lokacinsu na farko kusa. Amma wannan kawai matsakaici ne. Idan kun kasance oran shekaru kaɗan ko ƙarami, hakan ma al'ada ne.

Shekarun da kuka fara hailar ku sun dogara da, kamar kwayar halittar ku, adadin jikin ku (BMI), abincin da kuke ci, yawan motsa jiki da kuke samu, har ma da inda kuke zama.

A cikin fewan shekarun farko, abu ne gama gari lokacinka ya zama mara tsari da kuma rashin tabbas. Kuna iya yin watanni ba tare da wata alama ba game da shi sannan kuma haɓaka, ja Niagara Falls.

Mary Jane Minkin, MD, wata farfesa ce a asibitin OB-GYN da kuma ilimin sanin haihuwa a makarantar Yale ta ce "Menarche, farkon lokacin haila, tana nuna maza lokacin da jinin al'ada ya kama saboda da farko, kuma a karshe, ba mu yin kwai." na Magani.

Jikin mu na haila ana sarrafa shi ta hanyar homonin mu. Kwarewar jiki na wani lokaci - zub da jini, ciwon mara, jujjuyawar motsin rai, nono mai taushi - duk suna sauka zuwa adadin homonin da jikinmu ke fitarwa a kowane lokaci. Kuma wasu kwayoyin halittar guda biyu musamman sune suke bayyana yadda muke zagayawa.

"Estrogen yana motsa haɓakar rufin mahaifa, yayin da progesterone ke tsara ci gaban," in ji Minkin. “Lokacin da ba mu yin kwayaye, ba mu da tsarin sarrafa kwayar cutar. Don haka zaka iya samun waɗannan lokutan willy-nilly. Sun zo, basa zuwa. Sannan za a iya samun zubar jini mai nauyi, lokaci-lokaci. ”

Katia Najd ta fara samun al'adarta ne shekaru biyu da suka gabata lokacin da take 'yar shekara 15. Da farko ta samu wani yanayi ne wanda bai sabawa ka'ida ba - duk da cewa al'ada ce.

Najd ya ce: "Lokacin na ya kasance da haske sosai a farkon kuma ya dauki kimanin mako daya da rabi." "Ina kuma yin kusan lokuta biyu a wata, shi ya sa na yanke shawarar shan kwaya don daidaita ta."

Abu ne na yau da kullun don jin kunya, rikicewa, har ma da damuwa game da lokacinku da farko. Abin da ke da cikakkiyar ma'ana. Yana da sabon sabo, galibi rikice-rikice wanda ya shafi ɓangaren jikin ku sosai.

"Na kasance ina tsoron zubewa a makarantar sakandare (ban ma fara al'ada ba, amma na ji tsoron zan fara sannan na zube) cewa zan shiga ban daki kamar kowane rabin sa'a kawai don dubawa," in ji Erin Trowbridge. "Na kasance cikin fargaba irin wannan na tsawon shekaru."

Da ta girma Musulma, Hannah Said ba ta da izinin yin sallah ko azumi a lokacin Ramadan lokacin da take haila. Ta ce wannan ya sa ta ji ba dadi, musamman lokacin da take tare da sauran masu addini. Amma godiya ga tallafi daga mahaifinta, ba ta shigar da ƙima sosai ba.

"Mahaifina shi ne mutum na farko da ya fara sanin lokacin da nake al'ada kuma ya saya min pads," in ji ta. "Don haka koyaushe abu ne da nake jin daɗin magana a kansa, musamman tare da maza."

Hakanan, Najd ta ambaci goyon bayan dangin ta a matsayin daya daga cikin dalilan da ba ta jin mummunan ra’ayi game da al’adarta.

"Ina da kanne mata guda biyu, saboda haka na saba da jin labarin kafin na fara," in ji ta. "Abu ne da kowace mace ke da shi, don haka ba abin da za a ji kunya da shi ba ne."

20s: Samun shiga tsagi

Don haka, lokuta suna ko'ina cikin wuri a farkon. Amma yaya game da ɗan ƙarin lokaci?

Shekarunka na 20 sune ranar haihuwar ka. Wannan shine lokacin da jikinku ya shirya sosai don haihuwa. Ga yawancin mutane wannan yana nufin cewa hawan su zai zama na yau da kullun.

“Yayinda mutum ya dan kara girma ya wuce matakin al’ada, sai su fara yin kwai. Lokacin da ka fara yin kwayaye, hana duk wani abu da bai dace ba, zaka fara zagayowar wata-wata, "in ji Minkin.

Amma idan kun kasance a cikin 20s, kuna iya karanta wannan tunani: "Babu wata hanyar da zan iya samun yara kowane lokaci nan da nan!" Gaskiya: samun yara fiye da da.

Abin da ya sa yawancin mutanen da ke cikin 20s ke ci gaba da amfani da ikon haihuwa ko hau kan sa. BC na iya kara tsara sake zagayowar ku idan ya kasance ko'ina cikin wurin a da. Koyaya, yana iya ɗaukar ɗan lokaci don nemo nau'in BC mai dacewa.

Amma ya danganta da nau'in hana daukar ciki da kuma mutumin, farawa BC na iya haifar da kowane irin canje-canje - wasu munanan abubuwa da zasu sa mutum ya canza.

Aleta Pierce, mai shekara 28, ta shafe shekaru biyar tana amfani da IUD na jan ƙarfe don hana haihuwa. “[Lokacin al'adaina] ya kara nauyi bayan na sami jan ƙarfe na IUD. A da, lokacin da nake kan tsarin haihuwa na kwayoyin halitta (NuvaRing, kwaya), yana da sauki sosai kuma ba shi da wata alama. ”

Lokacin jima'i: Samun ko a'a

Tsakanin shekarun 20 da 29, yana iya zama lokaci mai mahimmanci don gano balaga - gami da irin nau'in jin daɗin da ke da kyau. Ga mutane da yawa, wannan ya haɗa da yanke shawarar yadda suke ji game da jima'i lokacin.

"Na fi kwanciyar hankali yanzu da jima'i na lokaci fiye da yadda nake a da," in ji Eliza Milio, 28. "Galibi ina yawan juyawa kai tsaye a farkon zagayen. Koyaya, yana da wuya sosai in yi jima'i lokacin da nake kwana biyu mafi nauyi na a zagaye na saboda ina samun kumburi da kunci wanda duk abin da nake son yi shi ne cin ice cream a cikin wando. Ba daidai ba ne. ”

Ga Nicole Sheldon, mai shekaru 27, yin jima’i wani abu ne da Yayi daidai da barin sa a baya.

"Lokacin jima'i ba wani abu bane da nake shiga sau da yawa. Na kasance ina da ƙari da shi lokacin da nake ƙarami, amma yanzu ya zama kamar ya rikice sosai sai dai idan na yi wanka, ”in ji ta.

Ba lallai bane ku guji yin jima'i na lokaci idan baku so, kodayake. Yana da aminci don samun - kawai ɗan rikici a wasu lokuta. Yi abin da ke da kyau a gare ku da abokin tarayya.

Lokacin da bayyanar cututtuka na iya nufin wani abu

20s sau da yawa shekaru goma ne lokacin da mutane da yawa suka fahimci cewa alamun su na iya zama alamar yanayin al'ada, kamar:

• cututtukan ƙwayar cuta na ƙwayar cuta (PCOS)
• endometriosis
• fibroids
• premenstrual ciwo ko PMDD
• rashin hawan jini
• lokuta masu zafi (dysmenorrhea)

Idan har yanzu kuna fama da ciwo, babban nauyi mai gudana, lokaci mai tsayi, ko wani abu yana da alama mai raɗaɗi ko kashe gaba ɗaya, nemi mai ba da lafiya.

30s: Cakuda mai gauraye, amma kusan tsarki

30s mai yiwuwa hadaddiyar jaka ce idan ta zo lokacin al'ada. A farkon shekaru goma, mai yiwuwa har yanzu kana yin kwaya-kwaya a kai a kai kuma zaka iya tsammanin lokacinka ya zama kamar ya kasance a cikin 20s naka.

Ga wasu, wannan na iya nufin ciwo. Kuma da yawa daga ciki.

"[Na fuskanci] soka, rauni na rauni a cikin ƙashina na baya da ƙwai, da nono mai taushi da rashin barci a cikin kwanakin da ke tafe, da kuma matsanancin motsin rai, wanda ya sa ni kuka a daidai lokacin hular hula," in ji Marisa Formosa, 31

Amma duk da rashin lafiyar jiki da al'adarta ta kawo, Formosa tana jin haɗi da motsin zuciyarta na wata-wata.

"A cikin shekarun da suka gabata, na kasance mai girman kai da kare kariyata a lokacin al'ada," in ji ta. “Ya kusan zama mai tsarki a wurina. Na yi imani da shi yana danganta ni da ƙasa, zuwa lokatai, ga tsarin madauwari da zagayowar rayuwa da mutuwa. Don haka kyamar al'adu da yanayin wasu lokuta, wadanda na sanya su a ciki kamar na mutum na gaba, suna jin haushi na. "

Lokaci don maganar ciki

Jikinmu na iya zama a shirye don yara a cikin 20s, amma wannan ba yana nufin sauranmu ba ne. A zahiri, yawan haihuwa na matan cis a Amurka sama da 30 a 2016.

Ciki na iya yin adadi a jiki. Canje-canje basu da adadi kuma sun sha bamban ga kowane mutum. Amma abu daya tabbatacce ne: Babu wanda ke samun lokacin su yayin da suke da juna biyu. (Kodayake wasu tabo na iya faruwa).

A cikin watanni kai tsaye bayan haihuwa, zaku iya samun lokacinku kai tsaye, ko kuma zai iya ɗaukar watanni kafin ku dawo.

Minkin ya bayyana cewa dawowar al’adar mutum ya danganta ne kan ko suna shayarwa ne kawai, suna kari da madara, ko kuma kawai suna amfani da madara.

Minkin ya ce: "Lokacin da kake shayarwa, kana yin wani sinadari mai yawa da ake kira prolactin," "Prolactin yana danne samuwar kuzarin jijiyoyinku kuma yana hana ku samun ciki."

Ga Allison Martin, 31, haihuwar ta kasance maraba da hutu daga ƙawarta ta ɗabi'a. Amma idan al'adarta ta dawo, sai ta dawo da ramuwar gayya.

"Akwai watanni shida masu daukaka ba tare da wani lokaci ba saboda shayarwa," in ji ta. “Amma yanzu zubda jinina da daddare yana da nauyi sosai wani lokacin na kan yi bacci a kan tawul don hana rigunan jini. Wannan galibi galibi ne na zagayowar dare biyu, kuma kwanan nan na gano manyan jakar jakunan da duniya ta sani. Ta magance wannan matsalar! ”

Tsawon lokaci

Ga wasu, tsakiyar zuwa ƙarshen 30s shine kickoff zuwa sabon-tafiya: perimenopause.

An ayyana shi a matsayin shekaru 8 zuwa 10 da suka kai ga lokacin yin jinin al'ada, naƙasasshe ne sakamakon jikin da yake samar da ƙarancin estrogen da progesterone.

Minkin ya ce "Daga karshe mutum zai isa wurin da suke yin estrogen ba tare da yin progesterone ba, ko kuma ya kara rufin mahaifa ba tare da kulawa ba," in ji Minkin. "Saboda haka kuma za ku iya samun wadannan mahaukatan dabarun zubar jini."

Duk da yake al'ada ce kwata-kwata fara farawa a cikin shekaru 30, yawancin mutane da gaske za su shiga cikin kaurinsa a cikin shekaru 40.

Kuma kamar koyaushe, idan kuna fuskantar ciwo ko wani abu baya jin daidai, yi alƙawari tare da doc.

40s: Yin wasan tsinkaye

Wataƙila ba za ku tsere wa shekarunku na 40 ba tare da rasa losingan undies na undies saboda, kwatankwacin shekarun bayan lokacinku na farko, perimenopause duk game da bazuwar ne da kuma rashin tabbas na zubar jini.

Don yawancin rayuwarta ta girma, Amanda Baker ta san abin da za ta yi tsammani daga idonta. Ta yi jini na kwana huɗu, na farko ita ce mafi nauyi kuma ukun da ke bi a hankali suna taɓarɓarewa. Sannan a 45 ta rasa lokaci.

“Na kasance tarkacen jirgi tun daga lokacin, tabowa kusan kowace rana, ko bazuwar zubar da jini, kawai kusa-akai-akai zubar jini na wani nau'i. Wannan makon [ya kasance] zub da jini mai yawa da manyan dasassu na dabino, ”in ji Baker.

Kodayake shekaru 40 lokaci ne na gama gari, Minkin ya yi gargadin cewa lokuta marasa tsari shi kadai bai isa ya ce tabbas wani yana fuskantar hakan ba.

Idan kun yi zargin kun kasance masu kusanci, ku kula da sauran alamu da alamomin da suka dace, kamar su:

• farji-wanda-ba-saba ba
• walƙiya mai zafi
• sanyi da zufa na dare
• matsalar bacci
• yanayi na tunani da haushi da koma baya
• riba mai nauyi
• bakin gashi da bushewar fata
• asarar cika nono

Ba lallai ba ne dole ka kira likitanka lokacin da ka fara haila, amma za su iya rubuta magani idan an buƙata. Abubuwan da aka saba yi - motsa jiki sau da yawa fiye da ba, cin abinci daidai, yin bacci mai kyau- na iya yin abubuwa da yawa don inganta alamomin.

Shekarun 50: Ku kawo mazauni

Yawancin masana sun yarda da mutum a hukumance yana yin al'ada lokacin da basu da watanni na watanni 12 a jere. A Amurka, wannan yana faruwa, a matsakaita, yana da shekaru 51.

Yawancin mutane na iya tsammanin alamun bayyanar cututtukan su na sauƙi a cikin shekarun su na 50 yayin da suka kusanci ƙarshen ƙwan ƙwai. Wasu suna gama al’ada da wuri ko daga baya.

Aileen Raulin, mai shekara 64, ta shiga lokacin da take haila a lokacin da take da shekaru 50. Duk da cewa ba ta samun wani lokaci na wata-wata, amma har yanzu tana fuskantar canjin yanayi na homon.

Raulin ya ce "Kafin fara al'ada, lokacin da nake zagayawa a cikin jiki na kan ji haushi kuma zan kasance cikin damuwa." "Yanzu har yanzu ina lura da wannan yanayi na damuwa a kowane wata, kuma dole ne in sanya pad."

Minkin ya ce muddin mutum yana da kwai, zai yuwu ka ga wasu abubuwa na aikin ciki. Kodayake ga mafi yawan mutanen da suka haura 60, ba za a sami wani aiki da yawa ba.

Tafiya cikin al'adar al'adar maza na iya zama abin birgewa, kuma ba wai kawai saboda saurin sauyawar yanayin halittar mutum ba. Wakilan al'adu na mutanen da suka gama al'ada sunada wahalar samu. Yana yawan jin kamar batun da bai kamata muyi magana akansa ba.

Bari mu canza wannan.

Ba lallai bane muyi komai sama da gaskiya da kuma ainihin kanmu, kamar yadda Viola Davis yayi kwanan nan lokacin da yake bayani game da al’ada. (Cewa Jimmy Kimmel dole ne ya tambaye ta ma'anar al'adar al'ada wani labari ne.)

Tattaunawa game da kwararar ku, ko kuna da shi ko ba ku da shi, yana taimaka muku sanin kanku.

Ginger Wojcik mataimakin edita ne a kamfanin Greatist. Bi ƙarin aikinta a Matsakaici ko bi ta akan Twitter.