5 Fantassions na Jima'i—Bayyana

Wadatacce

• Yin Jima'i A Wani waje Ba Sabon Shiri
• A mamaye
• Yi Jima'i da Wani Sabo
• Yin Jima'i
• Haɗa Lokacin Jima'i
• Bita don

Mun yi wani batu na taba tattauna mafarkinmu-kuma wannan gaskiya ne musamman idan ya zo ga jima'i. Amma idan muka bayyana manyan abubuwan mu na fantasy na zanen gado, abokanmu za su fahimci-watakila suna da iri ɗaya. A wani bincike na baya-bayan nan kan manya 1,516, masu bincike daga Jami’ar Quebec sun gano cewa yawancin tunanin jima’i sun fi yawa fiye da yadda ake tunani a baya. Anan, buƙatu biyar da yawancin mata ke yarda da su, tare da ƙwararrun shawarwari kan yadda ake ɗaukar motsi don gwajin gwaji na ainihi.

Yin Jima'i A Wani waje Ba Sabon Shiri

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Wannan ra'ayi ya zama ruwan dare musamman a cikin dangantaka mai tsawo, in ji Laura Berman, Ph.D., likitan jima'i da dangantaka da kwararre na jima'i na Durex. Wancan saboda ƙoƙarin yin wani sabon abu-ko hakan yana nufin zuwa wani wuri daban-daban fiye da yadda aka saba ko yin aiki a waje da ɗakin kwanciya-a zahiri yana ƙarfafa cibiyoyin dopamine na kwakwalwa, yana haɓaka jin daɗi da annashuwa.

Gwada shi: Mafi munin wuri don gwada abin da saurayinku ke ji game da wauta a jere na baya na gidan fim shine lokacin da fitilu suka fara lalacewa, in ji Berman. Kawo shi yayin lokacin tsaka tsaki (karanta: ba lokacin da kuke jima'i ko a cikin zaɓin ƙaƙƙarfan zaɓin ku ba), kuma ku kasance a shirye don yin shawarwari. Zai iya ƙin ra'ayin ku na yin jima'i a wurin shakatawa na jama'a, alal misali, amma ku buɗe don zuwa wurin a wani lungu na bayan gida, in ji Berman.

A mamaye

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Hamsin hamsin na launin toka bai fara shakuwar ƙasar da BDSM ba-kawai an yi amfani da ita sosai. "Mata a yau suna juggling abubuwa da yawa a kowace rana, cewa ra'ayin ba da iko ga wani-ba wai kawai ba, amma wanda ya san abin da zai yi da wannan iko-na iya zama mai ban sha'awa," in ji Berman.

Gwada shi: Kamar yadda yake tare da jima'i na jama'a, BDSM ba wani abu bane don gwadawa akan son rai. Da farko, tambayi mutumin ku yadda zai ji yana haɗa wasu bautar ko maganganun datti a cikin al'amuran ku na yau da kullun. Idan yana cikin jirgi, yi tafiya da shi ta kyakkyawan yanayin ku. Maza da yawa na iya yin jinkirin ɗaukar babban matsayi a cikin ɗakin kwana, don haka takamaiman umarni na iya taimakawa, in ji Berman. Hakanan yana da mahimmanci: ɗaukar kalma mai aminci kafin farawa. (Ba mata kaɗai ke yarda da fantasy na BDSM ba. Yana ɗaya daga cikin Sirrin Namiji Guda 5 waɗanda A zahiri Gabaɗaya ne.)

Yi Jima'i da Wani Sabo

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Berman ya ce gaba ɗaya al'ada ce don aƙalla aƙalla wani iri -iri, musamman idan kun kasance tare da saurayinku tsawon shekaru. Duk da yake ana iya shirye -shiryen mutane don auren mace ɗaya, sha'awar neman canjin yanayin ba haka bane.

Gwada shi: Berman baya bada shawara a zahiri yin jima'i da wani abokin tarayya, koda kuwa babban sauran naku yana cikin jirgi. "Yana buɗe akwatin Pandora," in ji ta. "Wani ya daure ya ji kishi ko rashin kwanciyar hankali." Maimakon haka, gwada wasan kwaikwayo. Ka sa mutuminka-a matsayin baƙo-ya ɗauke ka a mashaya, ko ka tambaye shi ya sa wig ko sutura a gado. Kokarin sabon matsayi zuwa gare ku, kunna batsa yayin da kuke wauta, ko amfani da abin wasa na jima'i yayin aikin kuma na iya cika burin ku na canji.

Yin Jima'i

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Duk da gano shi sexy, "adadin mutane masu ban mamaki ba sa jin daɗin jima'i ta baki," in ji Berman. Ko dai suna damuwa game da dabarun su (idan sun kasance masu yin wasan) ko damuwa game da jin daɗin sauran su (shin muƙamuƙin sa yana gajiya? Ina jin ƙanshi? Shin ina ɗaukar tsayi da yawa?).

Gwada shi: Idan damuwa kan rashin yin "daidai" yana hana ku, Berman yana ba da shawarar kawai neman darussan kan layi-kuna iya jin wauta, amma a wannan yanayin, ilimi shine mafi kyawun makamin ku. Idan kuna damuwa game da kasancewa a ƙarshen karɓar, a gefe guda, gwada matakan jariri. "Fara da rokon sa ya sauka akan ku na mintuna uku kawai. Gaba, gwada biyar," in ji ta. Sa'an nan kuma mayar da hankali kan zama a cikin lokacin har sai lokacin ya ƙare. Kawai gaya masa game da gwajin tukuna, ko kuma yana iya ɗauka yana yin abin da ba ka so lokacin da ka dakatar da shi, yana haifar da damuwa a gare shi.

Haɗa Lokacin Jima'i

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Mafi yawan tunanin mata na ɗaya daga cikin mafi ƙarancin haɗari a cikin jerin waɗanda ke son jin motsin soyayya yayin jima'i. "Yana nuna mahimmancin yadda haɗin kai ke da alaƙa da kusanci," in ji Berman. "Domin zan iya ba ku abubuwa 365 da za ku gwada don haɓaka rayuwar jima'i, amma idan kai da abokin tarayya ba ku da wannan ƙarfin na cikin gida, babu abin da zai yi aiki."

Gwada shi: Don jin kusanci da abokiyar kwanciyar hankali, gwada dabarun jima'i na jima'i, waɗanda ke jaddada shiga cikin wannan haɗin kai, in ji Berman. Motsa jiki ɗaya mai sauƙi: Zauna a kafaɗa da kafaɗa da abokin tarayya, sannan ɗora hannun dama akan zuciyarsa. Yayin kallon idanun juna, daidaita numfashin ku da nasa. "Wannan yana taimaka muku cibiyar, daidaita sauran duniya, da haifar da ƙarin ƙarfi a tsakanin ku kafin ku zama jiki," in ji Berman.

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