Menene Cuckolding, kuma me yasa mutane suke juyar da shi?

Wadatacce

• Menene Cuckolding? Darasin Tarihi Mai Sauri
• Dalilin da yasa mutane ke cikin Cuckolding
• Yadda ake Farawa da Cuckolding
• Kasance 'Yanci, Masoya Maza!
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Cuckolding, yayin da ba a san shi sosai ba ko magana game da shi, a zahiri shine mafarki na gama gari tsakanin ma'aurata. A cikin bincike don littafinsa Fada Mani Abinda Kuke So, Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D., ya yi nazari kan Amurkawa 4,175 kuma ya gano cewa kashi 26 na matan da ba maza ba, kashi 52 na maza maza da mata, kashi 42 na matan da ba maza da mata ba, da kuma kashi 66 cikin dari na mazan da ba maza ba. Akwai ma duk subreddits akan Reddit da aka sadaukar don r/cuckoldcommunity, r/cuckholdstories, har ma r/cuckoldpsychology kowannensu yana da dubun dubatan membobi.

Amma menene ma'anar cuckolding, daidai?

Anan, amsoshin duk tambayoyin ku na cuckolding (da wasu waɗanda wataƙila ba ku ma san kuna da su ba) da shawara kan yadda ake sadarwa game da cuckolding tare da abokin aikin ku.

Zauna a baya, shakatawa, kuma bari kanku bincika yiwuwar sabon kasadar jima'i.

Menene Cuckolding? Darasin Tarihi Mai Sauri

Tarihin cuckolding na iya zama mai ɗan rikitarwa - amma wannan shine ainihin dalilin da ya sa, a matsayina na malamin jima'i da likitan ilimin dangantaka, Ina matukar sha'awar ilmantarwa, karya ƙima, da ƙarfafa mutane su rungumi ko wanene su. (Ko da sassan ku da ba ku sani ba tukuna!)

TBH, ni ba mai son bayanin ma'anar intanet ɗin cuckold bane. Amma, don tarihin tarihi da ci gaba da rushe hasashe na heteronormitve a cikin al'ummar mu, bari muyi magana game da shi.

A cewar Merriam-Webster, cuckold shine mutumin da matarsa ​​ba ta da aminci. Matar mazinaci mazinaciya cuckquean.

Misali: In Hamilton, bayan an gano cewa Alexander Hamilton da kansa yana kwanciya da wata mata, mijinta ya rubuta wa Hamilton yana cewa "uh oh, kun sanya mai tsotsan tsotse ya zama kumbura."

A cikin shekaru da yawa (na godewa alheri), kalmar cuckolding ta samo asali ne don ma'anar wani abu fiye da layin tayi ko kink wanda abokin tarayya (wanda ake kira "cuck") ya kunna abokin tarayya (wanda ake kira "cuckoldress"). ) yin jima'i da wani (wanda aka fi sani da "bijimin"). A cikin al'amuran da yawa, ana kunna cuck musamman ta kallo abokin tarayyarsu ya yi jima'i da wani.

Tabbas, kamar sauran kalmomi da yawa a fagen jima'i, ainihin ma'anar na iya kasancewa ga fassarar kowane ma'aurata da abin da kowane mutum ke yarda da farin ciki (wataƙila bayan yin doguwar tattaunawa game da matakan ta'aziyya).

A zamanin yau, zaku iya yin hira da ma'aurata da yawa waɗanda dukkansu suna shiga cuckolding kuma kowannensu yana da ra'ayoyi daban-daban na abin da cuckolding ke nufi gare su-wannan shine sihirin sadarwa, gwaji, da duniya mai ci gaba da haɓaka!

Dalilin da yasa mutane ke cikin Cuckolding

Idan baku taɓa jin labarin cuckolding ba ko kuma baku taɓa jin daɗin ra'ayin gwada shi ba, kuna iya mamakin dalilin da yasa ma'aurata da yawa suka same shi da sexy.

Ga mutane da yawa, ra'ayin kallon abokin tarayyarsu yana yin abubuwan batsa tare da wani ɗan adam ya wuce abin sha'awa. Bari in zana muku hoto: Kuna samun yin jima'i da abokin aikinku akai -akai kuma a bayyane yake, wannan yana da zafi! Amma, da wuya za ku iya ganin yadda yake kama daga wasu kusurwoyi da kuma yadda suke a zahiri yayin yin jima'i. Ina nufin, batsa ne na rayuwa, a gaban fuskarka, kuma abokin tarayya shine tauraro. (Dangane: Ta Yaya Zaɓin Batsa na Gaskiya Ya Shafi Jima'i da Dangantaka?)

Ga wasu mutanen da ke jin daɗin yin walwala (jin daɗin kallon mutane suna yin jima'i), kallo yana da ban sha'awa kamar kasancewa cikin aikin (wataƙila ma ƙari). Kuma ga waɗanda ke baje koli (waɗanda ke jin daɗin yin jima'i a gaban wasu), wannan kuma hanya ce mai daɗi don bincika hakan.

Plusari, Hakanan ana iya samun wasu ƙarfin ƙarfin sexy yayin wasa a cikin yanayin cuckold. Sau da yawa, bijimin yana cikin rawar da ta fi rinjaye, yana haifar da yanayi ko yanayin da duka biyun ko ɗayan mutane za su iya yin biyayya.

Dangane da jinsi na mutanen da abin ya shafa, cuckolding kuma na iya zama hanya mai ban mamaki don bincika jima'i yayin da kuke cikin dangantakar da ke akwai. Gaskiya mai daɗi: Fiye da mutane 12,000 suna bincika Google don "bi cuckold" kowane wata. (An danganta: Abin da Bisexuality yake nufi, Baya Ma'ana, da Yadda ake Sanin Idan Kana Bi)

Kuma ga wasu mutane, wulakanci cuckold shine babban zane; a zahiri, ra'ayin yaudara (yarda) yana kawo jin kishi da wulakanci wanda zai iya zama babban juyi. Haƙiƙa wulakanci hasashe ne na gama-gari kuma makusanci ne ga wasa mai biyayya.

Cuckolding shine ainihin akwati wanda yawancin abubuwa daban -daban masu ban sha'awa zasu iya faruwa: haɗuwa (aikin jin daɗin jin daɗin abokin tarayya da haɓakawa), kishi (wanda ba lallai bane mummunan abu), cika buri, wasan iko - yanayi ba su da iyaka.

Yadda ake Farawa da Cuckolding

Yanzu, da kuka koya game da cuckolding, ta yaya za ku fara? (Idan kai da abokin tarayya kuna sha'awar gwaji.)

Shawarwarina na farko shine muyi magana. Wataƙila wannan yana da kyau a bayyane, amma bari in bayyana.

Na farko, magana game da abin da kowannenku ya sami sexy game da ra'ayin cuckolding da kuma dalilin da ya sa. Sannan yi cikakken bayani kan matsayin da kowane mutum zai shiga idan/lokacin da cuckolding zai faru. Ta wannan hanyar kuna duka kan shafi ɗaya ne kuma kuna iya fara hango fantas ɗin iri ɗaya.

Sa'an nan, kai shi cikin ɗakin kwana - amma kamar yadda ku biyu. Yayin da kuke jima'i, ku yi magana tare game da abin da zai faru a yanzu idan kun kasance cikin yanayi mai ban sha'awa. Bari kowane mutum ya raba abin da zai yi, abin da zai so abokin aikin sa ya yi, da abin da mutum na uku zai yi. Hakanan kuna iya yin la’akari da kallon wasu batutuwan cuckolding na batsa don samun comfier tare da ra'ayin kuma ku ga yadda zai yi. (Ƙari anan: Yadda Ake Samun Lafiya Mai Kyau)

Wannan yana da mahimmanci saboda yana sa ya zama mafi inganci kuma yana ba ku damar yin wannan fatar tare kafin tsalle cikin komai.

Sannan, fara kallo! Akwai aikace-aikacen da suka haɗa da jima'i da yawa waɗanda ma'aurata za su iya amfani da su don neman mai son ɓangare na uku don shiga cikin nishaɗi. Hashtag Open yana bawa ma'aurata damar yin bayanin kansu, abin da suke nema, da kuma abin da suka ji daɗi game da tsari. Wannan yana tabbatar da cewa mutane na iya rage binciken su don nemo daidaikun mutane masu yarda don nishaɗin cuckolding. Feeld shine wani aikace-aikacen jima'i mai kyau don ma'aurata da ma'aurata da ke neman "kwanan kwanan wata fiye da al'ada."

Kalma ga masu hikima: Kada ku taɓa "mamaki" kowa da abin kunya (ko wani abu na jima'i don wannan al'amari). Idan wani ya yarda ya yi jima'i da ku amma kuna da niyyar dawo da su gida ga abokin tarayya ... tabbas wannan ba shine mafi kyawun tsarin ba. Ana buƙatar gaskiya, yawan sadarwa, da tsarawa don yawancin gogewar jima'i-kuma ku amince da ni, yana sa lokacin sexy ya fi kyau lokacin da babu damuwa kuma iyakokin/iyakokin kowa sun fito fili! (Mai alaƙa: Yadda ake Ƙiyata Iyakoki da Kowa A Rayuwar ku)

Kasance 'Yanci, Masoya Maza!

Idan akwai cikakken wani abu da kuka cire daga wannan, bari ya kasance: sadarwa, sadarwa, sadarwa. Jima'i yana da rikitarwa, amma yana iya zama ƙasa da rikitarwa (kuma mafi nisa) idan kun kawo duk tsammanin da iyakoki a fili don duk bangarorin da abin ya shafa su iya ganin su. Bayan haka, je ku ɗan more nishaɗin cuckolding.

Rachel Wright, MA, L.M.F.T., (ita/ta) ƙwararren likitan ilimin halin ɗabi'a ne, mai koyar da jima'i, da ƙwararriyar alaƙa da ke zaune a birnin New York.Ta kasance gogaggen mai magana, mai gudanarwa kungiya, kuma marubuci. Ta yi aiki tare da dubunnan mutane a duk duniya don taimaka musu su yi kururuwa da ƙima.

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