Nasihun 28 don Samun ku a cikin Yanayi don Saduwa da Sadarku ta Gaba

Wadatacce

• Ba duk muradi bane kwatsam
• PSA: Ana buƙatar yarda mai ɗoki koyaushe
• Shirya don shiga cikin yanayi
• Tsara kwanan watan jima'i kowane mako
• Jingina cikin karatun sha'awa
• Ci gaba da yawon shakatawa
• Sanya lokaci a kunna juna
• Binciko kayan wasan yara masu sanyawa
• Na shida!
• Gina jira a wasu hanyoyi na kirkira
• De-damuwa tare
• Yoga
• Breathwork
• Yi zuzzurfan tunani
• Yi wanka ko wanka
• Warware duk wani rikici
• Saita yanayi
• Yi shi wasa
• Babu hannaye
• Mirgine da mutu
• Ickauki kati, kowane kati
• Kai tafi, ni zan tafi
• Ku shigo da kayan taimako na batsa
• Bincika batsa na sauti
• Kalli batsa tare
• Samun daji da kalmomi
• Juya cikin littafi mai ban dariya
• Layin kasa

Mun haɗa da kayayyakin da muke tsammanin suna da amfani ga masu karatu. Idan ka siya ta hanyoyin yanar gizo a wannan shafin, zamu iya samun ƙaramin kwamiti. Ga tsarinmu.

Ba duk muradi bane kwatsam

Menene alamomin jijiyoyi, iphone, da murhun wuta a waje ɗaya? Kuna iya kunna su tare da tura maɓallin. Jikin ku, fam, baya cikin wannan jeren.

"Fina-finai na yau da kullun da TV suna nuna kamar son zuciya ne - wanda a ciki kake kwatsam ko ka kunna shi - shi ne al'ada," in ji Jill McDevitt, CalExotics 'mazaunin ilimin jima'i.

“Kuma yayin da tabbas hakan ke faruwa - musamman a farkon dangantakar - ba haka ba ne kawai hanya don kyakkyawa ko lafiyayyen jima'i don farawa. ”

A zahiri, yawancin masu goyon baya suna fuskantar wani abu da ake kira "sha'awar sha'awa."

"Wannan shine lokacin da sha'awar yin jima'i ya zo ne sakamakon da gangan ta yin amfani da abubuwan da suka shafi jima'i ko tunanin mutum kamar sumbatar juna, tausa, karanta batsa, ko kallon batsa don shiga cikin yanayi, "in ji ta.

A ƙasa, nasihu kan juya niyya da gangan - da abokin tarayyar ku, idan kuna da ɗaya - a kan.

PSA: Ana buƙatar yarda mai ɗoki koyaushe

"Akwai banbanci sosai tsakanin neman karamin abu don shiga cikin yanayi da kuma tilastawa abokiyar zamanka ta yi jima'in da ba ka so ka yi," in ji kwararriyar mai koyar da ilimin jima'i Alicia Sinclair, Shugaba na COTR, ​​Inc., wacce ta kera kamfanin b-Vibe, Le Wand, da kuma Cowgirl.

"Idan aboki ɗaya yana cewa 'a'a' ko kuma yana murmurewa ta jiki, yana da mahimmanci a ɗauki waɗannan alamomin don dakatar da gaske," in ji ta.

Kasa tsayawa lokacin da abokiyar zamanka bata yarda da yarda ba jima'i bane. Yana da hari.

Shirya don shiga cikin yanayi

Idan kuna tunanin jima'i da aka shirya shine ƙin yarda da kyakkyawan jima'i, kuyi tunanin yadda zai zama daɗi kasancewa cikin lace mai kyau, briefs, ko mai ɗaura lokacin da abokin tarayyarku ya tuɓe ku - sabanin tsoffin 'yan dambe ko na zamani.

Tsara kwanan watan jima'i kowane mako

Bayyanannu aƙalla Mintuna 60 a cikin kalandarku sau ɗaya a mako don ranar sake saduwa.

"Mabudin shine kiyaye alƙawarin bincika jikinku da jikin abokin zamanku yadda zaku kiyaye kiran aiki ko alƙawarin gashi," in ji mai koyar da ilimin jima'i, Sarah Sloane, wacce ke koyar da azuzuwan wasan yara na jima'i a ibararriyar Rawa da Jin Dadin 200an tun 200l .

FYI, wannan tip din ya shafi jima'i ne kawai. Tsara al'aura mara.

Jingina cikin karatun sha'awa

Shirya kwanan wata zuwa shagon jima'i na gida. Je ka duba rakodi na kai tsaye na Tina Horn "Me Ya Sa Mutane Suna Cikin Hakan ?!" kwasfan fayiloli Jeka Gidan Tarihi Na Jima'i. Halarci taron labarai na batsa.

Sinclair ya ce: "A cikin dangantakar jima'I, ƙirƙirar sabon abu da sabo na iya zama bambanci tsakanin kunnawa da jin kamar kuna yin aiki," in ji Sinclair.

Oneayan mafi kyawun hanyoyi don yin wannan shine zuwa taron abin da ya shafi jima'i da ganin abin da rikice-rikice da abubuwan sha'awa ke tasowa bayan haka, in ji ta.

Ci gaba da yawon shakatawa

Kuma aka fi sani da hutu… inda kuke yin jima'i.

Ba batun sanya matsi kan kanka don samun sa ba. Yana da game da ciyar da kyawawan lokaci tare, ba tare da tsangwama na aiki / yara / dabbobin gida / iyaye ba.

Idan kun ƙare hargitsi-a-langing, mai girma! Wani kuma zai wanke zanen da aka zana! Idan ba haka ba, babu biggie, har yanzu zaku ci gajiyar QT.

Sanya lokaci a kunna juna

Don sake maimaitawa: Jikunan mutane ba sa kunna tare da tura maballin. Wannan sh * t yana ɗaukar lokaci.

Binciko kayan wasan yara masu sanyawa

Da kyau, waɗanda zasu iya zuwa tare da ikon nesa.

"Gwada samun abokin tarayya daya saka vibrator, kamar Lock-N-Play Panty Teaser ta CalExotics, wanda abokin tarayyar ka zai iya sarrafa shi ta nesa," in ji McDevitt.

"Ginin zai sa ku yi tsalle da ƙashin juna lokacin da kuka dawo gida."

Na shida!

Yi tunani game da yadda H-O-T wani zama mai mahimmanci na sext zai iya zama. Kafin ka ga abokiyar zamanka, ka gaya musu ainihin abin da kake son yi musu.

Wasu layuka don ara:

• "Ba zan iya jira in lasa ba tare da ruwan durin ku ba…"
• "Ina ci gaba da tunanin irin yanayin da kuka gani lokacin da na fara nemanku a makon da ya gabata…"
• “Yau da dare ina so in ji kuna nishi a sunana…”

Gina jira a wasu hanyoyi na kirkira

Wasu shawarwari daga Sinclair:

• Ka bar bayanin jima'i don abokin tarayya.
• Rataya kamfai na musamman a wurin da abokin zamanka zai ganta.
• Waswasi wani abu datti a kunnensu tun kafin ya tashi zuwa aiki.
• Ku tafi cin kasuwa don sabbin kayan bautar ko kayan wasan jima'i tare (kuma wataƙila ku gaya wa juna hanyoyin da kuke son amfani da su!).

De-damuwa tare

Maƙiyinka na libido mai yiwuwa shine lambar ku ta farko: damuwa. Bust wannan damuwar tare da dabaru masu zuwa.

Yoga

Tabbas yoga yana cikin jerin! Yana da de-stressing yi, bayan duk. Ari, Downarƙashin fuskantar Dog babban aiki ne don salon kare…

Wani zaɓi: Gwada yoga, wanda shine ainihin yoga.

Breathwork

TBH, ba ku sani ba gaskiya kusanci har sai kun daidaita shaƙatawa da shaƙatawa tare da shaƙatar iska da iska.

Yi zuzzurfan tunani

Yi aiki don yin 'yan mintoci kaɗan na zuzzurfan tunani don share tunanin ku kafin ku shiga cikin musayar jima'i, ku ba da shawarar McDevitt.

“Kawai kada ku sanya shiga cikin yanayin jima'i burin rage damuwa, saboda zai dawo baya. Cewa, 'Ina bukatar yin zuzzurfan tunani don haka ban cika damuwa ba kuma ina son jima'i' hanya ce tabbatacciya don jaddada kanka har ma fiye da haka, "in ji ta. Lura!

Yi wanka ko wanka

Zafin nama mai natsuwa. Saukewar sha'awa sabulu akan fatar ku. Gawarwakin tsirara. Yep, wanka da wankan suna dacewa don kunnawa.

Makasudin ba shine yin jima'i a cikin shawa ba, kawai don rage damuwa, na sha'awa. Amma (!) Idan abu ɗaya ya haifar da wani, kar a manta da amfani da lube.

Warware duk wani rikici

Sinclair ya ce "Mafi kyawun jima'i shi ne jima'i inda akwai bayyananniya, sadarwa kai tsaye da kuma buɗewa tsakanin abokan hulɗa,"

"Kuma idan kuna fada, kuna jin haushi, ko kuna takaici tare da abokiyar zamanku, hakan na iya haifar muku da sanya bangonku, wanda ba yanayi bane mai kyau ko ɗabi'a don wasa mai cike da farin ciki."

Matsayinku: Sadarwa, sadarwa, da sadarwa wasu ƙarin don sasantawa (kuma wataƙila ma kwafcewa).

Jin haushi, takaici, ko haushi da shi kanka Hakanan yana iya toshe maka sha'awa.

Gwada gwadawa, magana ta hanyar shi da wani (aboki, mai ilimin hanyoyin kwantar da hankali, mai son sa), ko juya zuwa wasu ayyukan kula da kai.

Saita yanayi

Sinclair ya ce: "Yankin ku na iya zama wani lokaci mabuɗin don fita daga mummunan yanayi zuwa cikin yanayi na lalata.

Gwada tsabtace sararin jima'i, rage hasken wuta, kunna kyandir da kuka fi so, kunna kida mai taushi, shimfida akushin abinci na aphrodisiac (ko kuma sandar cakulan kawai), ko kunna fim ɗinku na fav-O-rite R.

Yi shi wasa

Menene jima'i da wasanni suke da ita? Su duka biyun suna da daɗi. A tare yana da kamar fun x10.

Babu hannaye

Kuna iya sumbatar. Shi ke nan! Ba a yarda da gashi ba, gyaran nono, tsokanar yatsa, ƙwanƙwasa ƙwallo, ko ƙwanƙwasa gwal da aka yarda.

Mutum na farko da ya yi amfani da hannayensu ya taɓa ɗayan ya yi asara.

Motsawarka: Yi amfani da haƙoranka, harshenka, da leɓɓanka don cizawa, tsotsewa, sumbacewa, da lasar bakin abokin tarayya a wani yanayi wanda yake da daɗi da ba za su iya taimakawa ba amma su jawo ka cikin su.

(Idan ba kuyi tunanin wannan yana da zafi ba, a bayyane ba ku ga fave kowa ba Kalmar L ma'aurata Carmen da Shane sun buga shi a kakar 2, kashi na 3.)

Mirgine da mutu

Ah, dan lido na jima'i - wanda zaku iya samu akan layi - na iya jin kamar AF, amma yana iya zama mai zafi sosai.

Mirgine lallen kuma bari su fada maka ko ciza, tsotse, lasa, smack, ko sumbatar abokan zamanka, clit, zakara, ko baki.

Idan ku da abokin tarayyar ku kuna cikin kink da BDSM, kuna iya gwada wannan saitin mai da hankali da kink.

Ickauki kati, kowane kati

Bayan haka, yi abin da ya umurce ka ka yi. Daga cikin jima'i na baka don dawo da tausa zuwa shan yatsan hannu da fuskar zama, katunan jima'i suna da daɗi ga duos waɗanda ke cikin yanayi don shiga cikin yanayi. Rabauki saiti akan layi.

Kai tafi, ni zan tafi

Sinclair ya ce: "Wannan wasan kwaikwayon na game da bayarwa ne da kuma wasa mai karba,"

Fara da saita lokaci. Don wani ɗan lokaci (kamar minti 30), Mai bayarwa shine ya taɓa Mai karɓar duk inda kuma duk yadda suke so a taɓa su, farawa da taɓawar da ba luwadi ba. Da zarar lokaci ya kure, sauya.

"Wannan ita ce babbar hanya don a mai da hankali kan bayarwa da karɓar ni'ima, da sadar da abin da ke da kyau kafin jima'i ma ya fara," in ji ta.

Ku shigo da kayan taimako na batsa

Maimakon tafiya daga 0-to-O (wancan ba komai ba ne zuwa inzali), me zai hana ka yi amfani da idanunka da kunnuwanka don saita yanayi?

Bincika batsa na sauti

Sinclair ya ce: "Maganar batsa kamar Dipsea da Aurore sabuwar hanya ce mai ban sha'awa don kawo tatsuniya da tunani."

Sanya shi a wayarka a kan hanyar dawowa daga abincin dare da hannu mai ɗayan kunnen kunnen.

Kalli batsa tare

Idan ku ko boo ɗin ku yana jin daɗin kallon bidiyo a cikin lokacin ku na sirri, me zai hana ku kalle su tare? Don wasu finafinai masu lalata, fina-finai masu ma'anar jima'i, duba FourChambers ko Bellesa.

Har ila yau zafi: Kunna fim ɗin batsa da jujjuya allon kewaye don ku iya jin huff, nishi, da kuma mews a bango (CrashPadSeries yana da wasu sosai sexy mai cike da nishi).

Samun daji da kalmomi

Bai kamata ya zama abin mamaki ba cewa karanta game da mutanen da ke yin jima'i na iya zama zafi. Ja wani labari daga Literotica ko Sugar Butch Tarihi ka karanta shi a sarari zuwa littafin ka.

Juya cikin littafi mai ban dariya

Masu koyon gani a gaba! Sinclair ya ce "Littattafan zane-zane da littattafai masu ban dariya, kamar Fantagraphics, hanya ce ta ban dariya da ban sha'awa don bincika sabbin sassan jima'i."

Layin kasa

Yana da cikakkiyar lafiya da al'ada idan yana ɗaukar ɗan aiki kaɗan don shiga cikin yanayin jima'i. Akwai, kamar yadda aka nuna a sama, syeda na hanyoyin yin haka.

Har ila yau, yana da kyau idan ba za ku iya shiga cikin yanayi ba! Bai kamata ka taɓa jin an matsa maka yin jima'i ba idan ba ka so.

Al'aurar ku da sauran wuraren lalata ba 'yanayi' amfani da 'em ko rasa' ba '- har yanzu zasu kasance a wurin ku lokacin da kuka shiga ko, ko kuma kuna da lokacin shiga, yanayin.

Gabrielle Kassel marubuciya ce da ke zaune a New York kuma ita ce marubuciya kuma mai koyar da jin daɗi kuma mai koyarwa na CrossFit Level 1. Ta zama mutumin safiya, an gwada ta sama da 200, kuma ta ci, ta sha, an kuma goge ta da gawayi - duk da sunan aikin jarida. A lokacin hutu, za a same ta tana karanta littattafan taimakon kai da kai da kuma littattafan soyayya, matsi a benci, ko rawa rawa. Bi ta kan ta Instagram.