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• Yi farin ciki
• Kalli Cikin Idon Junansu
• Breauki Hutu
• Karanta Duk Game da Shi
• Take Control
• Kar Ku Manta Bayan Jima'i
• Ƙara Wasu Abubuwan Mamaki
• A yi kawai!
• Bita don

Jima'i na iya zama sihiri, duk yana tattare-kuma lokaci-lokaci kadan kadan, musamman idan kuna tare da sabon saurayi ko kuna son gwada sabbin abubuwa (amma ba ku san inda za ku fara ba). Labari mai dadi: 'yan lokuta masu girgiza tsakanin zanen gado ba yana nufin cewa ku biyu ba daidai ba ne, yana iya nufin lokaci ne da ya dace don yin bincike don nemo jima'i da ke aiki a gare ku a matsayin ma'aurata, in ji Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., masanin ilimin jima'i kuma marubucin Samun Jima'i da kuke so. Don haka duba (kuma ku ji!) kamar pro-kuma yaji abubuwa sama-komai your gwaninta matakin da wadannan takwas sauki tweaks.

Yi farin ciki

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"Ko da kuwa abin da kuke yi, sha'awa ya fi fasaha mahimmanci," in ji Mark Michaels, mawallafin marubucin. Abokan hulɗa a cikin So. Nemo kanka jin meh game da jima'i? Ka yi tunanin abin da zai sa ka ji daɗi sosai. Wataƙila yana nuna sabon kayan kamfai ne ko kuma ya nemi ya ba ku dogon tausa da wannan sabon magarya. Duk abin da ke sa ku ji daɗi zai fassara zuwa wasan ɗakin kwanan ku yana da ban mamaki. (Aika saƙon racy babbar hanya ce ta haɓaka tashin hankali. Anan akwai Nasihu 5 na Jima'i da kowace mace ke Bukatar sani.)

Kalli Cikin Idon Junansu

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Sauti mai daɗi, amma mai da hankali kan idanun sa yana ɗaukar hankali daga abin da ke gudana a ƙarƙashin bel ɗin kuma yana yin komai game da haɗin gwiwa ku biyu, in ji Michaels. Wannan gaskiya ne musamman yayin magana, lokacin ɗaukar alamomi daga yanayin fuskarsa mahimmanci ne.

Breauki Hutu

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Ko jima'i ne na baki, motsawar hannu, ko saduwa, tuna cewa babu wata '' daidai '' hanyar yin komai. Idan kuna jin gajiya ko samun rauni, tsayawa da ɗaukar lokaci don sumbata da shafawa, ko canzawa da sanya shi ɗaukar ƙarin aiki yana da kyau, yana tunatar da Michaels.

Karanta Duk Game da Shi

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Godiya ga 50 inuwa na Grey, Batsa ya sami babban farfadowa - kuma wannan babban labari ne ga rayuwar jima'i na kanka, in ji Alison Tyler, masanin jima'i kuma marubucin 25 litattafan batsa. "Kare kunnen shafin da kuke so kuma ku karanta shi da babbar murya ga abokin tarayya, ko sauraron podcast mai ban sha'awa. Hanya ce mai sauƙi don daidaita tattaunawar zuwa irin abubuwan da ke kunna ku." Domin ba magana kuke yi ba na ku abubuwan da suka gabata na sirri, yana sanya ku duka a shafi ɗaya dangane da abin da kuke son gwadawa tare. (Hakanan, bincika waɗannan Fantasies 5 na Jima'i-An Bayyana.)

Take Control

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Don dare ɗaya, yi maraice duk game da shi. Ka gaya masa ba zai iya motsi ko taɓawa ba sai da izininka. Ee, yana da ɗan ƙaramin rinjaye-y, amma zai taimaka muku duka biyun mafi kyawun suss daga yankuna masu lalata da juzu'i waɗanda zasu iya zama da wahala a samu lokacin da ku duka kuna yin aikin. Washegari da dare, ka sa shi ma ya yi maka. Ba wai kawai yana da zafi don samun maraice don jin daɗin rashin laifi ba, duk-game da ni jin daɗi, amma dainawa (da ɗaukar) sarrafawa yana ba ku damar nuna maɓallan ku masu rauni don haɗin gwiwa mai dorewa.

Kar Ku Manta Bayan Jima'i

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Sauti gaba ɗaya G rated, amma ya bayyana, manyan ƙwarewar cuddling ɗaya ne daga cikin mafi kyawun hasashen rayuwar jima'i mai kisa. Wani binciken kwanan nan daga Jami'ar Toronto Mississauga ya gano cewa halayen jima'i bayan jima'i, gami da sumbata, runguma, da zance na soyayya, yana inganta gamsuwa da jima'i. Kiyaye hasken tattaunawar bayan jima'i. Mayar da hankali kan abin da ke da ban mamaki a wannan lokacin, maimakon zurfafa zurfafa cikin yarinta ko fara "ina wannan ke tafiya?" tattaunawa.

Ƙara Wasu Abubuwan Mamaki

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Bin diddigin ƙanƙara a jikinsa, ɗora zuma a kan nonon nono da sanya shi lasa, ko gwada sabon abin wasa na jima'i duk manyan hanyoyin canza abubuwa ne. "Jima'i ya kamata ya zama abin jin daɗi," in ji Michaels, kuma gwada sabon abu yana da tabbacin girgiza abubuwa. Ko da dabarar ta ƙare ba zama wani abu da za ku ƙara a cikin jerin ayyukanku na yau da kullun ba, gwada shi-da dariya game da shi idan ku duka kun same shi da wauta fiye da sexy-ƙwarewa ce ta kusa da za ta iya sa ku kusanta. (Plusari, sami wahayi na gida mai dakuna tare da haɓakawa 7 na Kinky don Rayuwar Jima'i.)

A yi kawai!

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Ba don yin sauti kamar tallan wasan motsa jiki ba, amma wani lokacin, abu mafi mahimmanci a yi shi ne kawai a yi shi. "A cikin dogon lokaci, abin da ake kira 'jima'in kulawa' na iya haɓaka zuwa cikin cikakkiyar gamsuwa da ma'ana mai ma'ana don bayyana sha'awar ku," in ji Nelson. "Wani lokaci, jima'i shine game da yin aiki ta hanyar tashin hankali da damuwa na mako mai aiki da kuma tasowa fiye da kowane lokaci." Don haka manta game da zama Grey na Kirista na gaba kuma ku mai da hankali kan kasancewa ku.

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