Yi Babban Canjin Rayuwa

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Jin haushi don yin canji a rayuwar ku, amma ba tabbata ba idan kuna shirye don motsawa, canza aiki ko in ba haka ba ku inganta hanyoyin yin abubuwa? Ga wasu alamun da ke nuna cewa kun shirya don yin babban canjin rayuwa:

Yi canji idan… .Ka tsinci kanka cikin mafarki da jinkiri fiye da yadda aka saba.

Rachna D. Jain, Psy.D, masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam kuma ƙwararren kocin rayuwa a Columbia, Md. Waɗannan mafarkin rana suna jin daɗi sosai fiye da abin da ke faruwa. a cikin ainihin rayuwar ku da za ku iya samun wahalar ɗaukar mataki a duniyar gaske. Alal misali, idan ba ka jin daɗi a wurin aiki, za ka iya ciyar da lokaci mai yawa don yin mafarki game da abin da zai zama kamar samun sabon shugaba ko kasuwancinka da ka fadi a baya a kan aikin. Kula da hankali ga abin da kuke hasashe. "Idan kuka ci gaba da yin mafarkin game da abu ɗaya, wannan alama ce ga abin da kuke buƙatar canzawa," in ji Jain.

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Yi canji idan…

Samun wahalar fitar da kanku daga kan gado ko fargabar zuwa aiki kowace rana alama ce tabbatacciya cewa kuna buƙatar canjin rayuwa. Wataƙila ba za ku ma san yadda kuke rashin farin ciki ba idan abubuwa a hankali suna ƙaruwa a kan lokaci. Yin magana da abokai da dangi na iya taimaka muku gano ko abin da kuke ji na ɗan lokaci ne ko kuma wani ɓangare na tsarin dogon lokaci, in ji Christine D'Amico, MA, kociyan canjin rayuwa a San Diego. "Wata abokina ta tambayi 'ya'yanta tsawon lokacin da ba ta son aikinta," in ji ta. "Sun gaya mata, 'Mama, ba za mu iya tuna lokacin da kuka yi son aikinku ba.' "

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Yi canji idan… Ba ku da hutawa ko rashin gamsuwa.

Kasancewa da baƙin ciki ba shine kawai alamar da kuke buƙatar canjin rayuwa ba. Sauƙaƙan rashin gamsuwa da raɗaɗi shima alama ce da ke nuna cewa wani abu bai dace ba. "Ina ganin wannan sau da yawa tare da matan da ke buƙatar canji a alaƙar su," in ji Jain. "Kuna iya tunanin, 'Saurayina yana da kyau, amma akwai wani abu da ya ɓace.' Ko 'Babu abin da ba daidai ba, amma wannan baya jin daidai.' "Rashin jin daɗi yawanci alama ce da ke nuna cewa a ƙasa kuna sane da canjin rayuwa, amma ba ku gano abin da yake ba tukuna.

Hanya ɗaya ta yin hakan ita ce yin rubutu ko kuma kawai tunanin rayuwar ku mai kyau. Jain ya ce "Kirkirar hangen nesa game da rayuwar ku mai kyau: yadda kuke kama, abin da kuke sakawa, abin da kuke ci don karin kumallo da safe, komai," in ji Jain. Kwatanta gaskiya da kyakkyawar rayuwar ku na iya bayyana abin da zai iya amfani da girgiza.

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Yi canji idan… Kuna da mafarkin da bai cika ba ko babban burin rayuwa wanda ba ku kusa kaiwa gare ku ba fiye da shekara ɗaya ko biyu da suka gabata.

Wataƙila kun san ainihin yadda rayuwar ku ta dace take - ba ku taɓa yin komai game da shi ba tukuna. Babban dalilin da yasa mutane suka daina bin burinsu? Tsoro. D'Amico ya ce "Yin babban shimfida mai ban sha'awa yana da ban tsoro, kuma wannan tsoro alama ce mai kyau-idan ta yi muku kamar ba a saba ba, hakan bai yi kyau ba," in ji D'Amico. "Bi tsoron-wannan shine alkiblar da kuke buƙatar tafiya."

Bayan fa'idodin bayyane-aikin da kuke so, sabon dangantaka, ingantaccen yanayi-yin babban canji na iya haɓaka rayuwar ku ta wasu hanyoyi kuma. "Rayuwa ta babban canji yana koya muku game da iyawar ku," in ji Jain. "Kuna iya koyan cewa kun fi ƙarfi, wayo da himma fiye da yadda kuke zato, haka nan kuna samun mafi girman 'yancin kai da sarrafa rayuwar ku."

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