Yadda Ake Soyayya Da Matsayin Jima'i Mai Ruwa

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• Tushen Matsayin Jima'i Spooning
• 1. Yana sanyi.
• 2. Yana da kyau don motsa jiki.
• 3. Kuna iya wasa da ƙarfi.
• 4. Hanya ce ta buga yankunan jin daɗin ciki.
• 5. Bude tafsiri.
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Matsayin jima'i na spooning yana ga kowa da kowa, a zahiri. Ba wai kawai yana da kyau ga hetero, jinsi ɗaya, da ma'aurata marasa jituwa ba, amma kuma ana iya gyara shi tare da kusan bambance-bambance marasa iyaka dangane da abubuwan da kuke so. Ƙarfafawa ya zama dole a gare ku? Babu matsala. Kamar ɗan shigar bayan gida? Matsayin jima'i na spooning ya rufe ku.

Megan Fleming, Ph.D., likitan jinsi da malami ya ce "Ta'aziya da haɗin kai sun bambanta wannan matsayin." "Matsayin yana sanya ku daidai kusa da abokin tarayya kuma yana ba da cikakkiyar matakin hulɗar fata. Cokali kuma yana sauƙaƙa don sumbatar wuyansa, magana, da kuma raɗaɗi."

Har ila yau, matsayi ne da ke barin kowa da kowa. Don haka, ko menene matsayin cokali, wannan matsayi yana tabbatar da ƙara jin daɗin ku. Karanta don gano dalilin da yasa matsi na jima'i yakamata ya zama ɗaya daga cikin matsayin jima'i da kuka fi so - ƙari hanyoyin da za a iya canza shi don ƙarin jin daɗi, a cewar masana.

Tushen Matsayin Jima'i Spooning

A mafi mahimmancin sa, matsayin cokali na jima'i shine lokacin da ku da abokin tarayya kuke kwanciya, ku biyu kuna a gefenku kuma kuna fuskantar hanya guda, tare da ɗaya abokin tarayya (na baya ko babban cokali) a baya daya, in ji Alexandra. Fine, co-kafa kuma Shugaba na Dame Products.

"Idan kana yin jima'i a wurin shan cokali, yawanci duk wanda ke shiga shi ne cokali na baya ko babban cokali, sannan za su iya shiga karamin cokali na gaba," in ji Fine. Haɗuwa na iya faruwa a farji ko a zahiri, tare da kayan wasa ko ba tare da su ba, in ji Ashley Cobb, malamin wasan jima'i da ƙwararren masanin Lovehoney. (Kuma yana da kyau a lura cewa girman jiki ba shi da alaƙa da wanda ke aiki a matsayin cokali "babban" ko "karamin".)

Duk hanyar da kuka zaɓa don ba da hankali, "wannan matsayi yana ba da ma'anar kusanci da damar samun kuzarin jiki," in ji Fleming. Sauti kyawawan kyau, dama? Ci gaba da karatu don ƙarin dalilai don son matsayin jima'i na cokali.

1. Yana sanyi.

Matsayin jima'i na cokali yana da kusanci kuma baya buƙatar motsa jiki mai yawa - don haka yana da kyau da safe ko maraice daidai kafin yin barci, in ji Fleming. (Mahimmanci, akasin waɗannan matsayi na jima'i wanda ya ninka a matsayin motsa jiki.)

"Ba na so in faɗi matsayi mafi ƙasƙanci saboda wannan shine mafi kyawun ɓangaren game da shi," in ji Fine. "Tun da babu wanda zai riƙe nauyin jikinsu, za ku iya jin daɗin jin daɗin cikin sauƙi. Ko da kasancewa akan duk ƙafafu huɗu, cikin salon kare, kuna amfani da hannayenku da ƙafafunku don ɗaga jikin ku kuma ina tsammanin wanda zai iya shagaltar da shi daga jin dadi, ba lallai ne ku yi maganin hakan ba a cikin wurin cokali."

Spooning baya buƙatar aiki da yawa daga kowane abokin tarayya kuma yana ɗaya daga cikin 'yan matsayin jima'i waɗanda ke ba da cikakken haɗin jiki (karanta: allll ta taɓa jiki) ba tare da yin fa'ida ba, don haka zaku iya kusanci da abokin tarayya yayin da kuke jin daɗi da jin halitta.

2. Yana da kyau don motsa jiki.

Gaskiya mai daɗi (wanda da fatan kun riga kun sani): Biyu cikin mata uku ba sa cimma burin ƙarshe daga shiga ciki kawai, in ji Fleming. Wannan ya sa wannan matsayi mara hannu ya zama babban zaɓi ga mutanen da ke buƙatar motsa jiki don cimma inzali.

"Duk lokacin da kuke cikin wani matsayi inda akwai shigar azzakari daga baya, hakan yana sauƙaƙa muku ko abokin aikin ku samun damar yin amfani da al'aurar ku, wanda ina tsammanin shine wani dalilin da yasa wannan zai iya zama babban matsayi," in ji Fine. "Idan kun buɗe ƙafafunku kaɗan za ku iya taɓa kanku ko abokin tarayya na iya taɓa ku." (Har ila yau gwada waɗannan sauran matsayi na jima'i masu kyau don ƙarfafawa.)

"Bugu da ƙari, za ku iya amfani da vibrator cikin sauƙi a wannan matsayi, musamman wani abu da ke sawa a hannu ko kuma mai sauƙin riƙewa," in ji ta. Gwada ƙara jijjiga yatsa zuwa gauraya, kamar Dame Fin (Saya It, $85, dameproducts.com) ko harsashi vibe, kamar Lelo Mia 2 (Sayi It, $85, lelo.com).

3. Kuna iya wasa da ƙarfi.

Dukansu abokan za su iya daidaita zurfin shigar azzakari cikin farji a cikin spooning jima'i matsayi, ma'ana, ko dai abokin tarayya iya canza up da ikon tsauri da kuma daukar iko a kowane lokaci - idan aka kwatanta da cowgirl / mahayi-on-top ko mishan, misali, inda babban abokin tarayya. yana da dukkan iko.

Alal misali, "ana iya amfani da ƙaramin cokali na ƙafar sama a wannan matsayi don samar da kyakkyawan aiki ta hanyar nannade shi a kusa da ɗayan abokin tarayya," in ji Fleming. Wannan na iya ba ɗan ƙaramin coci ɗan ƙarin iko akan tafiya. Ko kuma, "idan ƙaramin cokali ya motsa ƙafar ƙafar su gaba ɗaya a buɗe don haka suna kan baya, abokin tarayya zai iya riƙe saman kafa, wanda ya ba su damar yin amfani."

Idan kuna so ku ci gaba da jin sanyi sosai, ƙaramin cokali na iya murƙushe gwiwoyin su zuwa kirjin su. "Za ku iya duka gwiwowin ku kuma ku sa abokin tarayya ya naɗe ku," in ji Fine. Ka yi tunanin wannan sigar a matsayin mafi ƙanƙanta, yayin da ɗaga kafa da nadewa na iya samun abubuwa kaɗan kaɗan. (Shawarwari: Idan kuna fuskantar matsala shiga ko zama cikin kowane irin bambancin wannan matsayin, gwada amfani da matashin matashin jiki don ɗaga kwatangwalo - ko na abokin aikin ku - kamar Pillo, Sayi Shi, $ 95, dameproducts.com.)

4. Hanya ce ta buga yankunan jin daɗin ciki.

Kyakkyawan jima'i wani bangare ne na kusurwa, in ji Fleming. Idan kuna da farji kuma kuna shiga cikin matsayin yin jima'i kamar ƙaramin cokali, akwai labari mai daɗi: Wannan kusurwar shiga ta al'ada tana karkatar da ƙashin ƙugu ta hanyar da ta dace don bugun yankuna masu lalata a cikin farji, in ji Cobb.

Wancan ne saboda, lokacin da kuke kwance a cikin cokali ɗaya na jima'i tare da torsos ɗinku a layi ɗaya (yi tunani: yadda zaku yi yayin bacci), wannan na iya sanya matsin lamba a bangon gaban farji - inda akwai tarin jijiya karshen, in ji Fine. Misali, G-spot yana da inci kaɗan a cikin ramin farji tare da wannan bango, kuma A-spot yana da ɗan zurfi.

Idan ba ku cikin wannan abin mamaki ba - ko kawai kuna son yin wasa tare da kwana - canza nisa tsakanin jikin ku shine mai canza wasa a cikin matsayi na jima'i. Misali, gwada jingina jikin jikinku gaba don haka ya fi dacewa da jikin abokin tarayya (kusan kamar salon doggy a kwance), in ji Fine. "Ka yi tunanin jikinka a matsayin agogo: Fara daga goma sha biyu sannan za ku iya matsawa zuwa karfe ɗaya kuma kuyi gwaji tare da kowane kusurwa kuma ku sami abin da ke aiki a gare ku da abokin tarayya."

5. Bude tafsiri.

Ba wai kawai wannan matsayin yana aiki ga kowane nau'in ma'aurata ba, har ma yana ba da kansa ga kerawa. "Ka yi tunanin duk hanyoyin da za ka iya matsawa zuwa wurin cokali," in ji Fleming. Matsayin jima'i na cokali shine babban matsayi don canzawa zuwa daga salon kauye ko salon doggy ta hanyar kama abokin zamanka da jujjuyawa zuwa gefe tare.

Matsayin cokali kuma baya buƙatar haɗawa da jima'i. ( Tunatarwa: Jima'i baya daidaita P-in-V! Yana iya zama duka game da baka, kayan hannu, ko ma al'aurar juna.) "Akwai hanyoyi da yawa don yin jima'i ban da shiga ciki," in ji Fine. Kuma wannan babban matsayi ne ga wannan kayan. "An matse kafafunku sama da juna don ku iya haɗa kafafunku kuma hakan na iya zama mai kyau ga rikicewa," in ji ta. "Babban cokali na iya isa hannunku a kusa ko a ƙasa don kutsawa cikin lambobi yayin da ƙaramin cokali zai iya danna baya ya shafa wa abokin tarayya. Ina tsammanin abu mafi kyau game da shan cokali shine kawai irin wannan wuri mai aminci don farawa."

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