Da fatan za a Taimaka Dakatar da Ciwon daga lalata Rayuwata ta Jima'i

Jin zafi yayin jima'i ba shi da karɓa.

Alexis Lira ne ya tsara shi

Tambaya: Jima'i kawai yana min zafi, ko da kuwa na wuce gona da iri ne. A saman wannan, nima ina jin matsanancin ciwo da kuma kaushi a can. Duk wannan irin wannan ya lalata komai game da jima'i, saboda ba zan iya samun kwanciyar hankali 100 bisa ɗari ba. Taimako, menene zan iya yi?

Oh a'a, wannan ba abin yarda bane - {textend} kuma ba karɓaɓɓe ba, ina nufin cewa bai kamata ku tsammaci jima'i zai cutar ba kuma ya kamata kawai haƙoranku su haƙura. Rashin jin daɗi shine game da mafi munin abin da zai iya faruwa yayin jima'i, amma babu buƙatar firgita.

Abubuwa na farko. Yi magana, ko da kun ji tsoro ko kunya. Kai kadai baka da alhakin zafin. Na biyu, bincika likitanka ko likitan kwalliyar kwalliyar kwalliya don tabbatar da cewa ba ka da mummunar matsalar cutar yisti ko mahaukacin farji. Da zarar kun sami koren haske cewa komai a bayyane yake, wannan shine abinda nakeso ku maida hankali akai: sake kunna tafiyarku ta jima'i da sake fassara ma'anar jin dadi da annashuwa - {textend} da kanku.

Na sami mutane suna haɗuwa sosai tare da mahimmancin ma'anar jima'i (galibi ma'anar azzakari-farji, saboda ba kwa buƙatar shiga ciki don samun inzali). Amma kowa ya bambanta, don haka jefa waɗancan tsammanin daga taga. Don samun ta'aziyya, dole ne ku kasance a shirye don gwaji, karɓar iko, kuma tabbatar da gaskiyar ku.

Fitar da kalandarka ka ajiye alƙawurra kowane mako da kanka. Kasance a bude, mai son sani, kuma ba mai tsoro ba. Don jin daɗin kai, gano wane irin abubuwan da kake ji daɗinsu, kuma koya duk abin da zaka iya game da jikinka. San abin da ya kamata ya kasance a wurin don ku ji daɗi a gida cikin jikinku da kwanciyar hankali.

Me kake buƙatar jin annashuwa da aminci? Idan ka gano cewa binciken kanka yana da ban mamaki ko wauta da farko, maraba da waɗannan tunanin sannan ka bar su. Maimaita wannan a cikin kanku: Ina lafiya, ni ɗan adam ne, kuma yana da kyau a ji daɗi.

Yayin da amincewar kanku ta ƙaru, zaku iya gayyatar abokin aikinku na yanzu don yin bincike tare da ku. Adana mintuna 30 a kowane mako (aƙalla) don raba taɓa sha'awa da tausa mai lalata. Turnsauki kowane, tare da mintuna 15 kowanne na bayarwa da karɓar taɓawa, farawa da farko tare da taɓa nongenital. Wannan sassaucin ladabi na iya haifar da ma'amala, idan kun zaɓi.

Amma ka tuna, wannan game da tsarkakakken bincike ne, fadada wayewar kai, da lura da jin daɗi. Babu wata manufa zuwa inzali. Idan kuna buƙatar ƙarin taimako kaɗan don farawa, wani lokacin ruwan sha mai zafi, kyandirori masu ƙanshi, ko wasu kiɗan shakatawa na iya taimakawa sakin tashin hankali. Kuma gabaɗaya, Ina ba da shawarar a ɗan dakata daga yin jima'i wanda ke haifar da ciwo saboda, a cikin dogon lokaci, ƙwarewar na iya haifar da ƙarin lalacewa.

Idan kana buɗewa game da waɗannan canje-canje ga SO, kada ka yi magana game da shi a cikin ɗakin kwana yayin da kake ƙoƙarin kunnawa. Zai fi kyau a yi waɗannan tattaunawar a kan abincin dare ko kuma yawo. Abin lura anan shine ka samarda wani yanayi wanda sha'awarka ta kai tsaye tana jin ana maraba dashi, ba a matsa mata don aiwatarwa ko kuma bin wani ma'anar abin da jima'i yake.

Yin wasu ƙananan canje-canje a cikin tunanin ku game da yadda kuke kallon nishaɗi da yadda kuke kallon barin shiga cikin jikin ku na iya taimaka muku sosai don jin daɗin sake jima'i.

Janet Brito ƙwararren mai ilimin likita ne wanda ya sami lasisi a cikin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam da aikin zamantakewa. Ta kammala karatunta na digiri na uku daga Makarantar Koyon aikin Likita ta Jami'ar Minnesota, ɗayan programsan shirye-shiryen jami'a a duniya da aka keɓe don horar da jima'i. A halin yanzu, tana zaune ne a Hawaii kuma ita ce ta kirkiro Cibiyar Kula da Lafiyar Jima'i da Haihuwa. An nuna Brito a kan kantunan da yawa, gami da The Huffington Post, Thrive, and Healthline. Kaima ta wajenta gidan yanar gizo ko a kunne Twitter.