Nayi Wa'azin Hankalin Jiki - Kuma Na zurfafa Cikin Rikicin Abincina Lokaci Guda

Wadatacce

• "F * ck ku, al'adun abinci!" Cikin farin ciki na ce. “Na fi sani yanzu. Na koyi darasi na.”
• Amma inda batun dawo da matsalar cin abinci yake, rubutun - {textend} koda an haddace shi - {textend} ba zai maye gurbin aikin ba
• "Ban fahimci yadda mutane suke yanke shawara lokacin cin abinci ba," Na yi ikirari ga mai ilimin kwantar da hankalina. Ido ya lumshe cike da damuwa
• Idan hakan gaskiya ne, da ba zan zauna a nan ba, tare da gaya muku gaskiyar rashin jin daɗi game da murmurewa: Babu gajerun hanyoyi, babu mantras, kuma babu saurin gyarawa.
• ED dina yana son naïveté na Insta-friendly jiki positivity, leverage wannan mafarki na aminci ya yaudare ni cikin tunanin ni ke iko, cewa na fi duka wannan
• Da yawa daga cikin masu fada a ji da kuke kallo suna da daidaito daidai gwargwado amma masu ƙarfin hali sosai kamar haka

Abin da kuka yi imani da shi har yanzu ba zai iya warkar da cutar tabin hankali ba.

Ba kasafai nake rubutu game da tabin hankali ba lokacin da abubuwa suke “sabo.”

Ba a cikin shekaru biyu da suka gabata ba. Na fi son barin abubuwa su yi ruwa, kuma don tabbatar da cewa kalmomin da na zaɓa suna ƙarfafawa, haɓakawa, kuma mafi mahimmanci, an warware su.

Na fi son bayar da shawara yayin da nake wani gefen wani abu - {textend} galibi saboda na san cewa ina da wani nauyi a wuyan masu karatu, don tabbatar da cewa na tsunduma su zuwa madaidaiciyar hanya. Na san wannan rukunin yanar gizon na iya zama hanyar rayuwa ga mutanen da suke buƙatar wani abu mai bege. Ina kokarin tuna hakan.

Amma wani lokacin, lokacin da na shirya wannan bege ga masu sauraro, zan iya yaudarar kaina da tunani cewa na fasa lambar kuma, sabili da haka, na iya barin gwagwarmaya a baya. Cikakkiyar kammalawa ga babin, kamar yadda yake.

"Na fi sani yanzu," Ina tunani a cikin kaina. "Na koyi darasi na."

Idan kun kasance ga Google "tasirin transgender na jiki," Ina da tabbacin fiye da wasu abubuwan da na rubuta zasu zo.

An yi hira da ni don kwasfan fayiloli da labarai, kuma na ɗaga sama a matsayin misali na mutumin da ya wuce - {textend} a cikin sauƙaƙan ra'ayi cikin hangen nesa da bin asusun Insta na dama - {textend} ya zo don sake bayyana alaƙar sa da abinci da jikinsa.

Na rubuta duka ukun nan. Abin farin ciki.

Wancan sigar abubuwan shine wanda nake so, saboda yana da sauki da sanyaya zuciya. Aya daga cikin haske, mai haske, kuma ni na sami nasara, kasancewar na sami ci gaba fiye da kowane abu na duniya, damuwa mara kyau game da alamomi na shimfiɗawa ko cin ice cream don karin kumallo.

"F * ck ku, al'adun abinci!" Cikin farin ciki na ce. “Na fi sani yanzu. Na koyi darasi na.”

Lokacin da kake mai ba da shawara game da lafiyar hankali da rubutu, musamman ta irin wannan hanyar ta jama'a, yana da sauƙi ka ruɗi kanka da tunanin cewa kana da duk amsoshin matsalolinka.

Amma wannan rudani na iko da wayewar kai shine daidai - {textend} mafarki ne, kuma mayaudari ne a wancan.

Abu ne mai sauki in nuna shekarun da na shafe a wannan sararin, da duk abin da na buga game da wannan ainihin abin, kuma nace ina da abubuwa a karkashin su. Ba nawa bane na farko, pal. Ko na biyu. Na uku. Na Hudu. (Na samu kwarewa a gefena.)

Idan zan iya tallafawa wasu ta hanyar murmurewarsu, tabbas zan iya gudanar da aikina. Ko da lokacin da nake rubuta wannan, Na san cewa abin ba'a ne - {textend} bayar da shawarwari masu kyau ya fi sauƙi fiye da amfani da shi ga kanku, musamman ma inda cutar tabin hankali ta shafi.

Amma sigar da na fi so ita ce wacce ta faɗa a cikin wannan hirar, “Lokacin da kuka isa ɗaya gefen duk abin da kuke fama da shi, za ku ga cewa rashin ɗaukar waɗannan damar - {textend} yana rayuwa ne kawai rabin rayuwar da za ku iya rayuwa - {textend} ta fi ban tsoro fiye da duk wani bala'i da kuke tunanin zai iya zuwa daga cin wannan yanki biredin ko ma mene ne. ”

In ji mutumin da yake, da gaske da gaske, yake rayuwa cikin wannan tsoro a cikin rayuwar rabin rayuwa daidai wannan lokacin.

Tasirin jiki ya zama kamar alaƙar da na yi kurciya da ita a irin wannan ƙuruciya, tun kafin na san kaina ko ma matsalar cin abincin na. Kuma da zarar na kasance cikin zurfin ciki, da kasancewa kaina a matsayin mai nasara, ban san yadda zan koma baya ba don neman taimako.

Ina so in yi imani da shi kamar son zuciya ne zan iya fada a gaban madubi sau da yawa - {textend} “dukkan jiki jikin kirki ne! dukkan jiki jikunan kirki ne! dukkan jiki jikunan kirki ne! ” - {rubutu] da POOF! An cire min wani laifi, kunya, ko tsoro da nake ji game da abinci ko jikina.

Zan iya faɗin duk abin da ya dace, kamar rubutun da na sake maimaitawa, kuma ina son ra'ayin da hoton kaina lokacin da na leƙa ta waɗancan ruwan tabarau masu launin shuɗi.

Amma inda batun dawo da matsalar cin abinci yake, rubutun - {textend} koda an haddace shi - {textend} ba zai maye gurbin aikin ba

Kuma babu adadin memes na Instagram da hotunan kitsen ciki wanda zai iya taɓa tsoffin, raunuka masu raɗaɗi waɗanda suka sanya abinci a matsayin maƙiyina, da jikina a matsayin wurin yaƙi.

Abin da kawai za a ce, ban dawo dasu ba. Ba a ma fara aikin ba.

A zahiri, nayi amfani da kusancina ga wurare masu kyau na jiki don yin watsi da ainihin ra'ayin da nake buƙatar taimako - {textend} kuma ina biyan farashin a zahiri, a hankali, da kuma a halin yanzu.

Na sanya kayan aiki kamar kayan haɗi, don tsara hoton kaina wanda nake so in kasance, kuma matsalar cin abincin ta ta bayyana a cikin ra'ayin cewa zan iya dakatar da gaskiyar rashin lafiya ta kawai ta hanyar magance kafofin watsa labarun ta yadda ya dace.

Fahimtata game da tasirin jiki - {textend} da ƙari, tushenta a cikin karɓar mai da yanci - {textend} ba ta da zurfi sosai a mafi kyau, amma kawai saboda rashin cin abincin na ya ci gaba muddin na ci gaba da tunanin da na fi sani. Wannan wata hanya ce ta shawo kaina cewa ni ke iko, cewa na fi wayo na wayo.

Rikicin na da wata sha'awar da ta sa ni cikin tunanin aminci. Ba zan iya samun matsalar rashin cin abinci ba, na yi tunani - {textend} ya lalata cin abinci, wataƙila, amma wanene ba ya? Ba zan iya ba saboda ina samo asali. Kamar dai cutar tabin hankali ta taɓa ba da f * * k game da littattafan da kuka karanta.

Rikicin cin abinci yana da hanyar yin sintiri a kanku. Wannan fahimtar sabuwa ce a gareni - {textend} ba don ban fahimci hakan ba, amma saboda kawai na yarda da ita ne a cikin yanayin kwarewar rayuwata a fewan kwanakin da suka gabata.

Kuma ina fata zan iya cewa wannan epiphany tazo wurina da kaina, tana bani kwarin gwiwa na dawo da rayuwata. Amma babu irin wannan jaruntaka a nan. Ya zo saman ne kawai saboda likitana ya yi tambayoyin da suka dace yayin duba lafiyata, kuma aikin jinina ya bayyana abin da nake tsoron zama gaskiya - {textend} jikina yana zuwa ya sake zama cikin rashin isasshen abinci, mai ƙarancin abinci.

"Ban fahimci yadda mutane suke yanke shawara lokacin cin abinci ba," Na yi ikirari ga mai ilimin kwantar da hankalina. Ido ya lumshe cike da damuwa

“Suna cin abinci lokacin da suke jin yunwa, Sam,” ya ce a hankali.

A wani lokaci ko wani, na manta da wannan sauki, ainihin gaskiyar. Akwai wata dabara a jiki, wacce aka yi niyyar yi mini jagora, kuma zan yanke duk wata alaka da ita gaba daya.

Ba na raba wannan a matsayin zargi na ga kaina, amma dai, azaman gaskiya mai sauƙi: Da yawa daga cikinmu waɗanda aka yaba wa fuskokin murmurewa har yanzu, a hanyoyi da yawa, daidai lokacin farin ciki tare da ku.

Wasu lokuta abin da kuke gani ba hoton nasara bane, a'a, karamin yanki ne na karin bayani, rikitarwa mai rikitarwa wanda muke ta hankula muna kokarin hadawa ta bayan fage, ta yadda babu wanda zai lura muna cikin gungu.

Abinda na dawo dashi na rashin cin abinci, a gaskiya, a farkon farawa. Kwanan nan na daina amfani da “cin abinci mara kyau” don rufe gaskiyar, kuma wannan safiyar, a ƙarshe na yi magana da likitan abinci wanda ya ƙware a kan EDs.

Yau da safe.

Yau, a zahiri, ita ce ranar farko ta ainihi ta dawowa. Hakan ya kasance shekaru uku bayan haka, ta hanyar, na rubuta waɗannan kalmomin: “Babu sauran hujjoji. Babu sauran uzuri. Ba wata rana ba ... wannan ba shi ne iko ba. ”

Na san akwai masu karatu da zasu iya duba aikina a cikin tasirin jiki kuma sun fahimci tunanin da aka fahimta cewa rikicewar abinci (ko kowane irin ƙyamar jiki ko ƙyamar abinci) su ne kawai laushin da muke tunani (ko a halin da nake ciki, rubuta) kanmu daga na.

Idan hakan gaskiya ne, da ba zan zauna a nan ba, tare da gaya muku gaskiyar rashin jin daɗi game da murmurewa: Babu gajerun hanyoyi, babu mantras, kuma babu saurin gyarawa.

Kuma kamar yadda muke kawata ra'ayin samun sauƙin son kai - {textend} kamar dai shi cikakke ne guda ɗaya daga sama - {textend} mun rasa aikin zurfin da dole ne a yi a cikin kanmu, cewa babu wani ƙyalli, mai faɗakarwa zamu sake sauyawa.

Cutar ba a sama take ba, kuma don bugun zuciyarta, dole ne mu zurfafa.

Wannan gaskiya ce mai ban tsoro da rashin kwanciyar hankali da zan zo na kama - {textend} na al'ada, tasirin ruwa a jiki zai iya buɗe ƙofar ya gayyace mu ciki, amma ya rage namu mu yi ainihin aikin dawo da lafiya.

Kuma wannan ba zai fara daga waje ba, amma a cikin mu. Maidowa aiki ne mai gudana wanda dole ne mu zabi kowace rana, da gangan da kuma ƙarfin zuciya, tare da yin gaskiya mai ƙarfi ga kanmu da tsarin tallafinmu kamar yadda mutum zai iya.

Duk yadda muka tsara hanyoyin sadarwar mu domin tunatar damu inda muke son zama, hangen nesan da muke kirkira ba zai taba maye gurbin gaskiyar da muke ciki ba.

Kamar yadda yake faruwa a lokuta da dama game da matsalar cin abinci, Ina farga, burin - {textend} cewa “menene zai iya zama” - {textend} don haka yakan zama tilas ne, tursasa mahaukaci, inda muke rayuwa a nan gaba wanda ba zamu taɓa zuwa ba a.

Kuma sai dai idan mun sadaukar da kanmu don kasancewa cikin ƙasa a halin yanzu, har ma (kuma musamman) lokacin da rashin jin daɗin kasancewa a nan, za mu bar ikonmu kuma mu faɗa ƙarƙashin lamuransa.

ED dina yana son naïveté na Insta-friendly jiki positivity, leverage wannan mafarki na aminci ya yaudare ni cikin tunanin ni ke iko, cewa na fi duka wannan

Kuma ba zan iya cewa na yi mamakin hakan ba - {textend} EDs suna kama da yawa daga abubuwan da muke so (ice cream, yoga, fashion) kuma suna juya su akan mu ta wata hanya.

Ba ni da dukkan amsoshi, sai dai in faɗi wannan: Mu ayyukan ci gaba ne, dukkanmu, har ma da waɗanda kuke duban su.

Matsayi shine wurin kadaici da zama, kuma kadaici, ina tsammanin, shine inda matsalar cin abinci (da yawancin cututtukan hankali) galibi ke bunƙasa. Na jima a nan, na yi shiru ina jiran faduwa ko don ta durkushe a karkashina - {textend} duk wacce ta fara.

Yayinda na fara zuriyata, a hankali nake saukowa daga matattakalar kuma na shiga cikin hasken murmurewa na, zan rungumi gaskiyar da kowane ɗayan mu yake buƙatar tunawa: Yana da kyau kada ku kasance lafiya.

Yana da kyau ba ku da duk amsoshin, koda kuwa sauran duniya suna tsammanin ku, koda kuwa kuna tsammanin kanka zuwa.

Ba ni ba ne, kamar yadda wasu mutane suka siffanta ni, “fuskar mai tasirin transgender jiki.” Idan nine, bana son zama - {textend} Bana son kowannenmu ya kasance idan hakan yana nufin ba a yarda mu zama mutane ba.

Ina so ku goge wannan hoton daga zuciyar ku kuma, a maimakon haka, ku san inda na kasance jiya: Jinginawa kan girgiza abinci don ƙaunatacciyar rayuwa (a zahiri - {textend} ya kiyaye ni a raye waɗannan fewan watannin da suka gabata), ban yi wanka ba har sau uku. kwanaki, yayin rubuta kalmomin "Ina tsammanin ina bukatar taimako."

Da yawa daga cikin masu fada a ji da kuke kallo suna da daidaito daidai gwargwado amma masu ƙarfin hali sosai kamar haka

Muna yin kowace rana, ko muna da hoton hoto don tabbatar da abin ya faru ko a'a. (Wasu daga cikinmu suna da matani na rukuni, kuma sun aminta da ni, dukkanmu muna kan Hot Mess Express tare. Wa'adi.)

Idan kun ji kamar ba a ba ku damar "kasawa ba" (ko kuma a ce, kuna da ajizai, rikici, ko da f * * ked a murmurewa), Ina so in ba ku izinin rayuwa da gaskiyar, tare da kowane abu na gaskiya da raunin da kake buƙata.

Yana da kyau barin barin yin murmurewa. Kuma ku amince da ni, Na san girman tambayar da ke, saboda wannan aikin ya kasance mayafin tsaro na (kuma tushen musun ta) don haka, ya daɗe.

Kuna iya mika wuya ga shakka, tsoro, da rashin jin daɗin da ke tattare da yin aikin, kuma ku ba wa kanku izinin zama mutum. Kuna iya barin wannan ikon kuma - {textend} An fa tolda mani, duk da haka - {textend} duk zaiyi kyau.

Kuma wannan ƙungiyar mai ban mamaki na mayaƙan warkewa waɗanda muka ƙirƙira tare da memes ɗinmu, ra'ayoyinmu masu ban sha'awa, da abubuwan girbinmu? Za mu kasance a nan, muna jira don tallafa muku.

Ba zan iya cewa na san wannan ba tabbatacce (sannu, Rana ta Daya), amma ina da tsananin shakku cewa irin wannan gaskiyar ita ce inda ainihin ci gaban yake faruwa. Kuma duk inda akwai ci gaba, Na sami, anan ne warkarwa ke farawa da gaske.

Kuma wannan shine abin da muka cancanta, kowane ɗayanmu. Ba nau'in warkewa bane, amma abubuwa masu zurfi.

Ina son hakan a gare ni. Ina son hakan ne a gare mu duka.

Wannan labarin ya fara bayyana anan cikin Janairu 2019.

Sam Dylan Finch shine mai kula da lafiyar hankali da yanayin edita a Healthline. Shima mai rubutun ra'ayin yanar gizo ne a baya Bari abubuwan Queer Up Up !, inda yake rubutu game da lafiyar hankali, lafiyar jiki, da LGBTQ + ainihi. A matsayinsa na mai ba da shawara, yana da sha'awar gina al'umma don mutane cikin murmurewa. Kuna iya samun sa akan Twitter, Instagram, da Facebook, ko ƙarin koyo a samdylanfinch.com.