Kwakwalwarku Akan: Soyayya

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Sabuwar soyayya na iya sa ku ji kamar kuna tafiya mahaukaci. Ba za ku iya ci ko barci ba. Kuna son samun shi ...duka lokacin. Abokanka suna jefar da kalmomi kamar "son zuciya" (kuma ba ku musun su). Amma ko da kun kasance tare da wani shekaru da yawa, ƙauna tana ci gaba da motsa kwakwalwar ku ta hanyoyi masu ban mamaki, ba tare da ambaton Yadda Ƙarfin Dangantakarku ke Tasirin Lafiyar ku ba. A gaskiya, soyayya tana tafiya kai tsaye zuwa kai-a zahiri. Nemo yadda kwakwalwarka ke shiga cikin soyayyar ku.

Sabuwar Soyayya

Wasu na kiranta da “matakin sha’awa”. Amma wasu hanyoyin da sabon soyayya ke shafar kwakwalwar ku zai ci gaba muddin kuna tare da abokin auren ku-koda dangantakar ku ta kasance shekaru 50, in ji Helen Fisher, Ph.D., masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam kuma marubucin Me Ya Sa Muke So.

A wannan matakin farko, Fisher ya ce babban yanki na ayyukan kwakwalwa masu alaƙa da soyayya shine yankin ventral tegmental area (VTA). Yana sarrafa tsarin ladan ku, kuma yana taka babban rawa a cikin sha'awar ku, ikon ku na mai da hankali, da matakan kuzarin ku. yaya? VTA na ku yana haɓaka samar da dopamine-mai motsa jiki na halitta wanda ke ambaliya da wasu yankuna na kanku kuma yana samar da madaidaicin magani, in ji Fisher. Ta bayyana cewa "Kuna jin farin ciki da annashuwa, kuma wataƙila har ma da ɗan damuwa yayin da kuke tunanin abokin aikin ku," in ji ta.

Ta ce akwai kuma aiki a wani yanki na kwakwalwarka da ake kira insular cortex, wanda ke kula da yanayin damuwa. Wannan yana bayyana wani lokaci mai wahala, ɗan ƙaramin abu mai ban sha'awa na sabon soyayya wanda zai iya sa muku wahala barci ko cin abinci kullum, in ji Fisher.

Watanni da yawa cikin alaƙar ƙauna

Cortex ɗinku na ciki ya lalace, wanda ke nufin ba ku da ɗan nutso fiye da yadda kuka kasance lokacin da soyayyar ku ta ɗauka. Wataƙila za ku ji ƙarancin damuwa da ɗimuwa fiye da yadda kuke yi a da, kuma ƙila ci da baccin ku ya koma cikin ramukan su na yau da kullun, in ji Fisher.

Har yanzu akwai karuwa a cikin samar da kwakwalwar ku na dopamine mai kara kuzari a duk lokacin da kuke tunani game da abokin tarayya. Amma yana iya mamaye tunanin ku kamar yadda ya yi lokacin da kuka fara soyayya, Fisher ya ba da shawara.

Bincike daga Burtaniya yana nuna hormone wanda ke sarrafa matakan cortisol na kwakwalwar ku-wanda ke haɓaka lokacin da kuke damuwa-yana kuma yin alama yayin da ba ku tare da abokin tarayya. Fisher ya ce yana da ma'ana cewa za ku ji ƙarancin kwanciyar hankali da damuwa yayin da kuke nesa da ƙaunar ku. (Waɗannan fa'idodin soyayya guda 9 na lafiya suna iya zuwa da mamaki kuma).

Soyayya Mai Dorewa

Kodayake wasu sun ce in ba haka ba, binciken Fisher ya nuna VPA ɗinku har yanzu yana ƙonewa lokacin da kuke tunani game da mutumin ku. "Ko da bayan shekaru da yawa, mun lura da irin sakin dopamine da farin ciki lokacin da mutane ke tunanin abokan hulɗarsu," in ji ta. Kuma ayyuka a cikin pallidum na huhu ya haɓaka sannu a hankali - wannan yanki na iya kasancewa yana da alaƙa da jin kusanci mai zurfi, in ji Fisher.

"Har ila yau, akwai ayyuka a yankuna biyu da ke da alaƙa da jin daɗin kwanciyar hankali da jin zafi," in ji ta, tana magana akan raphe nuclei da periaqueductal launin toka. Ta ce akwai ma bincike da ke nuna mutanen da ke cikin soyayya za su iya jure zafi fiye da marasa aure.

Don haka ko soyayyar ku sabuwa ce ko kuma ta tsufa, tunanin abokin tarayya yana girgiza kwakwalwar ku ta hanyoyi masu ban mamaki. "Ƙauna ba ta canzawa kamar yadda mutane ke zato, ko da bayan shekaru da yawa," in ji Fisher. Kuma za ku iya gaske mulki wannan sabon-ƙaunar walƙiya da haɓaka inzali ta hanyar gwada ɗayan waɗannan samfuran Jima'i 6 na Naughty a cikin ɗakin kwana .... ko da gaske a ko'ina (kawai gwada kada ku kama!).

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