Me yasa Rigima Game da Bikin Nasarar Ƙwararrun Ƙwararrun Mata na Amurka Jimillar BS ne.

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Ni ba babban masoyin ƙwallon ƙafa ba ne. Ina matukar girmama irin horon mahaukata da wasanni ke bukata, amma kallon wasan baya yi min da gaske. Amma duk da haka, lokacin da na ji labarin rigimar da ta dabaibaye bikin ƙwallon ƙwallon ƙwallon ƙafa na mata na Amurka a lokacin wasan su na farko na gasar cin kofin duniya ta mata ta FIFA da Thailand, burina ya cika.

ICYMI, kungiyar ta yi tagulla tare da nasarar ta da ci 13-0. Su ne ƙungiya ta farko (maza ko mata) da suka ci kwallaye 13 a wasan gasar cin kofin duniya, suna yin tarihi tare da mafi girman tazara, a cewar Jaridar New York Times. Amma ba kawai ci ba ne ya lalata gashin fuka -fukan shine yadda suka ci nasara, suma. 'Yan wasan sun yi murna da kowace kwallo, suna murna tare da zarar kwallon ta shiga raga wanda ya sa masu suka da yawa (ahem, maƙiya) suka raina halayensu, suna kiranta da rashin wasa.

"A gare ni, rashin girmamawa ne," in ji tsohon dan wasan ƙwallon ƙafa na Kanada kuma mai sharhi kan gasar cin kofin duniya ta TSN, Kaylyn Kyle bayan wasan. Kyle ya kuma ce yayin da gasar cin kofin duniya ita ce wurin da za a dauki matakin daukar matakin daukar matakin daukar matakin daukar matakin hana fursunoni shiga gasar, kamata ya yi kungiyar ta Amurka ta dakatar da bukukuwan da suke da shi da zarar sun kai 8-0. (Mai alaƙa: Alex Morgan Yana Son Wasa Kamar Yarinya)

Ba lallai ba ne a faɗi, wannan yana murƙushe hanzari na.

Na farko, a matsayin tsohon ɗan wasa, Kyle na dukkan mutane ya san aiki tuƙuru da sadaukarwar da ake buƙata daga ƙwararren ɗan wasa don isa saman gasar. Wannan kadai ya cancanci daukaka da girmamawa ko da ba ka taba tsallake zagayen farko ba. Na biyu, da yawa daga cikin ƙungiyar matan Amurka suna da hannu a cikin ƙarar jama'a game da Hukumar Kwallon Kafa ta Amurka bisa zargin nuna wariyar jinsi, inda aka fi mai da hankali kan bambance-bambancen da ake samu na biyan kuɗi na ƙungiyoyin maza da mata.

Kowane burin ya kasance wani abin ƙima da ƙima da ƙima ga ƙungiyar da ta ɓata iyawarsu, duk da manyan martaba da lambobin yabo na Olympics. Kuma wataƙila, abin da ke ƙara ɓarna ga rauni, ƙungiyar mata ta ƙasa ta kasance kawuna da kafadu sama da takwarorinsu maza. A cewar Vox, membobin ƙungiyar mata za su iya yin kusan kashi 40 cikin ɗari na abin da 'yan wasan maza ke samu - yawanci suna karɓar kusan dala 3,600 a kowane wasa idan aka kwatanta da maza waɗanda ke samun kusan $5,000. A cikin 2015, Vox ta ba da rahoto, an ba wa ƙungiyar matan Amurka $ 1.7 miliyan don cin Kofin Duniya na mata - ƙungiyar maza ta Amurka ta karɓi dala miliyan 5.4 - bayan da ta sha kashi a zagaye na 16 na gasar cin kofin duniya ta 2014.

Amma, me da gaske ya ba ni haushi: Wane irin saƙo ne waɗannan la'anta na bukukuwa da kuma biyan kuɗin da Hukumar Kwallon Kafa ta Amurka ke bayarwa ga 'yan wasa mata na gaba? Ko da gaske, 'yan mata masu sha'awar komai, ko zanen, kimiyyar lissafi, ko kasuwanci?

"Abin al'ajabi ne zama ƙwararren ɗan wasa kuma jin daɗin cikawa, amma a lokaci guda, wane irin gado kuke so ku bar?" in ji Alex Morgan, daya daga cikin taurarin kungiyar kwallon kafa ta mata ta Amurka, zuwa Jaridar New York Times. Morgan ya zura kwallaye biyar cikin 13 a ragar Thailand. "Na yi wannan mafarki na zama ƙwararren ɗan wasan ƙwallon ƙafa, kuma ban taɓa sanin hakan ya haɗa da zama abin koyi, zama abin burgewa, tsayawa kan abubuwan da na yi imani da su ba, tsayawa tsayin daka don daidaiton jinsi."

A cikin wasanni, a cikin ɗakin jirgi, ko a cikin aji, an gaya wa 'yan mata - da' yan tsiraru da su ƙanƙantar da kansu don ba da damar wasu (wato fararen samari da maza) su ji ƙwarewa da girma. Don ba wa wasu sarari don ci gaban mutum da haɓakawa, yayin da suke toshe nasu a cikin tsari. Shari'ar da kuma sha'awar da ba ta da tushe ta ƙungiyar ta aika saƙon da ke rushe halin da ake ciki inda 'yan mata, mata, da' yan tsiraru ke farawa – kuma galibi, suna yin wasan gabaɗaya - a cikin rashi. Idan muka yi ƙoƙarin jawo hankali ga ɗayan waɗannan rashin daidaituwa, ana gyara mu ta hanyar kunya, zargi, ko ma tashin hankali a cikin mafi munin yanayi. Ko da rahotanni sun ce Kyle ta samu barazanar kisa bayan kalamanta kan halayyar tawagar Amurka. (Mai dangantaka: Masu tasiri suna tallafawa shawarar Nike don fasalta Mannequins-Girma Bayan Bayan baya)

A matsayin “tsoho” Shekara Dubu, darussan rawar jinsi na gargajiya an ƙarfafa su a makaranta. Na koyi cewa zama mace ta wajabta yin shuru, tawali'u, da tawali'u: haye kafafunku, kar ku yi kira, kuma ku raina ƙwarewarki. A halin da ake ciki, a yawancin lokuta, 'yan matan da suka bi ka'ida tare da ɗaga hannayensu yayin da suke jira don raba ra'ayoyinsu, yara maza ne masu cin zarafi suka mamaye su kuma suka hana ajin.

Abin farin ciki, a gida, iyayena sun yaba wa hazaka da ni da ’yar’uwata muka mallaka (art a gare ta, yin iyo a gare ni) kuma mun haɓaka haɓaka a wuraren da suka fi ƙalubale. An gaya mana koyaushe cewa yana da kyau mu kasance ƙwararrun ƙwararru akan abu ɗaya kuma ba abin mamaki bane a wani abu. Cewa ba a bayyana mu da ƙarfin mu kawai ba amma galibi ba haka bane, raunin mu - da yadda muke magance gazawa. An haife mu mu yi mafarki babba kuma iyayena sun karkata a baya don ƙoƙarin ganin waɗannan manyan mafarkan su faru. (Na gode don ba ni damar yin duk ayyukan ninkaya, musamman a lokacin hunturu, mutane).

Wannan ba gata ba ce da kowace yarinya ke da ita. A wajen makaranta da kuma gidaje na kai tsaye, al'umma gabaɗaya tana aiki a matsayin iyaye mara kyau wanda ke da wahalar tantancewa, amma duk da haka. An koyar da mu ne ta al'adun mu, musamman ta kafofin watsa labarai, kuma musamman yanzu. Mutane da yawa suna sauraron ɗaukar hoto don gasar da suke so kawai don jin cewa bai kamata ku yi bikin burin ku ba bayan kun buga wani lamba. Fassara: Yi wa soyayyarku da gwanintar ku kuzarin bin ƙa'idodin ubanci na abin da ya kamata mace ta ƙyale ta cika. Faɗakarwa ta ɓarna: Mata suna da hazaƙa kuma lokaci ya yi da za mu daina ba shi hakuri. Duk abin da za ku iya yi, zan iya yi yayin zubar da jini.

A cewar Rahoton Bleacher, Jill Ellis, kocin ƙwallon ƙafa na mata na Amurka, ta faɗi a takaice, "Idan wannan ya kasance 10-0 a gasar cin kofin duniya ta maza, shin muna samun tambayoyi iri ɗaya?"

Shaida mace ta yi nasara da jin daɗin wannan cim ma da aka samu tana da daɗi, ga mutane da yawa. Yana da rikitarwa kuma ba shi da daɗi-bai dace da akwatin da aka riga aka ƙaddara ba. Yana jin kamar halin namiji. Godiya ga 'yan mata da masu fasa shinge waɗanda suka share hanya, muna jin za mu iya zama duk abin da muke so, amma al'umma ta koma baya, tana gaya mana manufofinmu suna buƙatar kiyaye su cikin hankali. Kuna iya fasa rufin gilashin, amma ba za ku farfasa shi ba. Tabbas, akwai keɓancewa ga ƙa'idar, kuma godiya ga alheri gare su. Baya ga Morgan da takwarorinta, Cardi B, Serena Williams, Simone Biles, da Amy Schumer da sauransu sun tabbatar da cewa tare da isasshen hazaka da tuƙi, zaku iya cimma burin ku - kuma ku yi nasarar cin nasara da zarar kun yi.

Amma duk da waɗannan misalai masu ƙarfafawa, har yanzu akwai abubuwa masu yawa da ke jan sauran mata.

An yi ta yawo da yawa game da mata da rawar da suke takawa a wasanni kwanan nan. Dan wasan Olympian da badass Alysia Montaño sun rubuta wani sabon shiri na New York Times, inda suka harzuka yadda wasu nau'ikan takalman ke rike (ko da gaske, kar ku rike) izinin haihuwa ga mata 'yan wasa' yan wasa, yana haifar da su sau da yawa yin gasa a duk lokacin masu juna biyu da komawa horo a baya fiye da shawarar likitocin su.

Plus, International Association of tsalle-tsalle ta Federation (da IAAF aka saman hanya da kuma filin kungiyar) ya yi kokarin dakatar guje abin mamaki, Caster Semenya daga gasar sai ta dauki hormones su runtse ta halitta testosterone matakan. Wanene ya kafa daidaitattun matakan testosterone na asali a cikin 'yan wasan mata? Shin ba za a kira wannan fa'ida ko "kyauta" ga 'yan wasa maza ba? (Mai alaƙa: Aly Raisman ta raba wasiƙar da ba a ba ta izinin karantawa ba a gwajin Larry Nassar)

Wannan yana komawa ga bikin ƙungiyar ƙwallon ƙafa ta mata ta Amurka-kuma a ƙarshe, kalaman Kyle. Ba ta da laifi gaba ɗaya, ba shakka - Kyle tana da hakkin ra'ayinta. Idan wani abu, muna buƙatar ƙarin tattaunawa kewaye da waɗannan batutuwa don bincika gaskiyar halin yanzu da canjin haske.

Tambayata ita ce: A ina Kyle ya koyi cewa "dabi'a mai kyau" yana buƙatar fada cikin takamaiman guga? Ita, kamar yawancin sauran mata, ta sha saƙonnin iri ɗaya waɗanda suka mamaye tunaninmu na gano mace daga farkon rayuwa. Idan an koya muku ku yi imani cewa nasararmu za ta iya isa zuwa yanzu – kuma za a iya nuna bukukuwanku ta hanya ɗaya kawai – za ku gajarta ƙwarewarku, tsammaninku, da karkatar da ra’ayoyinku na waɗanda suka ƙalubalanci shi. IMO, maganganun nata suna da isasshen rayuwar rayuwar da ake koyar da ku cewa akwai hanyar kurciya don jin girman kan ku.

Darussan da ke tattare da kyakkyawan wasan motsa jiki ba su da ƙima. Kuna koyan yadda ake cin nasara da rasawa tare da alheri da yaba abokin adawar ku komai sakamakon wasan. Morgan ya yi haka. Bayan rawar da ta taka, ta jajanta wa wani dan wasan kasar Thailand a lokacin da aka kammala wasan. Sauran membobin tawagar Amurka sun taya 'yan wasan Thai murna.

Lokaci ne mai ban sha'awa don zama mace. A ƙarshe muna ba da kulawa da ta dace don yawan gudummawar da muke bayarwa ga al'umma, da kuma ƙoƙarin da ba a iya gani da muke yi ba tare da yabo ko yabo ba. Ko ƙungiyar ƙwallon ƙafa ta Mata ta Amurka ta yi niyyar zama abin koyi, suna yin kyakkyawan aiki IMHO. Ci gaba da mata, zan yi muku murna!

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