Anan Dalilin da yasa Duk Muke Kula da Meghan Markle

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Bikin sarauta, wanda Meghan Markle zai auri Yarima Harry (idan ba ku sani ba!), Saura kwana uku. Amma TBH, waɗanda suka yi aure suna jin kamar bikin babban abokin mu fiye da taron ƙasa da ƙasa-na tsawon watanni, duniya ta damu sosai kan kowane daki-daki, yin tsinkayen daji da yin tambayoyin da suka gabata da jarumar ta bayar ga kowane kyakkyawa da ƙoshin lafiya da ta taɓa bayarwa. (Idan kuna sha'awar, ga yadda Meghan Markle ke aiki kafin bikin auren sarauta).

Amma yana da ba a zahiri bikin auren abokin ku bayan komai-to me yasa har yanzu kuka damu?

Da kyau, masana ilimin halin dan Adam sun kira shi "ciwon bautar mashahuran mutane" kuma bisa ga bincike, ba duk ba sabon abu bane. A cikin binciken da aka buga a cikin Jaridar British Psychology, Masu bincike sun rarraba mashahuran bauta a kan bakan. A mafi ƙanƙanta matakan, ya ƙunshi ainihin halayen ku na karanta game da mashahuran, gungurawa ta hanyar abincin su na IG, ko kallon su (ko bikin auren su) akan TV. Amma a mafi girman matakan, bautar shaharar tana ɗaukar yanayin mutum-kuna damuwa da cikakkun bayanan rayuwarsu kuma ku kasance tare da mai bikin. Kuna gamsu da nasarorin da kuka samu kuma kuna jin rauni saboda gazawar bikin kamar dai naku ne. A game da Meghan Markle, da alama duk duniya tana da mummunan yanayin cutar bautar mashahuran mutane.

A cewar masana ilimin halayyar dan adam, damuwar mu ta gama gari tana iya yiwuwa saboda wasu abubuwa. Brandy Engler, Psy.D., masanin ilimin ma'aurata a LA ya ce "Tana wakiltar wani tunanin da yawancin mutane dole ne Yarima Charming ya shafe shi." Masu ilimin hanyoyin kwantar da hankali sukan kashe lokaci mai yawa don taimaka muku barin waɗannan abubuwan da ba su dace ba don ku iya ganin abokin tarayya a matsayin mutum na gaske-ba a matsayin maganin sihiri ga duk damuwa da rashin tsaro ba, in ji ta. "A wannan yanayin, Megan Markle ta cimma burin buri [na hasashe na Yarima mai kayatarwa] kuma dukkanmu za mu iya shaida hakan kuma mu rayu cikin ɓacin rai," in ji Engler.

Gaskiyar cewa Meghan Markle yana kama da wanda za ku zama abokantaka da tabbas yana ƙara sabon abu. "Ba a haifi Meghan cikin wadata ko gata ba," in ji Rebecca Hendrix, cikakkiyar masaniyar ilimin halin dan Adam a New York. "Ita ce mafificiyar mafarkin Amurka saboda ta yi aiki da rashin daidaiton jinsi, jinsi, da ajin tattalin arziki don samun nasara." Ta na da nasara a sana'a, tarihin bayar da shawarwari don karfafa mata da al'amuran kiwon lafiyar mata a duniya. Kuma tana sa takalmi masu kayatarwa, masu araha. (Dubi: Inda Za A Sayi Farin Farin Farin Farin Ruwa na Meghan Markle) "Wanene ba zai yi mata tushe ba?" ya tambayi Hendrix. A cikin tunanin ku, yin rooting ga wanda ke da waɗannan halayen na iya jin kamar kuna tushen kanku da gaske, in ji ta.

A ƙarshe, akwai ra'ayin cewa duchess na nan gaba alama ce ta bege da canji-wani abu da zaku fara tunani a hankali. "Saboda ana tsammanin Harry ya auri wanda ke kusa da gida a matakai da yawa, tushen jama'a game da wannan tatsuniya ta zamani da ma'auratan kabilanci har ma fiye da yadda hakan ke ba mu fatan samun canji," in ji Hendrix. Irin wannan bege na rashin tsaro yana da ƙarfi fiye da yadda kuke tsammani. "Wannan yana da mahimmanci ga tunanin Amurkawa-muna buƙatar wannan," in ji Engler. "Yana motsa mu kuma yana taimaka mana mu yi burin zama mafi kyawun kanmu-koda kuwa duk ɗan rudu ne."

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