Keɓe kansa ya sanya ku sha'awar manyan canje-canjen rayuwa, amma ya kamata ku bi ta hanyar?

Wadatacce

• Farkon Aiki
• Auna Shi
• Kunna Alkali da Juri'a
• Kada ku faɗi don "Arrival Fallacy"
• Yi Tunani Game da Tsawon Lokaci
• A ƙarshe, Yi La'akari da Kudin Rashin Aiki
• Bita don

Akwai yuwuwar, a yanzu kuna tunanin yadda zai yi kyau ku shiga cikin babban gida tare da kyakkyawan bayan gida. Ko mafarkin rana game da cire aikinku don wani abu mai gamsarwa. Ko tunanin cewa dangantakar ku na iya amfani da sabuntawa. Domin idan akwai abu daya da ke sa mutane son yin motsi, duk wani motsi, ana gudanar da shi a wuri. Kuma yaro, yawancin mutane sun makale.

A cikin shekara da rabi da suka gabata, wataƙila kwanakinku sun zama madaidaiciya, madaidaicin madaidaicin aiki, dafa abinci, tsaftacewa, da kula da yaranku ko dabbobin gida. Canza hanya ya fara jin kamar abin da kawai zai iya ceton hankalin ku. Wannan yana da cikakkiyar ma'ana, in ji Jacqueline K. Gollan, Ph.D., farfesa a ilimin tabin hankali da ilimin halayyar ɗabi'a a Makarantar Medicine ta Feinberg a Jami'ar Arewa maso yamma, wanda ke nazarin yanke shawara. "Canji yana gayyatar sabon abu a cikin rayuwar mu kuma yana iya rage gajiya," in ji ta.

Don haka mutane da yawa sun yi wasu motsin girgizar ƙasa. Kusan mutane miliyan 9 sun ƙaura a cikin 2020, a cewar Associationungiyar Realtors ta ƙasa. Kashi hamsin da biyu cikin dari na ma’aikata suna tunanin sauya aiki, kuma kashi 44 cikin 100 suna da tsare-tsaren yin hakan, a cewar wani kwanan nan Kamfanin Mai sauri-Harris zabe. Dangantaka tana farawa da ƙarewa. Jama'a na neman soyayya (Yawan ayyukan masu amfani da Dating.com ya karu da kashi 88 tun bayan barkewar cutar), suna yin shirye-shiryen yin aure (masu sayar da kayan kwalliya a duk fadin kasar sun ba da rahoton cewa tallace-tallacen zoben alkawari na karuwa), da kuma kiransa ya daina (67 bisa dari na Masu amfani da Dating.com sun ce sun rabu da juna a bara).

Wannan hakika lokaci ne na hisabi, in ji Melody Wilding, farfesa a kan halayen ɗan adam, kocin zartarwa, kuma marubucin sabon littafin. Amince da Kanka (Saya It, $34, amazon.com), wanda ya lura cewa kashi 80 na abokan cinikinta suna yin canje-canje a rayuwarsu. "Barkewar cutar ta sa mutane da yawa suna tambaya, 'Shin ina yin abin da nake so da gaske kuma ina amfani da lokacina ta hanyar da ta gamsar?'" In ji ta. "Abu ɗaya, muna da ƙarin lokaci don yin bimbini lokacin da muke gida. Fiye da haka, girman yanayin ya nuna yadda rayuwa mai rauni take kuma lokacin mu yana da iyaka. Wannan ya ba mu tunanin gaggawa kuma ya sanya mu neman karin ma'ana. "

Farkon Aiki

Yana da mahimmanci a lura cewa ba duk canje-canjen da aka yi a wannan lokacin ba ne aka yi ta zaɓi. COVID-19 shine babban rushewa. Mutane sun rasa ayyuka da masoyansu. Matsalar kuɗi ta tilasta wa wasu ƙaura. Miliyoyin mata sun bar ma'aikata don kula da yaransu yayin kulle -kullen. Amma ga waɗanda suka yi sa'ar gwada wani abu daban da son rai, sha'awar yin hakan ta yi zafi.

Akwai dalilin ilimin halittu na wannan, masana sun ce: Tsayawa a tsaye baya cikin yanayin mu. "Bincike ya nuna cewa mutane suna da son kai ga aiki, koda kuwa hakan bai dace da su ba," in ji Gollan. "Muna yawan tunanin abin da za mu iya yi don inganta rayuwarmu." Yin yunƙurin ya zama wanda aka fi so ba tare da yin komai ba kwata-kwata, in ji ta, kodayake rashin aiki a wasu lokuta shine mafi kyawun zaɓi.

Rikicin COVID kuma ya kasance farkon farawa don motsawar da mutane ke tunani akai. "Akwai matakai na canji," in ji Wilding. "Na farko shi ne riga-kafi - lokacin da ba ku da niyyar yin hakan. Sa'an nan kuma tunani ya zo, lokacin da kuka fara tunani da gaske game da canjin. Na yi imani da cutar ta zama sanadin da ta sauya mutane daga waɗannan matakan farko zuwa farkon. inda suka shirya kuma suka jajirce don daukar mataki. " (Mai alaƙa: Ta yaya keɓewa zai iya yin tasiri ga lafiyar hankalin ku - don mafi kyau)

Wannan na iya zama mai kyau - kuma mara kyau. Lokacin da aka yi shi don dalilan da suka dace, canji na iya sa ku farin ciki da koshin lafiya. Yana sanya ku a wuri mafi kyau kuma "yana tabbatar da abin da kuke iya," in ji Wilding. Dabarar ita ce tantance abin da motsi zai biya da kuma waɗanda za su koma baya. "Muna yawan tunanin cewa canji zai inganta abubuwa kuma ya magance matsalolinmu," in ji Wilding. "Amma hakan ba koyaushe bane." Ga yadda ake sanin lokacin da za a yi tsalle.

Auna Shi

Don sanin idan canji yana da ƙima, fara da shimfida fa'idodi da rashin amfanin yin canjin sannan kuyi haka don rashin yin sa, in ji Gollan. "Idan kuna tunanin sauya aiki, doka mai sauƙi don yanke hukunci idan lokaci yayi daidai shine lokacin da adadin munanan kwanaki ya zarce adadin masu kyau," in ji Wilding.

Wata alama: Idan kun yi ƙoƙarin inganta yanayin - wataƙila kun tattauna da manajan ku ko kuma ku ba da kan ku don ɗaukar sabbin nauyi don haɓaka ƙwarewar ku - amma ba ku samu ko'ina ba. "Idan har yanzu ba ku girma a cikin rawar ku kuma babu wata dama ta gaske don yin hakan, lokaci ne mai kyau don yin canji," in ji Wilding.

Kunna Alkali da Juri'a

Wannan yana taimakawa musamman ga manyan yanke shawara. Bari mu ce kuna tunani game da tumɓuke kanku kuma ku ƙaura zuwa wani yanki mai ɗumi na ƙasar. Kafin yin wani abu mai tsauri, "yanke hukunci zuwa kotu," in ji Gollan. Samu bayanai da yawa kamar yadda za ku iya game da ƙaura - farashin gidaje a cikin sabon yanki, yuwuwar aiki a can, nau'ikan damar da za ku samu don saduwa da mutane da yin sabbin abokai - sannan ku sake duba ɓangarorin daidaitawa, kamar kai alkali ne, yayin da kake kokarin yin shari'a a kansa. Wannan zai ba ku cikakken hoto kuma ya taimaka muku ganin yanayin daga kowane kusurwa, in ji ta. (Za ku so ku matsa ta hanyar wannan tsari idan kun yanke shawarar shiga ƙungiyar #VanLife.)

Kada ku faɗi don "Arrival Fallacy"

Canza yanayin ba zai inganta rayuwar ku da sihiri ba. "Mutane suna tunanin da zarar sun isa wani sabon abu [abin da masana ke kira fallacy isowa], za su yi farin ciki ta atomatik sakamakon hakan. Amma wannan tunanin fata ne," in ji Wilding. "Wataƙila kuna ƙoƙarin guje wa matsalolin da za ku sake haɗuwa da su a wani lokaci." Maimakon haka, yi aiki kan haɓaka dabarun da kuke buƙata don warware matsalar, in ji ta. "Tabbatar cewa kuna gudu zuwa wata dama maimakon gujewa matsala," in ji ta. (Mai alaƙa: Yadda ake Canja Rayuwarku da Kyau - Ba tare da Faɗawa ba)

Yi Tunani Game da Tsawon Lokaci

Tabbas, wannan sabuwar motar tana da kyau a yau. Amma menene game da watanni shida daga yanzu, lokacin da biyan kuɗi da lissafin inshora ke tarawa? Ko kuma wataƙila ba za ku ƙarasa tuƙa shi kamar yadda kuke tsammani za ku yi ba. Kafin ku yi canji, ku tambayi kanku: "Me zai faru matakai uku daga layin? Shin na shirya don wannan yiwuwar?" in ji Gollan.(Masu Alaka: Matakai guda 2 da kuke buƙatar ɗauka idan kuna son yin Babban Canjin Rayuwa)

A ƙarshe, Yi La'akari da Kudin Rashin Aiki

Rashin yin canji ma yana kawo hadari, in ji Wilding. Kuna iya tunani: Na riga na sanya lokaci mai yawa a cikin wannan aikin ko wannan alaƙar, don haka ba zan iya canza abubuwa yanzu ba.

"Amma farashin zama a wurin zai iya zama farin cikin ku da jin daɗin ku. Kuma wannan tsada ne da ya yi yawa," in ji ta. "Kwarai ka yi tunanin abin da rashin yin motsi zai haifar maka."

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