James Van Der Beek Ya Rarraba Dalilin Da Ya Sa Muke Bukatar Wani Karin Magana don "Rashin Haihuwa" A cikin Matsayi Mai ƙarfi

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A farkon wannan bazara, James Van Der Beek da matarsa, Kimberly, sun yi maraba da ɗansu na biyar a duniya. Ma'auratan sun sha shiga shafukan sada zumunta sau da yawa tun daga lokacin suna bayyana jin daɗinsu. Kwanan nan, duk da haka, Van Der Beek ya ba da wani gefen labarinsu wanda babu wanda ya taɓa ji a baya-wanda ke da babban rashi da bakin ciki.

A cikin wani sakon ban tausayi, sabon uban ya bayyana cewa kafin maraba da 'yarsu, Gwendolyn, ma'auratan sun yi fama da zafin asarar ciki-ba sau ɗaya ba, amma sau da yawa. Yana son ɗaukar ɗan lokaci don raba saƙo tare da waɗanda suka sha irin wannan zafin, don sanar da su cewa ba su kaɗai ba ne.

"Ina so in faɗi abu ɗaya ko biyu game da zubar da ciki ... wanda mun sami uku a cikin shekaru (gami da dama kafin wannan ɗan ƙaramin kyau)," jarumin ya rubuta tare da hoton kansa da matarsa ​​tare da jariri. (Mai Dangantaka: Ga Dai Dai Abin Da Ya Faru Lokacin Da Na Yi Zuciya)

"Na farko kashe-muna buƙatar sabon kalma a gare ta," in ji shi. "'Mis-carriage,' a cikin wata hanya mai banƙyama, yana nuna kuskure ga mahaifiyar - kamar dai ta jefar da wani abu, ko kuma ta kasa 'dauka.' Daga abin da na koya, a cikin duka amma mafi bayyane, matsanancin yanayi, ba shi da alaƙa da duk abin da mahaifiyar ta yi ko ba ta yi ba. (Mai Alaka: Yadda Na Koyi Na Sake Amincewa Jikina Bayan Zuciyata)

Abin baƙin ciki shine, wannan ƙwarewar mai raɗaɗi ba ta da wuya: "Kimanin kashi 20-25 cikin 100 na masu ciki da aka sani a asibiti suna haifar da asara," Zev Williams MD, babban jami'in sashen ilimin endocrinology da rashin haihuwa da kuma farfesa a fannin mata masu ciki da mata a Cibiyar Kiwon Lafiya ta Jami'ar Columbia. ya fada Siffa. "Yawancin lokuta na asarar ciki yana faruwa ne saboda matsalar chromosomal a cikin tayin, wanda ke haifar da samun chromosomes masu yawa ko kaɗan. cikin hasara. "

Ba wai kawai ba, amma mata sukan ji bakin ciki mai tsanani bayan sun fuskanci rashin ciki, tare da lokacin makoki wanda yawanci yakan dauki shekara guda, rahotanni. Iyaye. "Yawancin mata da ma'aurata suna jin laifi mai yawa da kuma zargin kansu bayan rashin ciki," in ji Dokta Williams. "Amfani da kalmar" zubar da ciki "baya taimakawa, kuma yana iya ma ba da gudummawa ga wannan ji ta hanyar nuna cewa ciki ya ɓace. Na fi son kalmar" asarar ciki "saboda da gaske hasara ce kuma babu wani laifi."

Kamar yadda Van Der Beek ya fada a cikin sakonsa, ciwo ne wanda "zai yaga ku bude kamar babu wani abu."

"Yana da zafi kuma yana da raɗaɗi akan matakan zurfi fiye da yadda kuka taɓa dandana," in ji shi.

Shi ya sa, ta hanyar yin magana game da batun, yana fatan wayar da kan jama'a game da gaskiyar cewa rashin ciki ba laifin kowa ba ne, da kuma cewa abubuwa suna samun kyau tare da lokaci. "Don haka kada ku yanke hukunci kan baƙin cikin ku, ko kuma ku yi ƙoƙarin yin tunanin hanyar ku," in ji shi. "Bari ya gudana a cikin raƙuman ruwa wanda ya zo cikin su, kuma a ba shi damar sararin da ya dace. Sannan, da zarar kun sami damar, yi ƙoƙarin gane kyawun yadda kuka mayar da kan ku daban daban fiye da yadda kuke a da." (Masu Alaka: Shawn Johnson Ya Fada Game da Bacewar Zuciyarta A cikin Bidiyon Tafiya)

Watakila wannan shine mafi girman abin ɗauka daga saƙon Van Der Beek: Ana iya samun kyakkyawa da farin ciki a cikin tsarin waraka.

"Wasu canje-canjen da muke yi a hankali, wasu muna yin ne domin sararin samaniya ya farfashe mu, amma ko ta yaya, waɗannan canje-canjen na iya zama kyauta," ya rubuta. "Ma'aurata da yawa suna kusantar juna fiye da kowane lokaci. Iyaye da yawa sun fahimci sha'awar zurfafa don yaro fiye da da. Kuma da yawa, da yawa, ma'aurata da yawa suna ci gaba da samun farin ciki, lafiya, kyawawan jarirai bayan haka (kuma galibi da sauri sosai- gargadi). "

Yayin da yake fama da baƙin ciki na iya zama da wahala, Van Der Beek ya ce gaskata waɗanda za su zama jarirai, “mai ba da gudummawa ga wannan ɗan gajeren tafiya don amfanin iyaye,” yana ba shi kwanciyar hankali. Ya ƙare sakonsa ta hanyar ƙarfafa wasu su nemo da raba wani abu mai kyau da suka riƙe yayin da suke fuskantar irin wannan ƙwarewar.

Idan kai ko wani daga cikin ku yana fama da asarar ciki, Dokta Williams yana da shawara mai zuwa: "Abu ne na dabi'a a ji kaɗaici bayan asara. Sanin yadda asarar ciki ya zama ruwan dare gama gari, da kuma cewa dangi da abokai da yawa sun shiga ciki, zai iya zama taimako. Ƙungiyoyin tallafi da rabawa tare da wasu na iya zama masu fa'ida. "

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