Na Kokari Mafi kyawun Shawarar Jima'i ta Reddit-kuma Abin Mamaki Yayi Kyau

Wadatacce

• Masturbate Tare da Abokin Hulɗa
• Shiga cikin Bayan Kulawa
• Sake Kafa Jima'i Mai Shawa
• Shirya Jakar Goodie Jima'i
• Kuna son ƙarin shawarwarin jima'i?
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Faɗar da ramin zomo na Reddit kuma kuna latsawa daga duk abin da kuke so ku sani game da kula da fata, bacci, ciki, da (kuna iya mamakin koya) jima'i!

Tabbas, ba za ku iya yarda da duk abin da kuke karantawa akan layi ba kuma ba a kula da zaren zaren Reddit don daidaito - "Babu laifi ga Reddit, Ina son rukunin yanar gizon, amma yana iya zama wurin kiwo ga mutanen da ke tunanin sun san komai, "In ji Lisa Finn, masanin ilimin jima'i a gidan wasan yara na wasan kwaikwayo na Babeland-amma wannan ba yana nufin wannan rukunin yanar gizon da aka fi so ba yana ɗaukar wasu abubuwan ƙima.

Don haka na gudanar da wasu shawarwarin jima'i na Finn da Lateef Taylor, mai koyar da jima'i kuma mai ba da shawara game da jima'i, kuma tare da amincewarsu, na gwada su don kaina.

Gungura ƙasa don karanta game da huɗu mafi kyawun nasihunin jima'i da na samu akan Reddit - da abin da ya faru lokacin da (abokina da) na gwada su.

Masturbate Tare da Abokin Hulɗa

Wani mai amfani da Reddit ya tafi cibiyar yanar gizo don gano ko wasu mutane (banda shi da matarsa) sun sami sihirin al'aurar juna. A cikin kwanaki biyar kacal, sama da mutane 2,500 suka hau wannan mukamin don su bar shi su ma suna son sa.

"Na sami kusantar raba wani abu na sirri kamar jin daɗin kai abin ban mamaki," in ji fos ɗin asali (OP). "Gaskiya ne babba kuma na ga yana da kusanci sosai!" inji wani mai amfani. Wani mai sharhi wanda ke fama da ciwo na yau da kullun yana lura da al'aura tsakanin juna shine "alherin Allah" lokacin da suke cutarwa: "Zan iya zama cikin kwanciyar hankali a ƙarƙashin kushin ɗina kuma in huta a cikin hannun mijina kuma ina jin kusanci sosai."

Menene game da al'aurar juna wanda ya sa ya zama mai kusanci kamar yadda waɗannan Redditters ke faɗi? Finn ya ce: "A matsayina na al'umma, al'aurar al'aura har yanzu ba ta da kyau. Wani abu ne da ake tunanin ana yinsa a cikin sirri ko kuma a'a," in ji Finn. Raba wannan tare da abokin tarayya na iya zama mai rauni ga wasu, "kuma wannan raunin raunin zai iya haifar da kusanci sosai," in ji ta.

"Wannan babbar ƙwarewar ilmantarwa ce," in ji Taylor. "Kuna samun kallo da nazarin yadda abokin aikin ku yake son a taɓa shi." Wataƙila koyaushe kuna motsa yatsunku gefe-da-gefe yayin da suke taɓa kansu ta amfani da da'irori, ko wataƙila kuna riƙe vibrator daidai a wurin hotspot ɗin su, yayin da suke son riƙe shi a gefe, in ji Taylor. Kuna iya amfani da duk waɗannan bayanan don faranta wa abokin tarayya rai. (Masu Alaka: 13 Nasihun Masturbation Mai Buga Hankali)

SOSAI na gamsu da gwada wannan tukwici, na ciro ɗaya daga cikin sabon firgita da na fi so, abokina ya ciro lube ɗin. Bayan haka, mun cuɗe Bryson Tiller kuma muka ci gaba da taɓa kanmu, tare. Kuma fam, bari in gaya muku: Yana da kusanci da HA-T kamar yadda masu amfani da Reddit za su yarda. Musamman idan akwai ido…

Shiga cikin Bayan Kulawa

Idan bayyanar ku ga BDSM an iyakance zuwaHamsin hamsin na launin toka, za ku iya tunanin wasan-ƙarfi ya haɗa da zafi, bulala, bulala, ko ɗaurin hannu. Amma akwai wani abin da ba ku gani ba; "bayan kulawa" wani abu ne (mai alhakin) masu aikin BDSM suna yin bayan jima'i ko wani yanayi kuma, a cewar wasu masu amfani da Reddit, abu ne da kowa (kinky ko a'a) yakamata yayi. (Mai dangantaka: Jagorar Masu Farawa zuwa BDSM).

Menene bayan kulawa, daidai? Wani mai amfani da Reddit ya bayyana kulawar bayan kamar, "zama mai daɗi da tausayawa da kasancewa tare da juna bayan jima'i. Don haka, cokali, rungumi juna, yin magana a hankali, tambayar ko suna lafiya ko suna buƙatar wani abu. hannayen wasu ko riƙe hannayensu. Wasu lokutan, kunsa juna cikin bargo ko shafa juna yayin magana. "

Finn ya ce hakan ya yi daidai ko ƙasa da haka, yana ƙara da cewa kulawar bayan gida yana nufin tabbatar da cewa kai da mai ƙaunarka kuna jin kwanciyar hankali, girmamawa, kulawa, da kwanciyar hankali. "Duk da yake yana da mahimmanci don yanayin BDSM mai ƙarfi ko mafi ƙarfi, ana iya amfani da shi bayan jima'i na vanilla (duk da haka kuna bayyana hakan)," in ji ta, ta yarda cewa kulawar bayan kowa ce.

Ainihin, kawai yana ɓata lokaci tare bayan jima'i, taɓa juna cikin ƙauna, da yin wasu nazarin bayan jima'i. Finn ya ce: "Lokaci ne mai kyau don yin magana game da abin da kuke so, abin da ba ku so, abin da kuke so ku sake gwadawa na gaba, abin da ya ji daɗi, ko ma yadda ya sa ku ji daɗi," in ji Finn.

A matsayina na wanda ya yarda da aiki, yana iya zama da wahala a gare ni in sanya lokaci don yin jima'i, balle kuma cudanya bayan jima'i. Zan iya tsayawa don haɗa ɗan ƙaramin kulawa bayan abin da nake yi na jima'i -musamman idan aka yi la'akari da yaren soyayya na boo kalmomi ne na tabbatarwa da taɓawa ta zahiri. (Ba ku da tabbacin yaren soyayyar abokin tarayya? Ga yadda ake magana game da shi-da sauran convos don rayuwar jima'i lafiya.)

Wata Lahadi bayan wasan wasa da wasu sabbin kayan jin daɗi, ni da abokin aikina mun yanke shawarar ƙara ƙarin kulawa na niyya. Mun shafe sa'o'i muna godiya, cokali, da kuma ƙaunar juna. Kamar yadda zaku iya tsammani, abin so ne kamar shirme kuma da gaske ya buɗe mana ƙofa don yin magana game da ~ namu ~. Har ila yau, na sami tausa, wanda yake kama.

Sake Kafa Jima'i Mai Shawa

The yarjejeniya tsakanin Redditors shi ne cewa shawa jima'i ne, da kyau, m, kuma mafi kyau bar ga fina -finai. "0/10 zai ba da shawarar, Ina tsayawa kan motar da ke cike da cunkoso ko jima'i," in ji wani Reddit. "Ina jin tsoron rayuwata lokacin da nake [yin jima'i] a cikin wanka," in ji wani.

Duk da wannan ra'ayi na kowa da kowa game da jima'i na shawa, akwai cikakkun bayanai game da inganta shi. (Mai Alaƙa: Manyan Abubuwan Nasihu na Yin Jima'i Abin Mamaki)

La'akari da ni da abokin aikina muna yin wanka akai-akai amma da wuya mu shiga hanky-panky yayin da muke can, mun yanke shawarar ba da ɗayan shawarwarin gwadawa: Sauya wasan shawa mai shiga ciki tare da fara wasa.

Finn ya ce "Jima'i na shawa, duk da zafi kamar yadda ake yi, na iya zama mai tsananin haraji da haɗari, musamman idan akwai shigar ciki," in ji Finn. Kuma saboda ruwa yana wanke man shafawa na jiki, shiga ciki na iya zama mara daɗi, in ji ta.

Amma "ɗaukar jima'i ta farji da tsuliya daga kan tebur ba ma'aunin tsaro ba ne kawai," in ji Taylor. "Hakanan yana ba ku damar bincika jima'i na baki, wasan girgizawa, tausa, jima'i ba tare da shiga ciki ba, tausa, da sauran ayyukan jima'i waɗanda galibi za ku iya mantawa da su." (Mai alaƙa: Matsayin Jima'i Mafi Kyau kuma Mafi Aminci).

A karo na farko da muka gwada shawa "jima'i," mun kawo wartenberg pinwheel (ICYDK, abin wasa ne na abin mamaki). Ya yi nishadi sosai, mun sake gwada hakan rana guda, amma kuma ya kawo vibrator mai hana ruwa. Hukuncin karshe? Yin jima'i ba tare da shiga ciki ba hanya ce mai steamier fiye da jima'i shawa na yau da kullun.

Shirya Jakar Goodie Jima'i

Shin kun taɓa damuwa game da tambayar fling na yau da kullun idan za ku kwana? Masu amfani da Reddit suna da mafita: Yi ɗan jakar tsabta da samfuran jima'i waɗanda za ku iya so na dare ko kuma ku yi nesa da gida. (Masu Alaka: Tambayoyin Da Ake Yiwa Mutum Kafin Yin Jima'i Da Su).

A cikin zaren hoto ko bidiyo mai zagaya yanar gizo da sauri, sama da masu amfani da Reddit 2,300 sun ɗauki ra'ayoyin don raba abin da ke ɓoye a cikin buhunan jima'i. Yayin da wasu kawai ke adana samfuran tsabtacewa kamar wanke fuska, deodorant, da buroshin haƙora, wasu sun haɗa da ƙarin wando, lube, da kayan wasa na jima'i - wanda daga baya Finn da Taylor ke ganin ya fi kyau.

"Duk lokacin da za ku yi jima'i da wani, kuna son samun samfuran jima'i mafi aminci, kayan wasan jima'i, da lubes waɗanda za su sa ku ji daɗi da jin daɗin jin daɗi," in ji Taylor, ya kara da cewa wannan yana da mahimmanci musamman idan kuna da duk wani rashin lafiyar sinadaran da ake samu a cikin lubes ko kwaroron roba. "Kasancewa irin wannan shirin zai kawar da tambayoyi da yawa da rashin tabbas, wanda zai iya taimaka muku nutsuwa don haka ku more jin daɗin ƙwarewar," in ji Taylor.

Yayin da yawancin masu amfani da Reddit ke ajiye buhunan jima'i a cikin motocin su, Finn ya lura cewa kwaroron roba da lubes na iya lalacewa saboda tsananin zafi. "Kwayoyin robobin da aka ajiye yawancin man shafawa a ciki sun fara wargajewa daga zafin rana, haka ma latex a cikin kwaroron roba," in ji ta. Don haka idan kuna zaune a wani wuri mai ɗumi, tabbatar da musanya kwaroron roba don sababbi bayan shimfidar zafi mai zafi. (Mai Alaƙa: Kuskuren Condom 8 masu ban tsoro da Kuna Iya Yin)

Kodayake ni da abokin aikina mun isa sosai cewa ban damu da tambayar kowacce q a gaba ba, ina son ra'ayin samun samfuran jin daɗi na tare da ni - kuma bayan daren jiya, bari kawai mu ce na yi farin ciki da na yi.

Kuna son ƙarin shawarwarin jima'i?

Idan kuna sha'awar abin da sauran shawarwarin jima'i ke yawo a kusa da Reddit, Ina ba da shawarar gungurawa ta cikin wannan zaren, wanda gidaje ke kusa da nasihu 2,000 kan yadda ake farantawa abokin tarayya. Kawai ku tuna, "abin da ke aiki ga mutum ɗaya bazai yi muku aiki ba (da abokin aikinku)," in ji Finn. "Kuma idan ba haka ba, ba yana nufin jikinku ya karye ba!"

Kuma don ci gaba da kwararar (ƙwararriyar ƙwararre!) Nasihun jima'i, koyaushe kuna iya yin rijistaSiffaJaridar jima'i da labarai, NSFW.

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