Me ake nufi da zama ɗan luwadi?

Wadatacce

• Menene ma'anar pansexual?
• Pansexuality ≠ polyamory
• Pansexual vs. bisexual
• Yaya yawan yin luwadi da madigo?
• Ta yaya zan san idan ni pansexual ne?
• Bita don

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Kalmar 'pansexual' ta kasance kuma ana amfani da ita shekaru da yawa-da yawa, gwargwadon jinsi, jima'i, da mai binciken jinsi Della V. Mosley, Ph.D., mataimakiyar farfesa kan ilimin halayyar ɗan adam a Jami'ar Florida. Amma idan kun ƙara jin shi ba zato ba tsammani kuma kuna mamakin abin da ake nufi da jima'i, ba za ku yi tunanin shi ba. Mosley yayi hasashen cewa, saboda an sami "yawan yawan masu yin jima'i a waje da ke bayyana kansu a matsayin ɗan jima'i, an sami karuwar bayyanar da kalmar." Gaskiya mai daɗi: Akwai ma takamaiman tuta na pansexual wanda ya haɗa da ruwan hoda, rawaya, da shuɗi.

Duk da haka, samun damar lissafin wasu mashahuran mazan jiya ya bambanta da sanin ainihin abin da ake nufi. Idan kana zazzage kai kana mamaki, "menene pansexual?" kun zo wurin da ya dace. A ƙasa, Mosley da Jamie LeClaire, malamin ilimin jima'i wanda ya ƙware kan jima'i da jinsi, amsa duk tambayoyinku, gami da: Menene jima'i? Menene banbanci tsakanin maza da mata da maza? Ta yaya za ku san idan kun kasance pansexual?

Menene ma'anar pansexual?

A wani ɓangare, ma'anar "pansexual" ya dogara da wanda kuke tambaya. Wannan saboda babu ɗaya, amma biyu Ma'anar da aka yarda da ita na pansexual, in ji Mosley.

"Wani lokaci ana bayyana jima'i a matsayin abin sha'awa ga wanikomai ta asalin jinsi ko jinsi, "in ji ta." Wasu lokuta ana bayyana ta azaman jan hankaliduka asalin jinsi ko jinsi, "in ji ta, wanda ya nuna a bayyane a cikin prefix" pan- ", wanda ke nufin" duka. "

Dukkan ma'anoni biyun sun yarda cewa asalin jinsi ya wanzu akan bakan. Ma'ana, maimakon a iyakance ga adalci mutum kumamace, asalin jinsi na wani kuma na iya zama mai tsaurin ra'ayi, mai son kai, mai girman kai, ko mai jinsi, jinsi, ko wanda ba na binary ba (don suna kaɗan kawai). Kuma yin luwadi da madigo yana nufin za a iya jan hankalin ku ga mutanen da suka nuna matsayin/tare da kowane ɗayan waɗannan jinsi. (Dubi ƙarin: Abin da Ainihi Yana Nufin Zama Raunin Jinsi ko Bayyana shi a Matsayin Ba na Binary bane)

Don haka, a sauƙaƙe, menene pansexual? "Kasancewar jima'i yana nufin cewa za ku iya sha'awar wani kuma ba ya dogara da jinsi ko al'aura," in ji LeClaire. A zahiri, masu jima'i na jima'i na iya zuwa zuciya-ido-emoji ga wani na kowane yanayin jima'i, asalin jinsi, gabatarwar jinsi, ko jima'i (aka al'aurar).

Kuma, a'a, kasancewa ɗan luwadibaya yi yana nufin za ku yi jima'i da kowa.

Idan ka karanta wannan a matsayin tafa-magana, ka karanta daidai. Mosley ya ce "Al'ummar pan-sexual suna fuskantar wannan tatsuniya sosai lokacin da suke bayyana asalinsu ga mutanen da ba su san ma'anarta ba," in ji Mosley. Amma yin luwadi da madigo ba daidai yake da lalata ko liwadi ba. (An danganta: Sau Nawa Kowa Yake Yin Jima'i?)

Pansexuality ≠ polyamory

Mosley ta ce wani labari na yau da kullun da take ji game da jima'i shine cewa wata kalma ce kawai tare da polyamory. Ba haka bane.

"Polyamory yana da alaƙa da kasancewa a buɗe don samun ko samun abokin tarayya sama da ɗaya a lokaci ɗaya - sabanin auren mace ɗaya, wanda ke cikin alaƙar soyayya guda ɗaya a lokaci guda," in ji ta. Kasancewa pansexual ba ya nufin irin dangantakar da wani zai yi. Wani wanda ke jima'i zai iya zaɓar zama, kuma ya yi farin ciki a cikin, ko dai dangantaka ta polyamorous ko mace ɗaya, in ji ta. (Duba Ƙari: Ga Abinda Dangantakar Polyamorous A zahiri take - da Abin da Ba haka bane)

Pansexual vs. bisexual

Ina mamakin menene bambanci tsakanin pansexuality da bisexuality? Yawancin mutane suna. Ya zama ruwan dare ga mutane su rikitar da wadanda ba 'yan luwadi ba (wanda soyayya ta fi shahara da su fiye da jinsi daya), in ji LeClaire. (Wannan ƙamus ɗin LGBTQ+ zai share wasu kalmomin da yawa.)

Gaskiya ne: Waɗannan alamomin suna da ɗanɗano, in ji Mosley. Kuma kamar yadda pansexuality yana da ƴan ma'anoni, haka ma bisexuality.

Na farko, menene bambancin jinsi?

A tarihance, an ayyana bisexuality a matsayin sha'awar soyayya, sha'awar jima'i, ko sha'awar jima'i ga maza da mata. LeClaire ya ce "Yawancin ma'anonin luwadi da madigo da za ku samu a cikin litattafan karatu an ƙirƙira su ne a lokacin da har yanzu ana fahimtar al'adu da sauran jama'a a matsayin jinsi," in ji LeClaire.

Duk da haka, kamar yadda fahimtar jinsi ya samo asali, haka ma ma'anar bisexuality.Yanzu, a cewar Cibiyar Ba da Agaji ta Bisexual, jinsi biyu yanzu yana nufin "jawo hankalin soyayya da/ko jima'i zuwa fiye da ɗaya jinsi." Wasu mutanen da suka bayyana a matsayin masu jinsi biyu suna ayyana shi a matsayin mai jan hankalin duka jinsi 1) kamar nasu da 2) sabanin nasu, Leclaire ya ce, a cikin noding zuwa prefix na "bi" (wanda ke nufin biyu). (Anan ne cikakken jagora ga abin da ke nufin mace -mace da yadda ake sanin idan kuna iya bi.)

Jira, to menene banbanci tsakanin mata da maza?

Ga hanya mafi kyau don tunani game da shi: Pansexuality shine jan hankali ga wani komai na jinsi, yayin da jinsi biyu shine jan hankalin jinsi fiye da ɗaya.

Idan kuna tunanin "yaya idan ni duka biyun?" ba kai kaɗai ba ne; wasu mutane suna bayyana a matsayin BiPan (koduka biyu bisexual da pansexual). Koyaya, galibi, waɗanda suka bayyana matsayin ɗan luwaɗi suna yin hakan saboda kawai ya fi dacewa da su fiye da sauran mazan da ba na ɗan luwaɗi ba, kamar ɗan adam.

Abin sha’awa ya ishe, har ila yau, akwai babban ɓangaren al’adu don amfani da waɗannan sharuɗɗan, in ji Mosley: “Abubuwa kamar shekaru, jinsi, da yanayin ƙasa na iya taka muhimmiyar rawa a cikin kalmar da mutum ya zaɓa.” Anecdotally, ta lura cewa mutane a cikin matasa da 20s sun fi amfani da kalmar 'pansexual' idan aka kwatanta da waɗanda suke a ƙarshen 30s da sama, waɗanda suka fi dacewa su iya ID a matsayin 'bisexual.'

"Abin da ya zo, da gaske, shine fifikon kanku, da kuma haƙƙin ku na tabbatar da ainihin ku yadda kuka ga ya dace," in ji LeClaire. "Ni da kaina na nuna cewa ɗan luwadi ne, amma ina ganin yana ƙarƙashin babban laima na biyun jima'i." Yawancin mutanen da ke da alaƙa da waɗanda ba ɗan luwadi ba sun yarda cewa akwai sarari don duka/duk abubuwan zama a lokaci guda. (FYI, akwai wani sabon lokacin jima'i na rashin jituwa, skoliosexual, wannan rigima ce, amma yana da kyau a sani.)

Sanin wannan: Ko wani ya bayyana a matsayin bisexual ko pansexual (ko kowane ainihi na wannan al'amari), zabinsu ne. A matsayinka na gaba ɗaya, idan wani ya ce sun gano wani abu, yi imani da su. Idan wani ya bayyana a matsayin pansexual/bisexual/etc. amma baya 'duba' ko yin yadda kuke tsammanin wanda ke da wannan asalin zai duba ko yayi aiki, wannan shine KA matsala. Sanya sunan wani ba shi da daɗi a kowane yanayi. (Mai Alaƙa: Me yasa Tambayar Kwanan ku Idan Ta '' Queer Enough '' Ba Ya Yi)

Yaya yawan yin luwadi da madigo?

Wannan tambayar kusan ba ta yiwuwa a amsa, in ji Mosley. "Babu isasshen bincike kan maza da mata don sanin yadda aka saba, kuma ba kasafai bincike ke ba da wannan zaɓi ga mahalarta ba."

Reportaya daga cikin rahoton 2018 da Kwamitin Kare Hakkin Dan -Adam ya gano cewa kashi 14 cikin ɗari na matasa LGBTQ+ sun bayyana a matsayin ɗan luwadi, wanda ya fi girma fiye da irin wannan rahoto daga 2012, wanda ke nuna cewa liwadi yana ƙara zama ruwan dare. Koyaya, babu wani takamaiman bayanai kan abin da kashi ɗaya cikin ɗari na yawan jama'a ke zama ɗan luwaɗi.

Ta yaya zan san idan ni pansexual ne?

Babu Gwajin Pansexual na hukuma wanda kuke buƙatar ɗauka da wucewa don ganewa tare da lakabi, kuma babu gwajin da zai iya gaya muku a fili idan kun kasance 'yan luwadi ko a'a. Ko da kuna sha'awar jima'i ko soyayya ta soyayya ko shiga tsakanin mutane masu jinsi daban -daban ba yana nufin dole ne ku gane ku ɗan adam ne. Kai ɗan luwadi ne kawai idan wannan asalin yana jin daidai (ko yana jin mafi hakki) ku. (An danganta: Yadda "Fitowa" Ya Inganta Lafiyata da Farin Ciki)

Wasu mutane na ganin cewa samun ajali ko tsarin abin da suke rayuwa da shi na iya zama 'yanci, in ji Mosley. "A cikin warkarwa da bincike na tare da pan/queer/bi+ mutane, galibi na ji cewa samun lakabi da yare yana haɗa su zuwa al'ummomi, yana rage warewa, yana danganta su da albarkatu, kuma yana iya haɓaka mallakar," in ji ta. LeClaire ya yarda, ya kara da cewa "gano ainihin abin da kuke jin kamar zaku iya fada da karfi da alfahari na iya zama da karfafawa da 'yanci." Amma kuma, wannan yana kan tsarin lokacin ku. Dogara, al'ummarka za ta kasance a wurinka lokacin da ka shirya. (Mai Alaƙa: Menene Ainihi Ma'anar Kasancewa?)

Idan kuna mamakin ko kuna iya zama ɗan jima'i, Mosley ya ce bincika jinsi unicorn babban mataki ne na farko. "Yana da ma'amala da gaske kuma zai ba ku damar yin tunani ta hanyar abubuwan jan hankalin ku daban -daban (tausayawa, ta jiki) tare da asalin jinsi, bayyanar jinsi, da jima'i."

LeClaire ya ce Cibiyar Albarkatun Bisexual da littafinYaya Queer! Labarai na sirri daga bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, ruwa-ruwa, da sauran ra'ayoyin marasa luwaɗita Faith Beauchemin suma albarkatu ne masu kyau.

Ka tuna: "Farin ciki da ƙalubalen da za ka iya fuskanta a matsayin ku na mata da maza ba sa faruwa a ware wasu abubuwan ku," in ji Dokta Mosley. "Don haka, Ina so in ƙarfafa mutane suyi ɗan tono don nemo hanyoyin da suka fi dacewa da buƙatunsu a halin yanzu [da sauran asalinsu kamar jinsi, launin fata, aji, da matsayin baƙi)." Kuma don wannan, Twitter, Tumblr, da Instagram sune saman. A zahiri, hashtags na iya samun amfani mai mahimmanci.

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