Dalili Na 1 Dalilin Mata Masu Yaudara

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Za ku dauka cewa auren da abokin tarayya ke yaudara a cikinsa shine aure a kan kafafunsa na ƙarshe, ko? Sabuwar binciken da aka gabatar a taro na 109 na Ƙungiyar Harkokin Jima'i ta Amurka ya nemi bambanci. Yawancin abokan tarayya suna farin cikin auren su-amma kuma suna neman wani abu, binciken mata 100 tsakanin masu shekaru 35 zuwa 45 an gano. (Lura: Ɗauki wannan tare da ƙwayar gishiri, kamar yadda mahalarta binciken su ma membobin AshleyMadison.com, shafin yanar gizo ne na daidaikun mutane masu neman al'amuran aure.) Amma mafi ban sha'awa na binciken? Babu ɗayan matan da ke cikin binciken da ya nuna sha’awar barin aurensu. Kashi sittin da bakwai sun ɓace saboda suna son ƙarin "sha'awar soyayya."

Kuma yayin da yana iya zama kamar yana da matsala da yawa don tsara jadawalin kwanan wata, masu binciken da ke cikin binciken sun ce ba ya aiki haka. "Wani dogon bincike na ilimin jima'i shine jima'i tare da mutum ɗaya ya zama mai ban sha'awa," in ji marubucin binciken Eric Anderson, Ph.D., farfesa na maza a Jami'ar Winchester a Ingila, da kuma babban jami'in kimiyya a AshleyMadison.com .

Kuma yayin neman jima'i a wani wuri na iya aiki don wasu ma'aurata (tunanin Frank da Claire Underwood a ciki Gidan Katuna), wannan ba shine kawai hanyar da za a bi ba (ko mafi kyawun bayani!). Fara, a maimakon haka, ta hanyar magana kawai. Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., mai ilimin jima'i da dangantaka kuma darakta na The Intimacy Institute a Boulder, CO ya ce "Yawancin ma'aurata, har ma da waɗanda ke tsananin soyayya, ba su san yadda ake magana game da jima'i ba. .

Idan kai da abokin aikinku duka suna da ɗan ɗan damuwa game da batun-amma duka suna son kawo ƙarin kayan ƙanshi a cikin ɗakin kwana-yi rajista don bita a shagon jima'i na gida don daren kwanan ku na gaba, masana sun ba da shawarar. Zai iya taimaka muku ku more jin daɗin magana abin da ke juyar da ku da abin da ba ya yi. An bar tufafi, amma samun ƙwararren yana magana da dabaru daban-daban da shawarwari na iya sauƙaƙa muku buɗewa bayan aji tare da jin daɗin yin wani abu mai sexy tare.

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