Ƙudurin Sabuwar Shekara 16 don Inganta Rayuwar Jima'i

Wadatacce

• 1. Ciwon Ƙari
• 2. Dauki matakin Jima'i
• 3. Sayi Sabon Lingerie don Naku Jin dadi
• 4. Zauna a Kwance Mai tsawo
• 5. Tsallake Ayyukan Yoga
• 6. A gwada
• 7. Gwada Wani Hali A Kwanciya
• 8. Inganta Lube
• 9. Al'aura Mai Ƙari
• 10. Gwada Zama Mai Girma
• 11. Classauki Ajin Rawa
• 12. Jadawalin Lokacin Kyautar Yara
• 13. Maido da Farko
• 14. Raba Fantasies
• 15. Sayi nono mai Gaske
• 16. Taba Sabbin Wurare
• Bita don

Kun riga kun cika hankali da jiki a cikin kudurori na Sabuwar Shekara, amma menene game da rayuwar jima'i? Shawarwari kan ilimin jima'i na tushen New Jersey Melanie Davis, Ph.D., Certified Sexuality Educator, marubucin ya ce "Shawarwari suna da sauƙin warwarewa saboda yawanci mun yi alkawarin cim ma canje-canjen da ba su da mahimmanci a gare mu." Duba A ciki: Jaridar Mace. "Mata da yawa sun yanke shawarar rage kiba, amma idan karin fam ɗin shine ainihin batun, da yanzu za su ƙare. Wataƙila abin da muke so mu canza shine yadda muke ji a ciki da kuma jikinmu." Samun mafi kyawun rayuwar jima'i yana nufin ba kawai yin ƙoƙari a cikin ɗakin kwana ba, amma har ma kula da lafiyar jima'i da amincewar jiki. (PS Har ila yau yi la'akari da waɗannan ra'ayoyin ƙudurin kula da kai.)

Dubi abin da ba ya aiki a gare ku a rayuwar jima'i, kuma ku himmatu wajen yin haɓaka ɗaya a wata. Jenn Gunsaullus, Ph.D., masanin ilimin zamantakewar al'umma da mai ba da shawara a San Diego ya ce "Raba takamaiman alkawurra game da niyyar jima'i na iya taimaka wa waɗannan ƙudurin su tsaya a cikin dogon lokaci." Ban san ta ina zan fara ba? Duba waɗannan ƙuduri 16 don haɓaka ɗakin kwanan ku da ƙarfin jikin ku.

1. Ciwon Ƙari

Snuggling tare da zaki yana da fa'idodin kiwon lafiya mara iyaka: Yana sakin oxytocin-jin daɗin jin daɗi-haɓaka farin ciki gaba ɗaya, rage damuwa, da rage hawan jini. Oxytocin kuma shine hormone na haɗin gwiwa, don haka cuddling zai sa ku ji kusa da mutumin ku. Kuma, hanya ce ta sadarwa tare da abokin tarayya: "Sadarwar da ba ta magana ba na iya zama hanya mai ƙarfi sosai don gaya wa abokin tarayya, 'Na same ku," in ji David Klow, masanin ilimin aure da iyali a Chicago. "Cuddling wata hanya ce ta cewa, 'Na san yadda kuke ji.' Yana ba mu damar jin abokin aikinmu ya san mu ta hanyoyin da kalmomi ba za su iya isar da su ba. ”

2. Dauki matakin Jima'i

Gunsaullus ya ce "Samun aji na jima'i, kamar tantric puja ko kuma hanyar daure igiya, na iya koya muku sabbin dabaru na jima'i da na sha'awa don komawa gida," in ji Gunsaullus. Idan ba ka shirya yin rajista don lakabi kamar "The Art of Blowjob," ɗauki ilimin ku a hannunku: "Ɗaukar littafi, takardun shaida, ko bidiyo na koyarwa game da jima'i na iya koya muku wasu sababbin dabaru, kuma, " in ji Carol Queen, Ph.D., ma'aikaciyar ilimin jima'i a Good Vibrations, daular mace da ke sarrafa jima'i. A ina za a fara? Kalli Darussa 5 Da Aka Koyi Daga Ajin Jima'i.

3. Sayi Sabon Lingerie don Naku Jin dadi

"Kyakkyawan ƙudirin sabuwar shekara shine samun ƙarin ƙarfin gwiwa, don haka gwada saka wani abu mai ban sha'awa don jin daɗin kanku," in ji Davis. "Idan abokin tarayya shima yana jin daɗin hakan, wannan shine ƙyallen kek ɗin." (Bincika sabon abu a cikin kamfai.)

4. Zauna a Kwance Mai tsawo

Ko da mai sauri ne, ku yanke shawarar cewa ba za ku gudu ba bayan: Ma'auratan da suka fi yawan lokaci suna so bayan jima'i suna jin gamsuwa da rayuwarsu ta jima'i, bisa ga bincike a cikin Taskokin Halayen Jima'i. "Muna mai da hankali sosai kan inzali, abin da ake kira 'manufa' na jima'i, wanda sau da yawa muna yin watsi da abubuwan da ke kewaye da su da sandwich jima'i," in ji Amy Muise, Ph.D., marubucin binciken marubuci kuma abokin karatun digiri a Jami'ar Toronto. Yanke shawarar bin aikin tare da aƙalla 'yan mintoci kaɗan na shafawa, sumbata, da cudanya a cikin 2015.

5. Tsallake Ayyukan Yoga

Ee, sanya ƙafafunku a bayan kanku da karkatarwa cikin kowane irin matsayi tabbas zai ɗanɗana abubuwa, amma har ma da sauƙin sassaucin da kuke samu ta hanyar yoga zai iya taimaka muku yin jima'i a sabbin matsayi-kuma kuyi shi cikin nutsuwa. Bugu da ƙari, yogis suna da ƙashin ƙashin ƙugu mai ƙarfi kuma, yayin da ba ta da sexy, ikon ba shi ɗan matsi na iya ƙara jin daɗi ga ku duka. Yoga yana taimaka muku rage damuwa da mai da hankali, duka-duka biyun na iya haifar da kyakkyawan lokaci tsakanin zanen gado. Kuna buƙatar ƙarin gamsarwa? Duba Dalilin da yasa Yogis Sunfi Kyau a Bed.

6. A gwada

"Yana da mahimmanci ku san matsayin ku don kamuwa da cututtuka ta hanyar jima'i maimakon jira kawai alamun bayyanar su bayyana, saboda wasu STIs asymptomatic ne amma suna iya haifar da sakamako na dogon lokaci," in ji Davis. Yanke shawara don kare kanku da duk wani abokin tarayya da zaku iya samu. Don yin hakan, tattauna ayyukan jima'i da gaskiya tare da mai ba da lafiya don ku tattauna sau nawa yakamata a gwada ku da abin da yakamata a gwada ku, in ji ta. (Tabbatar ku rufe waɗannan Tattaunawa 7 Dole ne Ku Yi don Rayuwar Jima'i Mai Lafiya.)

7. Gwada Wani Hali A Kwanciya

Gunsaullus ya ce "Wani lokaci muna makale kasancewa hanya ɗaya a cikin ɗakin kwana kuma ba mu san yadda ake reshe ba." Zaɓi wani hali wanda ya bambanta da yadda kuke yawanci akan gado, kuma ku ba wa kanku izinin gwada ta: Kuna son zama mai zafi? m? Mafi rinjaye? Mai wasa? Wauta? "Zaɓar sabon hali da tunanin yadda za a kawo wannan a cikin ɗakin kwana na iya kawo sabuwar rayuwa ga ayyukan da kuka dade kuna yi. Menene busa mai zafi kamar, tare da mai laushi?" Ta kara da cewa.

8. Inganta Lube

Wani lokacin ƙananan canje -canje ne ke haifar da manyan bambance -bambance: Sabuwar lube na iya ƙara sabon salo don wasa na jima'i saboda abin mamaki ne daban, in ji Gunsaullus. Hakanan zaka iya yin wasa tare da lubes mai ɗanɗano ko man kwakwa (kawai kar a yi amfani da kwaroron roba saboda yana iya raunana latex) don yin jima'i na jin daɗi. (Karanta dalilin da yasa yakamata kuyi la’akari da dabi’ar halitta ko na halitta.)

9. Al'aura Mai Ƙari

Idan ba ku riga kuka yi ba (ko ba ku isa ba!), Ku ƙuduri niyya don yin al'ada. "Babu mutane biyu da suka yi daidai da abin da suke so ta jima'i da kuma yadda suke amsawa. Kun san abin da ke cikin littafin aikin ku?" Sarauniya ta nuna. Nemo abin da ke kawo ku zuwa inzali yayin zaman solo. Davis ya kara da cewa "babbar hanya ce don koyan abin da kuke jin daɗi, shakatawa, bacci, kunna tsokar ƙasan ƙasan." Idan kuna da abokin tarayya, gwada jin daɗin kanku a matsayin hanyar haɓaka sha'awar jima'i yayin wasan foreplay, in ji ta. (Duba waɗannan ƙarin haɓakawa na 7 Kinky don Rayuwar Jima'i.)

10. Gwada Zama Mai Girma

Gunsaullus ya ce "Idan ba ku da aure kuma kuna jin ɗan damuwa game da yin soyayya a yanzu, yi alƙawarin watanni uku na rashin soyayya." Amma yi amfani da wannan lokacin da kyau: Tsara lokaci tare da abokai, komawa zuwa sha'awar da kuka bar zamewa, ko gwada wasu ayyukan da ke renon ku. Bayan watanni uku, za ku ji daɗin kwanciyar hankali da shirye-shiryen kwanan wata tare da sabon hangen nesa, in ji ta.

11. Classauki Ajin Rawa

Rawa tana ba ku kyakkyawar alherin jiki kuma tana koya muku yadda za ku motsa jikin ku ta hanyar sha'awa, Gunsaullus ya ce. Ba muna cewa kuna buƙatar yin tsiri tsiri ba bayan an gama koyar da darussan ku (sai dai idan kuna so!), Amma kowane aji na rawa zai ba ku ƙarin kwarin gwiwa kan yadda kuke motsawa. Ko gwada aji na ma'aurata: Koyan sabon rawa tare da abokin tarayya, kamar swing ko salsa, yana da kyau ga aikin haɗin gwiwa - kuma taɓawa ta sha'awa na iya zama a matsayin wasan kwaikwayo, in ji Gunsaullus. (Duba: Me ya sa Ba za ku Kori Dance Cardio Classes.)

12. Jadawalin Lokacin Kyautar Yara

Duk wanda ke da yara ya san lokacin zaman kansa ya faɗi ta hanya. Amma yana da mahimmanci a gare ku da mutumin ku ku sake haɗawa a matsayin abokan tarayya maimakon kawai a matsayin iyaye. Yanke shawara don samun aƙalla sa'a ɗaya na ma'aurata kowane mako, Davis ya ba da shawara. "Yaran na iya buƙatar yin ranar wasa, ko kuma ku da abokin aikinku na iya buƙatar hayar wurin zama don ku iya tserewa-ko ta yaya, ma'anar ita ce samun rabe-raben lokaci tare da abokin aikin ku don ku sake haɗa haɗin gwiwa."

13. Maido da Farko

Dukansu maza da mata suna son kimanta kusan mintuna 20-amma duk da haka, yawancin suna ba da rahoton cewa ainihin wasan su na kusan rabin lokacin, in ji wani bincike a cikin Jaridar Nazarin Jima'i. Wani dalili kuma da ba za a tsallake shi ba: Yin faɗuwa kafin sauka ƙasa na iya taimaka masa ya daɗe kuma ya tayar da ku. Matsakaicin mutum yana ɗaukar ko'ina daga mintuna uku zuwa bakwai zuwa ƙarshe, yayin da matsakaicin mace ke buƙatar ko'ina daga 10 zuwa 20-wannan haɗin da aka rasa ana ɗauka rata ce ta motsa jiki, in ji Laurence A. Levine, MD, farfesa a Cibiyar Kiwon Lafiya ta Jami'ar Rush.Foreplay na iya gyara shi: "Maza suna buƙatar yin ƙarin ƙoƙari kuma mata kada su ji kunyar cewa ana buƙatar motsawa," in ji Levine. Ko dai jima'i ne na baki ko motsawar hannu, yi ƙoƙarin hanawa daga shiga ciki har sai kun kusanto ƙarshe.

14. Raba Fantasies

Idan damar da tunaninsa ya yi kama da mafi girman juyi na Kirista Grey shine abin da ke hana ku rabawa, kada ku damu: Yawancin tunanin jima'i sun fi yawa fiye da yadda aka yi tunani a baya, rahoton wani bincike na baya-bayan nan daga Jami'ar Quebec. Raba tunaninku zai iya kawo ku kusa, kuma ya gabatar muku da sabbin abubuwan jin daɗi. Gwada wannan: Rubuta abubuwan da suka fi birge ku kuma nemi abokin aikin ku yayi daidai, Gunsaullus yace. Kawai bincika waɗannan shawarwarin don yadda ake cika Fantasies ɗin Jima'i ba tare da an yanke muku hukunci ba kafin musanya jerin.

15. Sayi nono mai Gaske

Babban sashi na jin sexy shine amincewa da abin da kuke sawa. Daidaita dacewa don rigar mama yana tabbatar da cewa ana tallafawa ƙirjin ku da kyau, koda a cikin kyawawan rigunan riguna, in ji Davis. Abokan hulɗa na tallace -tallace a mafi yawan kayan kwalliya ko shagunan shaƙatawa za su yi farin cikin ba ku dacewa, amma kuma kuna iya tuntuɓar jagorar mu akan Mafi Bra don Nau'in Nono.

16. Taba Sabbin Wurare

Ba wani sirri bane cewa muna da wasu takamaiman abubuwan jin daɗi a jikin mu, amma kuna iya mamakin sanin cewa saurayin ku ma yana da alamomi na musamman waɗanda-lokacin da aka motsa su-za su tura shi gefen. Ko yana cizo, lasawa, ko tausa kawai, duba waɗannan Sabbin Hanyoyi 8 don taɓa Guy ɗinku yayin Jima'i.

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