Abinda kawai Zai Sami Candace Cameron Bure don Amsa Maganar ƙiyayya akan layi

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Lokacin da Candace Cameron Bure ta kasance mai haɗin gwiwa The View tsawon shekaru biyu, ra'ayoyinta masu ra'ayin mazan jiya sun haifar da muhawara a tsakanin abokan aikinta, amma ta ce ta yi kokarin ci gaba da zama cikin farar hula lokacin da abubuwa suka yi zafi. "A ƙarshen ranar, koyaushe ina so in tabbatar lokacin da na yi magana da ra'ayina cewa abubuwa suna da kyau da mutuntawa ko da ba mu yarda ba," in ji Bure. Siffa. Lokacinta kan shirin magana ya kasance abin motsawa wajen rubuta sabon littafin ta Kirki Shine Sabon Darasi: Ikon Rayuwa Mai Kyau. Littattafan da'awa ba za su yi zafi kamar yadda suke cikin shekarun da suka gabata ba, amma a cikin shekarun troll na Intanet, yana da kyau a ce kowa na iya amfani da hanyar shakatawa a kan alheri a yanzu.

Shawara da Gidan Fuller 'yar wasan kwaikwayo ta bayar a cikin littafinta ta shafi yanayin IRL guda biyu (karanta: Abincin dare na godiya tare da dangi) da hulɗar kan layi. Ta ba da shawarwari don kewaya yanayi a wurin aiki, gida, da kuma tare da abokai, tare da shawarwari kan yadda za a kwantar da hankula yayin matsin lamba da kuma magance mummunan zargi. Bure ta ce yawanci tana ƙoƙarin yin watsi da duk wani munanan kalamai a kan layi, tare da wasu kaɗan. "Akwai wasu abubuwan da ba zan bari ba," in ji ta. "Idan wani yayi magana game da 'ya'yana - ni mahaifiyar mama ce, don haka ba koyaushe zan zauna ba in bar irin waɗannan abubuwa su wuce," in ji ta. An kuma zaɓi ta yi magana a lokacin da aka yi tsokaci kan abin kunya ga mai koyar da ita Kira Stokes. A zahiri, maganganu masu mahimmanci game da Stokes "kama da mutum" sun taimaka haifar da motsi na Mind Your Own Shape da nufin sanya Intanet wuri mafi kyau. "Na yi ƙoƙari na kare ta lokacin da suka kai hari ga sifar jikinta mai ban mamaki," in ji Bure. "Kullum zan tsaya ga abokaina." (Ga ƙarin tabbaci biyun sune burin #FitnessFriends.)

Menene ƙari, lokacin da wasan tsere ya kwatanta jikin Bure da na mijinta, ta yanke shawarar ba da amsa ga mai sharhin, amma ba tare da cizon baya ba. Ta ba da shawarar mayar da martani ga jin kunya ta hanyar mai da hankali kan abubuwan da kuke so game da jikin ku, ko kun zaɓi amsa a fili ko a'a. "Ko kun ji kunya ko kuma wani ya rubuta sharhi game da ku, abu na ƙarshe da kuke so ku yi shine mayar da farmaki, saboda kawai yana kunna wutar kuma babu wanda zai ji daɗi a ƙarshen ta," in ji Bure. (Mai Dangantaka: Dalilin Kunyar Jiki Wannan Babban Matsala ce da Abin da Zaku Iya Yi Don Tsayar da shi)

Bure yana da wasu dabaru da ta raba a cikin littafin don kasancewa masu kirki koda kuwa da gaske wani yana samun ƙarƙashin fata ko bugawa a ƙasa da bel. Lokacin da abubuwa ke ƙara zafi, ɗauki ɗan zurfin numfashi kafin ku amsa. Ta kuma ba da shawarar ƙoƙarin ku don ganin halin da ake ciki ta fuskar wani, duk da nisa daga tunanin ku. A ƙarshe, nemo wani abin da za ku iya yi kowace rana don sanya kan ku cikin madaidaicin hankalin ku. "Bimbini ko addu'a da safe suna ba ku mahimmanci kuma yana ba ku hangen nesa don shiga cikin kwanakin ku," in ji ta. (Ƙarin tukwici: Yadda za a kwantar da hankalin ku lokacin da kuke shirin ficewa)

Yin kirki ba ya amfanar wanda kuke hulɗa da shi kawai, yana iya barin ku jin daɗin rayuwa, in ji ta. (Kuma bincike ya nuna tana da gaskiya.) Yin kirki ya “ba ni kwanciyar hankali domin na san cewa lokacin da na fi so na na iya jin daɗin abin da na yi a rana ɗaya ko jin daɗin kaina ba tare da nadama ba, " in ji ta.

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