Yaran Yara: Fahimtar Shahararren Mashahuri

Wadatacce

• Menene Al'ada?
• Nawa Ya Yi yawa?
• Me Idan baku son Mashahurin?

Bayani

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Yaran da ke sha'awar masu shahararrun abu ba sabon abu bane, kuma ba sabon abu bane ga yara - musamman ma matasa - ɗaukar fandom zuwa matakin shaƙatawa. Amma shin akwai wata ma'ana wacce sha'awar ɗanku Justin Bieber ya kamata ta ba ku damuwa?

Anan ga yadda zaka bambance ko sha'awar yarinka da shahara zata iya zama a saman.

Menene Al'ada?

Babu wata ganewar asali don shahararrun mashahurai, kuma a mafi yawan lokuta, sha'awar ɗanku ko yarinyarku tare da sabon gwarzo cikakke ne.

Dokta Timothy Legg, N.P.P., ya ce, "Ba laifi ba ne ka yaba wa mutane, kuma kowane yaro yana da wannan har zuwa wani mataki," in ji Dokta Timothy Legg, N.P.P. "Mashahuri sun yi nasara kuma sun fi girma fiye da rayuwa, kuma yara koyaushe ba su fahimci cewa fim ne."

Hatta yara kanana na iya yin matukar damuwa da jaruntaka ko halayyar zane mai ban dariya, amma ga matasa, bautar gwarzo ga mawaƙi ko tauraron fina-finai kusan aikin ibada ne.

A matsayinka na mahaifi, yana iya zama da sauki ka yi tunanin sha'awar ɗanka tana iya haɗuwa da laulayin rashin lafiya, musamman idan ba ka son shahararrun mashahurin da suka fi so. Amma a mafi yawan lokuta, abin da ya same ka a matsayin matsanancin hali mai yiwuwa al'ada ce.

"Sanya tufa kamar ta shahara da canza salon kwalliyar ka don zama kamar wani shahararre wani bangare ne na al'ada na kokarin tantance mutane daban-daban da kuma gano ko kai wanene," in ji Dokta Legg. Waɗannan ɗabi’un ba wani abin damuwa bane.

Ditto don shiga kulab ɗin fan, haddace mara ma'ana, da ɓata lokaci mai yawa game da yin magana game da shahararren. Abin sani kawai idan sha'awar ɗanku ga shahararren ya fara tsoma baki tare da rayuwar yau da kullun da za'a iya haifar da damuwa.

Nawa Ya Yi yawa?

Kodayake abu ne na al'ada yaronka ya bata lokaci mai yawa yana tunanin jarumtakarsu, akwai iyaka.

Don shahararrun mashahurai don ɗauka a matsayin cuta, yana buƙatar cika ƙa'idodin cuta mai rikitarwa.

"Tambayar ita ce yadda ta mamaye ko'ina," in ji Dokta Legg. "Shin yana yin katsalandan ne game da ikon yaron don aiwatar da muhimman ayyukan yau da kullun?" A matsayinka na mahaifi, idan kana damuwa game da sha’awar ɗanka, ka kasance mai gaskiya game da yadda kake kimanta yadda ya shafi rayuwar ɗanka.

Idan matashin ku ya ƙi yin ayyukan gida kuma ya zame don kallon bidiyon Justin Bieber a maimakon haka, Justin Bieber mai yiwuwa ba shi da laifi. Ko da yaronka ya yanke shawarar barin ayyukan da suke sha'awarta saboda ta gwammace ta ɗauki lokaci tana tattaunawa da ƙawayenta game da shahararriyar shahararriyarta, wannan ba lallai ba ne dalilin damuwa. Abu ne na al'ada ga matasa su sami saurin canza sha'awa, don haka rasa sha'awa ɗaya don maye gurbin shi da wani ba cuta ba ce.

Koyaya, idan ɗanka ya cika da damuwa da mashahuri cewa yana karɓar dukkan ayyukansu, yana iya zama lokaci don tattaunawa da likita.

"Idan aikin makarantar yaron yana zamewa kuma suna ba da duk abokansu su zauna a cikin ɗakin su duk ranar da aka canza zuwa allon kwamfutar kallon kide kide, ya kamata ku tuntubi ƙwararren masani don kimantawa," in ji Dokta Legg. Wannan ba yana nufin kuna buƙatar damuwa ba idan yaronku ya ɓata ranar Asabar da ta gabata yana kallon marathon kai tsaye na kide kide - kawai idan ɗabi'a irin wannan ta kasance daidai kuma ta yau da kullun.

Kuma, ba shakka, idan ɗanka yayi magana game da tsananin ɓacin rai ko ambaton tunanin kashe kansa da ya shafi wani sanannen mutum, to lokaci ya yi da za a tuntuɓi mai sana'a kai tsaye. Idan ɗanka ya yi imani da gaske cewa gwarzonsu ya san su da kansu ko ya nace cewa an dawo da soyayyar su, hakan na iya zama alama ce cewa tana samun matsala rarrabe tsakanin tsinkaye da gaskiya.

Me Idan baku son Mashahurin?

Koda dabi'un ɗanka sun faɗi cikin kaɗaitar sha'awa ta yau da kullun, kana iya samun wasu damuwa bawai kan matakin da ɗanka ya ɗauka ba, amma a kan irin mutumin da ɗanka ya zaɓa ya so.

Amma "iyaye koyaushe za su ƙi halayen masu shahara," in ji Dokta Legg. Saboda kawai yaranku suna sauraren kiɗa game da harbi-ta hanyar harbi ba ya nufin rashin hankalinsu ga mai fasahar fyade ba shi da lafiya. "Iyaye su tambaya menene dalilin hakan," in ji Dokta Legg. "Ku tattauna damuwar ku da yaranku, amma ta hanyar da ba magani."

Yawancin lokaci, yaranku zasu kalle ku da ƙyama kuma su tabbatar muku cewa ba za su taɓa yin la'akari da kwaikwayon halaye a cikin kiɗan da suke saurare ba - sun san cewa fasaha ce, ba rayuwa ba.

Idan ɗanku na farko ko ƙaramin yaro yana sha'awar gwarzo mai cin mutuncin jama'a, har yanzu ba a buƙatar tsallakewa zuwa ganewar asali ba, amma yana da kyau ku zama maɗaukakiyar hanyar sadarwa. Yara ƙanana na iya samun wahalar rarrabe abin da yake gaskiya da abin da ke hasashe, don haka yi magana da yaronka don sanin abin da tunaninsa yake game da kiɗan.

Mafi yawan lokuta, yawan tunanin ɗanka da shahararren mutum ba abin damuwa bane. A zahiri, yana iya zama babban kayan aiki a gare ku a matsayin mahaifi. "Yi amfani da shi don amfaninka," in ji Dokta Legg. "Bai kamata iyaye su mai da martani nan da nan ba, saboda za ku iya amfani da wannan azaman kayan aikin tattaunawa."

Kawai gwada ba da shawarar cewa ɗanka zai iya samun tikitin waƙoƙi tare da ƙarin ayyuka ko maki mai kyau, kuma za ka yi mamakin yadda saurin ɗanka zai iya yin wanki.