Um, Me yasa Mutane ke samun 'Doulas Mutuwa' da Magana Game da 'Lafiyar Mutuwa?'

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Mu yi maganar mutuwa. Yana jin irin rashin lafiya, dama? Aƙalla, batu ne da ba shi da daɗi, kuma wanda da yawa daga cikinmu ke guje wa gaba ɗaya har sai an tilasta mana mu magance shi (BTW, ga dalilin da ya sa muke ɗaukar mutuwar shahararrun mutane sosai). Sabon yanayin rayuwa mai lafiya yana ƙoƙarin canza hakan.

Ana kiransa "motsi mai kyau na mutuwa" ko "lafiya ta mutuwa," kuma a sauƙaƙe, yana farawa da yarda cewa mutuwa wani bangare ne na rayuwa.

Sarah Chavez, babban darektan wata kungiya mai suna The Order of the Good Death kuma co-founder of Death & the Maiden, wani dandali na mata ya ce "Yin mutuwa yana nuna sha'awar wani abu da dukanmu za mu fuskanta a rayuwarmu." don tattauna mutuwa.

Mutanen da ke jagorantar wannan yunkuri ba su damu da bangaren duhu ba; a gaskiya, yana da akasin haka.

"Muna yawan magana game da mutuwa," in ji Chavez, "amma a wata hanya mai ban mamaki, ba batun mutuwa bane, amma game da inganta rayuwar mu."

Cibiyar Lafiya ta Duniya ta haɗa da cikakken rahoto mai taken "Mutuwar Lafiya" a cikin jerin Sababbin Lafiya na Duniya na 2019, wanda aka saki a farkon wannan shekarar. Har ila yau, yana da'awar cewa tunanin mutuwa hanya ce ta gyara yadda muke tunani game da rayuwa. (Mai Alaka: Hadarin Mota Da Ya Canza Yadda Nake Tunanin Janairu)

Beth McGroarty, darektan bincike na GWI kuma marubucin rahoton, ya yi nuni ga wasu abubuwa da ke rura wutar tashin hankali na mutuwa. Daga cikinsu: tasowar sabbin al'adu a kusa da mutuwa yayin da mutane da yawa suka bayyana a matsayin "na ruhaniya" maimakon "addini;" da likitanci da kaɗaicin mutuwa a asibitoci da gidajen kulawa; da Baby Boomers suna fuskantar mace-macen su da ƙin mummunan ƙwarewar ƙarshen rayuwa.

McGroarty ya ce wannan ba kawai wani yanayi ne da zai zo ya tafi ba. "Kafofin watsa labarai na iya yin watsi da cewa 'mutuwa tana da zafi a yanzu,' amma muna ganin alamun farkarwar da ake buƙata sosai game da yadda shiru game da mutuwa ke cutar da rayuwar mu da duniyar mu - da kuma yadda za mu yi aiki don dawo da ɗan adam. da kimarmu ga kwarewar mutuwa, ”ta rubuta a cikin rahoton.

Ko kun yi la’akari da shi ko ba ku yi la’akari da shi ba, abin da ke sa hankali shi ne cewa kowa ya mutu—kuma kowa zai fuskanci mutuwar ƙaunatattunsa da baƙin cikin da ke biyo baya. "Hakika rashin son mu fuskanci ko magana a fili game da mutuwa ya taimaka wajen samar da masana'antar jana'izar dala biliyan 20 da ba ta biya bukatun yawancin mutane," in ji Chavez.

Dalili ɗaya da ba mu tattauna mutuwa na iya zama abin mamaki. "Da yawa daga cikin mu suna da camfe -camfe ko imani wadanda suke zama kamar wauta a saman," in ji Chavez. "Abin mamaki ne a gare ni yadda mutane da yawa suka gaskata cewa ba ku magana ko ambaton mutuwa saboda ko ta yaya za ta kawo muku mutuwa."

Tare da ingantaccen motsi na mutuwa, an sami haɓakar mutuwar doulas. Waɗannan su ne mutanen da ke jagorantar ku ta hanyar shirin ƙarshen rayuwa (a tsakanin sauran abubuwa)-ma'ana suna taimaka muku ƙirƙirar takamaiman takarda, akan takarda, wanda ke ba da bayanin yadda kuke son magance wasu bangarorin mutuwar ku. Wannan ya haɗa da abubuwa kamar tallafin rayuwa, yanke shawara na ƙarshen rayuwa, ko kuna son jana'iza, ko kuna so a kula da ku, da inda kuɗin ku da abubuwan jin daɗi za su tafi. Ku yi imani da shi ko a'a, wannan ba na iyaye da kakanni ba ne kawai.

Alua Arthur, lauya mai juya-mutuwa doula kuma wanda ya kafa Going with Grace ya ce "Duk lokacin da kuka fahimci cewa wata rana rayuwarku za ta ƙare, wannan shine lokacin da ya dace don tuntuɓar mutuwar doula." "Tun da babu wani daga cikinmu da ya san lokacin da za mu mutu, ya yi latti don jira har sai kun yi rashin lafiya."

Tun lokacin da Arthur ya fara hidimarta shekaru shida da suka gabata-bayan ƙarshen rawar da ta taka a matsayin mai kula da surukinta, wanda ya mutu-ta ce ta kasance "cikakke" ta ga ƙaruwa a cikin yadda mutane da yawa ke isa gare ta duka don ayyukan. kuma don horo (ita ma tana gudanar da shirin koyar da wasu yadda ake zama doulas na mutuwa). Kodayake kamfaninta yana Los Angeles, tana yin shawarwari da yawa akan layi. Yawancin abokan cinikin ta matasa ne, masu koshin lafiya, in ji ta. "Mutane suna jin labarin manufar [mutuwa doula] kuma suna gane ƙimarta."

Ko da har yanzu ba ku gamsu da tunanin tattauna mace -macen kanku ba, kawo ƙarin mutuwa a bayyane - ko yana magana game da shi dangane da dabbobin ku, iyayen ku, kakannin ku - wata hanya ce ta zuwa ta kama kansa mace -mace, in ji Chavez. (Mai Alaka: Wannan Malamar Keke Ta Yi Watsi Da Bala'i Bayan Ta Rasa Mahaifiyarta ALS)

Don haka ta yaya wannan duk ke da alaƙa da lafiya, ko ta yaya? A zahiri akwai wasu maɓalli na maɓalli. Da yawa daga cikin mu suna ƙoƙarin yin zaɓin da ya dace game da kula da jikin mu a rayuwa, "amma da yawa daga cikin mu ba su gane muna buƙatar kare zaɓin mutuwar mu ba," in ji Chavez. Mutuwar lafiyar mutuwa hakika tana nufin ƙarfafa mutane don yin zaɓin kafin lokaci - kamar zaɓin yin jana'izar kore, ko ba da gudummawar jikin ku ga kimiyya - don mutuwar ku a zahiri tana ƙarfafa abin da ke da mahimmanci a gare ku a rayuwa.

Chavez ya ce "Muna ɗaukar lokaci mai yawa don tsara haihuwar jariri, ko bikin aure, ko hutu, amma akwai ƙarancin shiri ko yarda game da mutuwa," in ji Chavez. "Don cimma burin da kuke da shi, ko kuma son wani ingancin rayuwa a duk lokacin da ake mutuwa, [ku] kuna buƙatar shirya da yin tattaunawa game da hakan."

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