Wannan Mace Cikakkiyar Bayyana Bambanci Tsakanin Soyayya Da Kyawun Jiki

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Kowa yana da 'yancin son fatar da yake ciki. Wannan kyakkyawan saƙo ne kowa zai iya yarda da shi, daidai ne? Amma ICYDK, son kanku da aiwatar da halayen jiki ba ɗaya bane.

Kodayake sau da yawa a layi daya, akwai bambanci tsakanin son kai da haɓaka jiki-dalla-dalla wanda aka kawo kwanan nan ga mai shafar lafiyar Nicole, na Nix Fitness. Ta hau shafin ta na Instagram don raba cewa an gaya mata yanayin jiki "ba don [ta]" bane saboda ita mace ce "siririya".

"Da farko, na ji rauni sosai kuma na rikice jin wannan," ta rubuta a cikin sakon ta. "Ashe ba kowa yana da 'yancin son jikin da yake ciki ba? Da alama ba ya haɗa da juna" na yi tunani." (Mai Dangantaka: Dalilin Kunyar Jiki Irin Wannan Babban Matsala ce-da Abinda Zaku Iya Yi Don Dakatar da Ita)

Daga nan Nicole ta ɗauki nauyin kanta don yin ƙarin bincike game da lafiyar jikin don ta fahimci menene ainihin motsi. (Mai alaƙa: Ni Ba Jiki Mai Kyau Ba Ne Ko Jiki Negative—Ni Kawai Ni)

"Na gane cewa na yi kuskure duka," ta rubuta. "Na'am, kowa yana da 'yancin son jikinsa amma wannan ba lafiyar jiki bane, son kai ne. Kuma akwai bambanci."

Maƙasudin ainihin motsin motsin jiki shine don ƙarfafa mutane masu rarrafe (curvy, queer, trans, jikin launi, da dai sauransu) don ba kawai yin son kai ba amma ji. cancanta na son kai, Sarah Sapora, mai ba da shawara kan son kai kuma mai ba da shawara kan lafiya, ta gaya mana a baya. Duk da haka, yayin da motsi ya zama "yawan yaɗuwa kuma yana da kasuwanci," ainihin manufarsa an "shayar da shi" kuma an ɗauki ma'anoni da yawa, in ji Sapora.

Ƙaunar "tabbatacciyar jiki" da "ƙaunar kai" tare da gaske suna watsi da gwagwarmayar da mutanen da ke fama da wariyar launin fata suka fuskanta tsawon shekaru. "Tsarin jiki ba zai iya zama kusan sirara ba, madaidaiciya, maras kyau, mata farare waɗanda suka sami kwanciyar hankali tare da ƙarin fam 10 akan firam ɗin su," Stacey Rosenfeld, Ph.D., masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam da ƙwararriyar motsa jiki, ya gaya mana a cikin kwanan nan. hira.

Nicole da alama ya zo ga irin wannan ƙarshe: "Kamar yadda wanda bai kasance a cikin jikin da aka nuna wariya ba, ba zan iya kiran bikin na ciki mai laushi ba 'tabbataccen jiki', kawai son kai ne," in ji ta. ya rubuta. "LKo da yake rashin tsaro yana nan daram, amma ina ganin yana da mahimmanci a gare mu mu gane bambancin saboda rashin yin hakan, yana cire muryoyin mutanen da aka kirkiro wannan motsi." (Mai dangantaka: Shin kuna iya son Jikin ku kuma har yanzu kuna son canza shi?)

Ƙarin layi: Kuna iya son kanku kuma aiwatar da halayen jiki - kawai ku sani cewa sharuɗɗan biyu sun bambanta da juna. Duk da cewa son kai wani abu ne da zaku iya aiki a ciki kuma ku ƙarfafa wasu suyi aiki, ingancin jikin yana nufin kasancewa abokin tarayya ga waɗanda ke da ƙungiyoyin da aka keɓe, kiran gatan jiki lokacin da kuka gan ta, da ƙalubalantar ra'ayoyin da aka riga aka sani game da inganci na jikin mutane.

A aikace, hakan na nufin bincika son zuciya da ke da alaƙa da jikin ku da kuma ba wa wasu sararin da za su ji muryoyin su, Sapora ta gaya mana. "Idan kai dan siririya ne, ko kuma wanda ya dace da 'ka'idar' al'umma, ka tabbata cewa muryarka da tarihin jikinka ba su nutsar da murya da labarun wadanda ba su da wakilci," in ji ta.

Katie Willcox, abin ƙira, marubuci, kuma wanda ya kafa Healthy Is The New Skinny, ya ba da shawarar jagoranci ta misali: "Ba za ku iya yin aikinku ba ta hanyar wa'azi, yin hukunci, ko nuna cikakkiyar rayuwa akan Instagram ba, amma ta zama misali mai rai na wani. wanda ke son kansu kuma yana rayuwa ta hanyar da ke nuna hakan a zahiri. "

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