Dangantakarku na iya Shafar Siffar Jikin ku

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Nemo mutumin da yake son ku ba tare da sharadi ba ya kamata ya zama babban ƙarfin ƙarfin gwiwa, daidai? To, a cewar wani sabon bincike, a zahiri ba haka lamarin yake ba duka dangantaka, musamman waɗanda ake ɗaukar ɗaya abokin tarayya ya fi ɗayan. (Bayanin gefe: Shin hotunan kwikwiyo zasu iya zama sirrin dangantaka mai ƙarfi?)

Masu binciken bayan binciken, wanda aka buga kawai a cikin mujallar Hoton Jiki, yana so ya bincika yadda alaƙar soyayya za ta iya hasashen yuwuwar mata na haɓaka cin abinci mara kyau. Daga ƙarshe, sun gano cewa mata a cikin alaƙa da maza waɗanda ake ganin sun fi kyau suna jin ƙarin matsin lamba don zama na bakin ciki da abinci. A gefe guda, lokacin da ake ganin macen da ke cikin dangantaka ta fi kyau, ba sa jin irin wannan matsi. Mai harbi? Maza ba sa jin matsi ba tare da la’akari da wanne abokin tarayya ake ganin ya fi kyau ba. Ugh.

Sama da ma'aurata 100 da suka yi aure kwanan nan (kuma masu jaruntaka) sun amince da a tantance su gwargwadon kyawun su. Kowane mutumin da ya shiga ya cika cikakkiyar takardar tambaya da ta yi tambayoyi game da siffar jiki, ko suna farin ciki da yadda suke kama, da kuma irin matsin lamba da suke ji don a gan su a matsayin sirara da/ko kyakkyawa. An kuma ɗauki cikakken hoto na kowane mutum kuma an tantance shi don kyan gani (ƙididdigar 1 zuwa 10) ta ƙungiyar mutane masu zaman kansu. A ƙarshe, matan da aka ƙaddara ba su da kyan gani fiye da mazajensu sun fi jin daɗin kansu kuma suna da babban motsawa don cin abinci. Ciwon ciki.

Amma kamar yadda Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D., LMFT, ya gaya mana a farkon wannan shekara: "Batun dangantaka shine daidaita al'amura da samun daidaito a matsayin ma'aurata. duniya. " A takaice, ba kowane abokin tarayya a cikin ma'aurata ya zama * daidai * kamar ɗayan. Bambance -banbance a cikin jan hankali ba na kowa ba ne, sun saba dari bisa ɗari.

Amma menene za mu iya yi don gyara yanayin cin abinci? To, ɗalibar digiri na uku Tania Reynolds, wadda ta kasance ɗaya daga cikin jagororin marubutan binciken, ta jaddada mahimmancin abokan tarayya maza suna ɗaukar lokaci don bayyana goyon bayansu ga mata. "Hanya daya da za a taimaka wa matan nan ita ce abokan hulda su sake tabbatarwa, suna tunatar da su, 'Kuna da kyau. Ina son ku a kowane nauyi ko nau'in jiki,'" in ji Reynolds a cikin sanarwar manema labarai. Tabbas, ya kamata a ba da waɗannan ra'ayoyin a kowace dangantaka, amma watakila akwai daraja a tabbatar da faɗi su da babbar murya kuma a yi karin haske game da shi, maimakon kawai a ɗauka cewa an fahimci yarda da jiki. Kuma idan abokin tarayya ya soki jikin ku ta kowace hanya, yana iya zama lokaci don sake la'akari da dangantakar. (FYI, ga yadda jayayya rashin bacci tare da abokin aikinku ke cutar da lafiyar ku.)

Marubutan suna fatan cewa ta hanyar fahimtar waɗannan alamu a cikin alaƙa da kuma ilimantar da wasu game da masu hasashe da alamun gargaɗi, ƙungiyar likitocin za su iya ba da taimako a baya maimakon daga baya ga matan da ke haɓaka cin abinci mara kyau ko yanayin jikin mutum. "Idan muka fahimci yadda alakar mata ke shafar shawarar su ga cin abinci da masu hasashen zamantakewa don haɓaka halayen cin abinci mara kyau," in ji Reynolds, "to za mu fi iya taimaka musu."

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